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What Teachers Wish They Could Tell Parents

With all the rules and regulations governing today's school systems, it's sometimes hard for parents and teachers to have frank and honest conversations. It's hard on parents, but there are things teachers wish they could say to parents, too.

It's been a while since I've been behind the teacher's desk in the classroom, but in solidarity to my dedicated in-the-classroom teacher friends, I'm sharing some of the things we wish we could say to parents.

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1. "Dealing with parents is sometimes more difficult than working with students." Margaret H., the Circle of Moms member who made this statement is both a mom and a teacher. She, like most teachers, knows there are bad teachers out there, and sometimes it's the teacher who is the classroom bully. Still, she hopes parents can learn to trust teachers more.

Most teachers really want to build a good partnership with parents, one that benefits the kids, but we're human. We get defensive when parents automatically assume we're the enemy.

2. "The 'I wish I had a job that gave me June, July, and August off' comment gets old, fast." When I was teaching, June was a time for recovery, July was a month to make plans for the next school year, and August was spent reading student files and preparing the classroom for the Fall. That is, when I wasn't teaching Summer school.

Teachers report they spend their Summers doing everything from working Summer jobs to pay the bills to teaching Summer school to cleaning up their classrooms to set them up for the next year!

3. "Parents do not understand that their child isn't the only one in the classroom at one time." To me the sign of a true teacher is what teacher Bethany H. said after making this statement. She said that she tries to see things through the eyes of a parent, because she too is a parent. She wonders what she would think if she was afraid her child's needs weren’t being met.

Please believe us when we say we know how important your child is to you, but that we want you to remember that to us, he's one of a classroom full of important children.

4. "So much emphasis is placed on testing that we forget why we are really there." Many teachers agree with Cherie R.'s comment and, like parents, are concerned about the lost teaching time that comes with preparing kids for standardized and standards-based testing. We don't want your child to feel stressed out and testing stresses out us, too.

Even teachers like a Circle of Moms member named Catherine, who believe testing is important in teaching kids to "think under pressure, problem solve, [and] use deductive reasoning," don’t think it should be the sole measure of a child's success.

5. "The truth is we are overworked, underpaid, [and] frequently disrespected." Though what Suzette S. says is in many cases true, we know parents can't do anything about the workload or the pay. As teacher-mom Cat B. explains, we continue to teach despite these challenges because we love what we do.

As for the respect issue, I agree with mom Jennifer V. who says it's a "give-and-take thing." As teachers, we can't expect parents and children to respect us if we don't show them respect, too. So, if you think we're being disrespectful, heed teacher Amy T.'s  suggestion to talk to the teacher first.

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SuzieBestwick38989 SuzieBestwick38989 3 years
I've had 40 years of dealing with teachers there are good ones and bad ones they are only human if half of them got off their pedestales they leave school to go to school then they go back to school they never go out to work in the real world and walk around with their head in a cloud and talk down to you, only half of them i said the other half treat you ilke you can approach them with out being defensive there are teachers you get along with and ones you dont thats part of life no matter where you go at the beginning of the year you always hear parents talking about who they hope to get for their child and who they don't want it doesn't matter what school you send your child to you will always come across a teacher you don't like and ones you have friends for life and hope your child gets them all the way through then they move on its the teachers fault if they can't say what they want to the parent only for us they wouldn't have a job and have to go out into the real world
doraHetrick doraHetrick 3 years
I have to agree with you on all points. I rarely saw a teacher who didn't work hard, care and do his/her best. In my 25 years in the classroom I have almost nothing but positive thoughts for the teachers I was privileged to meet.
AngelaHunter37744 AngelaHunter37744 3 years
Jill Herrick, yes I said that about teachers, it wasn't so long ago that the term Loco Parentis was used in schools, I can't help but note that this term has gone. When in the schools care, I expect them to be under school protection and care, whilst being taught. It has to be that way, some of these children are 4 year old, are you suggesting they just look after themselves? Parents teach children to behave their level best when not in OUR care, but if the school suggest that it is the parents fault children misbehave and they are sure that they would have our children perfectly well behaved, let them get on with it then? I have never sent my son to school with the idea that he can opt out of good behaviour if he wishes and am sick of teachers suggesting it is the parents who make their job difficult. Believe me, I've bent over backwards to help our school enough times to have to swallow that load of BS. Parents do over and above their job and they don't get paid at all.
So what about the teachers that are rude, ignore you, and tend to try to act as though they are better than you. I live in a small town, have bi-racial children, and live below the state poverty level. Until this year I never had a problem with teachers, but I have been ignored all year. I like to participate in my daughters activities and speak with the teacher at least a few minutes when I am at the school. Her teacher has been very vague this year. Every year the class has a Christmas party. My daughter ask me to come, but her teacher said there was no room for parents to be involved. I showed up to pick my daughter up around lunch time and was allowed to walk around to the class room and guess what there were other parents there. Then, I felt uncomfortable the entire time I was there because the parents all seemed to be involved in outside activities together. My child, who is a straight A student was having issues with math, I inquired about this to the teacher, she said she was doing fine, my child brought home a B on her report card. I was not upset with my child, but if the teacher would have taken three minutes to inform me of where the struggle was she could have maintained perfect grades. My daughter is also going through some changes this year and I am trying to understand why she is behaving differently at home, My efforts seem to be useless in communicating with the school. I am really frustrated at this point. I have worked with special needs children and I was able to treat them all equally, because I cared, I had more than 8 at a time and they had behavior and health problems that had to be attended to. Why can't a teacher have 20 children without behavior and health issues make them all a priority. Also this teacher my daughter has this year has missed at least one day a week since school started. Thank God the year is almost over. I do think there are some awesome teachers, but the thing is most people do work 40 hours a week year round, so to complain about working during the summer is crazy, because that is part of life. Grown people do that.
KristiC KristiC 3 years
This is absurd. If a teacher isn't able to tell me any of these things, then they are certainly in no position to teach my child anything. What is the big deal about the above info? Who didn't already know that, anyways? What is stopping them from saying it? Junk article.
CindiBrooksher CindiBrooksher 3 years
This was one of the dumbest things I've read!! I thought it was going to be real secrets! Like the school gets more money for special needs child then don't give them the proper education that that money is suppose to go to for the child! Or the school board tells the teachers and school counselor to give parents less options, saying " we don't give OT asst. to be with the child thru out the day, sorry it's not an option here" When they are to provide that child with one if the child needs it! Or if the child has to go to another school, they tell the parents that we have to take them back and forth, when the school is to provide transportation! Stuff like that! Not all this whining crap that everybody already knows! No! Parents don't care that the teacher has more than 1 child! Parents are worried about their child and their needs, not everybody else's! If the teacher is overwhelmed by the amount of kids then get another teacher or downsize! I know teaching is hard! The government is to involved and the teachers can't think out of the box, and there's a lot of paper work, and you can't hug the child, you get 3 months off to prepare for the next school yr (that last part was sarcasm) etc etc etc. This stuff is not a secret! It's just whining!
CoMMember13630779697374 CoMMember13630779697374 3 years
The idea/propaganda of teachers being underpaid is getting old. Teachers may pursue more education, but that is usually in order to get higher wages, it isn't to enhance their skills. That saw about having three months off is true! Imagine if you had to work a real job that only gave you at most, three weeks off per year, how would they cope?? While there is some after hours work involved ( pity the poor teacher slaving over correcting papers while neglecting their families) there have been countless studies that show a teacher makes more in pay and benefits with no more education than they have, than a doctor will. While I am all for keeping the good teachers, unions have made it impossible almost to get rid of the bad ones.
TessaClare TessaClare 3 years
As a mom and a 16 year veteran of teaching, I very much agree with these statements. In my early days of teaching, I absolutely loved my job. The parents and children were respectful and testing wasn't the primary focus. Sometime in the late 90's things seemed to shift. Some children became less respectful and their parents would defend their poor behavior and fight even the most benign of consequences. The focus on teaching to the test became paramount, and I found myself forced to put aside some of my creativity to meet the demands of the state. Another thing that parents don't realize is that sometimes teachers must deal with parents who are not mentally or emotionally stable. I taught in a rather rough, high crime area where a sector of my parents were involved in drugs, crime and other tough situations. My "last straw" that caused me to make a career change happened 10 years ago when a clinically confirmed mentally ill parent of a clinically confirmed mentally ill child accused me of saying something unkind to her child that I absolutely did not say. This event stemmed from me catching their child in the act of stealing from my purse. Falsely accusing me was their way of "getting back" at me for attempting to give their child detention. (They wanted their child to have no punishment at school in spite of the fact that she was constantly stealing and injuring other students.) They reported my supposed offense to the county board of education and to their child's mental health social worker and I had to go through the stress of being investigated for something that I didn't do. Finally, the child admitted to her social worker that the whole story had been made up and I was no longer under investigation. I had always had a flawless work record and was very well liked by parents and students. Additionally, I was known as the teacher that could get along with everyone and anyone. This false accusation caused me a great deal of stress and depression. I was anxious and nervous everyday at work. I eventually went back to school part-time and got a master's degree in public relations and resigned from the school system to work for a public relations firm. Now that I work outside of education, I could never see myself going back to a job where I felt so disrespected and had so little support from the administration that I'd worked so hard for. Teaching makes me appreciate the perks of working where I do. I can use the restroom when I need to, have a drink of water when I'm thirsty, work from home if I'm sick and feel happy and respected by my coworkers and clients. Unless a person loves always being the least important person possible at their job and doesn't mind unwarranted abuse, then I would suggest thinking long and hard before going into teaching.
JillHerrick JillHerrick 3 years
This comment really got my attention: "I am sick of teachers laying the blame at parents doors - we are not there and I'm afraid it is a teachers job to act as parent when we are not there, if teachers were so perfect, no child would ever disrupt a class." Are you kidding me? Teachers are not parents, nor should they attempt to be while in the classroom. I want the teachers of MY children to TEACH. And no one is perfect. So, to say that if teachers were perfect, no students would disrupt?? That is just not even a rational comment to make! Teachers are not perfect; nor are parents, children, or anyone else. Life is about a whole lot more than a disruptive classroom. Teachers are with students for a few hours during the day and then they move on to the other classroom. Saying a perfect teacher would eliminate classroom disruptions is like saying a perfect dentist would eliminate cavities.
AmberHampton99687 AmberHampton99687 3 years
Even thought I home school I still had to post something on here after reading the responses. I understand from talking to many teachers that most of them wanted to teach to really make a difference and they understood that to accomplish this goal it comes with much responsibility and yes, not being at the top of everyone's favorite list. But it was a choice. I chose many years ago, before children, to get into sales. Great money, most of it I loved, but in some of the positions I took came with being griped out most of the day by customers that wouldn't even give me a chance to explain and make it all better. Guess what, I had a choice, stay or leave. How is this any different than someone wanting to be a famous movie star but then complain constantly about the photographers? I feel for the parents as well. I have seen my friends working 9-5 jobs and struggle to have much of any family time. By the time they get home, make supper, help with school work, do laundry, clean kitchen, take care of other household responsibilities it's time to get kids in shower and in bed with barely any family time to then get up the next day and do it again. Many nights the kids have been sent home with so much school work that doing school work is the only family time they really get. The teachers get the children for 7 hours a day, and parents see them for about 3 hours in the evening while still having a long list of things to accomplish in the that time and yet they are expected to pick up what the teachers couldn't do in those 7 hours. I also understand that by being a teacher it won't make you rich at any level. However, looking at the school that I went to and that many of my friend's children go to, teachers are among the highest paid in that city. Don't get me wrong, I have great respect for teachers, well the good ones anyways. I also have respect for the cashiers at the supermarkets, the person at the water department and even the sales people that knock at my door. But this whole underpaid and overworked, well that accounts for probably 75% of the working class in the nation. I home school, and even though I have tried to venture into things to bring in more money, we mainly live off of just my husbands income, which is about a teacher's salary. But we also pay taxes that go to the school even though every school book, computer program, pencil, marker, notebooks etc, have all been out of our own pocket. But it is our choice, and I'm happy, very happy, with the choice that we made.
AndiFitzherbert1365579993 AndiFitzherbert1365579993 3 years
My parents were both teachers. Both retired due to psychological problems. Both were very dedicated and worked like mad during the summer 'holidays' and - what's more - every evening in school time too and one day each weekend - it was an 7am-9pm job 6 days a week! I often went into school to help prepare the classroom in these summer 'holidays' which included two whole days just pulling staple pins from the walls from all the pictures that had been displayed so another years could be displayed next year. I chose not to be a school teacher!!! *respect to all dedicated school teachers*
AngelaHunter37744 AngelaHunter37744 3 years
I have nothing but respect for my sons current teacher, but believe me, they're not all like that. I DO think teachers take a dislike to children and act upon it. When I picked up my son with a two handed chinese burn on his wrist and the imprint of a boot on his back or indeed, his nose bust and blood all over his shirt one week, my sons teacher suggested he must have done it himself and that my son was the problem anyway because "he wound the other children up". Now, with a special need, I don't suggest my child is easy, but he is told that no matter what other children do, verbally abuse, push, hit or thump him, he cannot react or he will be excluded, yet him opening his mouth is excuse enough for the other children to hit him by all accounts. It got to the point where my husband and I had to threaten the head with us involving the police for a bullying issue that was being ignored. NO PARENT raises their child to be a disruption and it is not my faul that the threat of the cane/smack has been removed from school - I am sick of teachers laying the blame at parents doors - we are not there and I'm afraid it is a teachers job to act as parent when we are not there, if teachers were so perfect, no child would ever disrupt a class. Children behaved better when I was a child because we knew if we didn't we'd get a smack or the cane. My sons new teacher thinks my son is great and if he has disrupted class, we bring him home and remove privileges until she's singing his praises again - so please don't trot out the old lie that "all parents think their children are perfect". I love my son, but I know well how he likes to disrupt class if he's bored. However, I work with the school along the lines of his IAP and let him know that the school and I are on the same hymn sheet. With a GOOD teacher, like the one he has just now, he is getting far more good comments a year than bad. WIth a lazy, bad teacher like his last one, my son was blamed for every single thing in the class, children soon got to know they could say he had done anything and they would be believed, because the teacher couldn't be bothered to notice what his class were doing. A great teacher works with parents, rather than blames them for everything wrong in his/her class. We should not be enemies. The staff at my sons school think I am great and ask me if I will help with meetings for teachers in training etc, they invite me in for a cuppa if I'm upset at a special needs setback for my son. Great teachers stay with a child forever, their good deeds and hard work shining through. Sadly, bad teachers stay with a child forever too, for all the wrong reasons.
MaryHellberg MaryHellberg 3 years
My career in education and mother of two qualifies me to speak to this subject. Even my mother gave me a little plaque about "June, July, and August" -- even though she knew that I attended summer school to earn my master's degree IN MY TEACHING FIELD (not in administration or counseling to get out of the classroom, but so that I could be a better teacher in what I was teaching). Two summers were spent writing curriculum for my school district. Several summers were filled with workshops to hone my classroom skills (which we all need to do). And then, after having only two or three summers for my own children, I was required to teach summer school. It's one of those things that people NEVER seem to get. Our school year also begins in August, one year as early as August 5 for teachers to report back for duty. So don't include August in that pipe dream! Many parents would rather believe their "perfect" children than believe the teacher when they have conversations with the teacher. "My son would NEVER disrupt class, cheat from another student's work, take things from other students" and so on. Excuse me? What will we have to do, videotape classes in order for them to believe us? As a parent, I listened to whatever I was being told to me about my "imperfect" children's behavior. I did point out to one teacher, however, that the negative consequence at home was pointless if there wasn't a negative consequence at school as well. (Both home and school have to work together to correct whatever is going wrong between the student and the school/teacher.) And don't EVEN get me started on testing. I taught English; in my state, writing was tested at the grade levels I taught. I had a principal so married to the idea that students had to have five sentences in a paragraph or it wasn't a paragraph that he couldn't see that compound sentences, complex sentences, and compound-complex sentences were worth far more than five disjointed simple sentences. (Aside here: while I see the need for PE, I don't see the need for PE teachers to become administrators.) And as far as having only one student in the class misconception, I would invite parents to come to my classroom and sit with his/her child to find out what it was like in the classroom with several other middle school children. No picnic, I assure you. But always a journey I willingly chose to make. And my successes have come in many ways: the young man whose sister hand-delivered a college graduation announcement from a prestigious university; the young father at the pharmacy who remembers me but claims I wouldn't remember him -- to which I tell him his first, middle, and last names and ask if he still has an interest in VW bugs; the former students who taught alongside me years later; the notes and Facebook messages from former students when they learned of my son's death. These are the reasons that my underpaid, overworked profession is the greatest profession in the world.
NickiNeal33020 NickiNeal33020 3 years
To fix my last post...sorry I am on my phone....she didnt like me because i was being raised by my grandparents. She was giving me straight f's when i didnt deserve them. She tried to get me put into special ed. My parents began to catch on when I brought home my all f report card. They got out all my papers and couldnt believe what they saw every question marked wrong even if the answer was right. They took them up to the school and her excuse was "well i let the children grade each others work. The last straw was qhen my mom saw some bruising on me and when questioned i told jer mrs.C pinched me. For the rest of the year my mom sat in the class everyday and graded all my work so she couldn't bully me anymore. Then in third grade I had Mrs.L for English. One day she got mad because I was going to go to the office with my friend cause I felt she was unfairly punoshed. as an adult I can see that I should have stayed out of it...but she had NO RIGHT to do what she did. She came into the hallway and screamed " YOU'RE NOT GOING ANYWHERE!!!!!" Then she grabbed me by my bad wrist squeezed it twosted it and threw me against the brick wall. By lunch I had a hand print bruise around my wrist and a bruise across my shoulders. My friend took pictures of them for me. When I went home I immediately showed my parents proclaiming "Look what Mrs. L did to me!" My dad went up to the school the nexr day and showed her my bruises. He told her if he EVER saw another mark on me that I said she put there he would make sure she lst her license and was arrested for child abuse. She bawled. Then high school. We yet again moved...there was a boy Kevin whomade my lofe hell. He permanently messed up my shoulder and cracked my cheek bone by tripping me down 20something cement steps...he was constantly hirting me. NOTHING ever happened to him because je was the super intendants nephew. The one day he held a knife to my throat and threatened to bring a gun to school and kill me and my older brother. I immediately told the principle. He called in the super intendant and the dean. The super intendant told me that I was making it up and if I told I would be in troubpe not Kevin. The next day I pleaded formy brother and I to be kept home. Took a while but dad finally got me to break down and tell him what happened. He took me up to the schol with him Dad told the super indendant that he was going to expel kevin or we would be on the evening news and Kevin would be arrested that we would press charges. The super intendant allowed him to quit so he wouldnt be expelled. Not all teachers are innocent do gooders. And my experience in public school makes me want to homeschool my daughter. I dont want her to EVER have to endure the hell I went theough. sorry for any typos I am on my phone and it wont let me see what I am typing as I type.
whitneyjohnson83059 whitneyjohnson83059 3 years
I guess Daycares are different then actual schools, but daycare teachers are in the same boat most of the time. We try to be as upfront with everything about their children but we always get shut down like we're not doing our job correct. I understand that lots of times it may seem as if we get paid to sit around and play with kids, but it's sometimes much more than that. It's nice to get the few "good jobs" or " I don't know how you guys do this" comments that we do. At least some parents somewhat understand some things. This is coming from a daycare teacher and mother.
NickiNeal33020 NickiNeal33020 3 years
I agree that SOME teachers need to be given more respect but by far not all. I have had some really awesome teachers but I have also had some truly HORRIBLE teachers. We moved to a new town in the middle of my first grade year. I went from having a teacher who adored me to one who did not like me merely because I was b She would embarras me in front of my classmates on purpose. She pulled my hair, pinched me, and any time she caught me writing with my left hand she would pull the pencil out of my hand say "goddamn satan's child aning raised by my grandparents. Mrs.C was a monster.v
KirstenLandon15092 KirstenLandon15092 3 years
REbitz, I was so offended by your hostility, that I simply cannot help but correct you. Not only did you use "us" instead of "we," you also used misused "your." It should've been "you're." What's more, your punctuation is atrocious. I'm seeing the reason for bitterness towards teachers. I'm not even a teacher and I know that their job is tough. What they get paid is a crime! I have no problem paying higher taxes for better education and I'm usually appalled at those who gripe about it. People want to complain about our declining educational system then refuse to vote for a higher tax that might get us some improvements. I've had this same passionate view despite the fact that I've had to endure many, many awful teachers with my oldest daughter. I didn't have the option of a 504 and my oldest has a learning disorder and suffers from Tourrette's Syndrome. I was aware of the points made here and gave the teacher the benefit of the doubt at the beginning of each year. I had multiple conferences with all of her teachers, sometimes even having to meet with school administration, trying to get them to work with me so that she could be successful. We had the occasional teacher who was understanding and we were able to be that proverbial team. Sadly, most of her teachers ignored me, chalked her up to being a disruptive, annoying kid and absolutely bullied her. I ended up being one of 'those parents' and am fairly certain the teacher would end up dreading seeing me. Apparently, not all teachers like the 'involved parent' thing. My youngest daughter is about to enter school and she has special needs. I am already bracing myself for the impending troubles; but I am hoping that times have changed enough in the past 15 years that I won't have such nightmares again. My child is not their only child, but she still deserves to be seen as important.
CynthiaTucker99926 CynthiaTucker99926 3 years
I'm happy to know that some teachers do care, unfortunately I don't see that in the school system where I live. The goal should be trying to keep the children in school. All I see is the educators looking for reasons to suspend the kids. They are not abiding by the rules that they are trying to enforce. I'm one of those parents that if you work with me, I will work with you.
JC14411343 JC14411343 3 years
Ps sorry for all the typos below.... On this tiny iPhone ;)
JC14411343 JC14411343 3 years
Oh godness... I don't know where to start. While I DO think some teachers work very hard, there are many who do not. At my kids school the teacher get there just as schoolmisnstarting, leave a minute after the kids. I see constant Facebook updates from Their teachers at ALL hours of the day. Shopping On etsy and referring pictures for free contests on Their fb pages. Sometimes I want to fall over thinking about how much activity I see on fb during class time. And let's not even talk about all the days off! I'm sorry but here in Tampa Florida they worked maybe 10 days in the month of march between spring break, Easter break and fair days! Even one of my kids teachers said to me a few eels agonist a joke how much time they get off. I'm sorry but an 8-2:30 Jon is not hard. My husband works outside In the heat from 5am into night hours! With all that being said.... I could never e a teacher! I think the patience they have, and the golden hearts many have are invaluable. Its a job I couldn't do... An unknow bc I tried in my younger 20s. I am grateful for them, and so appreciative. But I do wish there was less complaining... It's a job.
Laura14411190 Laura14411190 3 years
So what is stopping all you teachers telling us parents these things?? Maybe if you were a bit more upfront you wouldn't get the disrespect you seem to think you get?? At the end of the day, many parents of the children you teach work as well. Many have to bring work home and don't get to spend as much time being a family as they would like. You are not the only ones who have it 'tough.' Seriously, it is the 'we are so hard done by' comments that make many parents think you are nothing but a bunch of whingers. You are NOT the only hard working profession. Get on with your job and stop moaning about it!
MarieSmith74872 MarieSmith74872 3 years
@AdumSharp My daughter is in Girl Scouts too! I am glad you are taking the steps to fight for your daughter and other children as well! I know you will be the one to make them change their ways! You sound like a very wonderful mother! Your daughter is very lucky to have you! :)
AdumSharp AdumSharp 3 years
@MarleSmith My daughter LOVES her new school. She is back to A & B Honor Roll again. I wish I would have been able to talk her into the move sooner. I plan on doing more then going to the school board. They made my daughter's school life a living heck, and had me so sick over it that if I was fighting with them over the phone or in person I was in bed or at my doctor's office. I have just now gotten everything under-control enough that I plan to make sure that something is done. My daughter is in Girl Scouts and her whole troop goes to that school. I refuse to allow them to get away with what they are doing. They took a child that loved school and made her fear it.
MarieSmith74872 MarieSmith74872 3 years
@AdumSharp WOW! That is crazy!! I don't know if you already have done so but, I would go to the school board about this. This is unacceptable! I would be just as upset as you! I hope your daughters new school is better than her last one! That old school of hers has some really bad faculty! Hopefully one day something can be done about their behavior!
AdumSharp AdumSharp 3 years
My oldest child started 6th grade this year. She has always been an A & B Honor Roll child. She loves going to school, and she really loves to read. When this school year started everything was fine, but by the 2nd six weeks she was failing 2 classes. She didn't start failing any of her classes until I went to the school to have a talk with them about their bathroom policies. They said that any child that went to use the restroom while in class would get written up for it. Now I'm sure some of you mom's have tween daughters or still remember what it was like when you first started your monthly. The first few months to a year you are still learning how to deal with it. Will my daughter was forced to chose to either get written up and punished or wait until lunch or PE class to do anything about it. Yes they had 4mins between classes, but it takes longer then 1min to take care of that. So after the 3rd time she came home with blood on her pants I went to have a talk with the school. After our talk my daughters grades started to drop, and then I get a call from her. She was in tears and begging me to come and pick her up. When I got there I found out that they had refused to let her use the restroom all morning unless she wanted to spend the day in ISS. Her pants were covered in blood. That started my fight with her school. Shortly after that her Math and English teachers started saying she was missing homework that I know for a fact that she did and turned it in. Then they put her on a point sheet, and sent her to ISS at least once a week. I wanted to pull her out and send her to another school by this point, but she didn't want to leave her friends. I waited to after Christmas break was over to see if they were going to stop bullying my daughter. The first few weeks was fine, but by the time my son's birthday came around in February they were back to bullying her. I went up there for a meeting and they REFUSED to release my child to me. I asked for her 3 times and all three times they told me no. I pulled her out that day and enrolled in another school. Why am I still about this? My daughter still has friends that go to that school and they are being treated the same way. I was respectful of everyone at that school, until they started to bully my daughter. What I find is so sad is that this school is still being allowed to bully students and no one is doing anything about it.
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