The Academy Awards was an enchanting evening for Best Actress winner Natalie Portman – until Republican presidential hopeful Mike Huckabee slammed her publicly for being pregnant and single, stating that it is troubling when people see a “Natalie Portman or some other Hollywood starlet who boasts of, 'Hey look, you know, we're having children, we're not married.'"
The former Arkansas Governor not only tarnished the glow of Portman’s golden statuette, he delivered a sucker punch to single moms everywhere.
Portman has stated that she plans to marry the father of her baby. But shame on Huckabee and others who rip on the moral character of single mothers.
Many single moms are single by choice: they are women who are fulfilling the dream of having a child even though they have not found a life partner to start a family with. Typically these women are making a very conscious choice, have thought carefully about raising a child on their own, and are devoted parents. When politicians and people in the public limelight attempt to broadly shame single mothers, their messages gets transmitted not only to all single moms, but to their children. By blasting single moms they succeed only in strengthening social stigmas against these families, not in reducing single parenthood.
Just ask Circle of Moms’ Single Moms community member Stacey C. who writes: “I am single and never married. It was my choice. I was with my boys' dad for 9 1/2 years. He did not keep a job and I worked and supported my boys while he sat at home! The youngest went to daycare. I grew tired of it and told him we were done. My second boyfriend of 5 1/2 years was selfish and didn't work a lot. He had jobs, but again I was supporting him and his children. I have learned a lot from both of these individuals and the man that I am with now is none of the above. He is a loving and caring and a hard working man."
People who throw stones at single mothers, whether they chose from the start to take their journey solo, or simply wound up in the double parent role after leaving unhealthy relationships should consider putting their time and energy into the effort to encourage men to be good dads and caring spouses.
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