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Tell Mommy: Do You Share Pregnancy Tales With Strangers?

When you're pregnant it seems everyone wants to know all about you. When are you due? Boy or a girl? Have you picked a name? Are you eating fish? Do you have hemorrhoids? Avoiding questions and belly rubbers can take serious tactics, but what of sharing tales post pregnancy?

While sitting in a waiting room recently I struck up a conversation with the two other women in the room, one pregnant and one a mother. The mother-to-be was glowing, and proudly showed us her "large mango" belly while admitting she's hasn't suffered any morning sickness or discomfort yet. While I am very candid about my pregnancies and experiences as a mom, I try not to bombard others (particularly those who are carrying a child for the first time!) so I listened intently and relished her happiness and excitement about bringing a baby into the world. The other mother was less reserved, and much to the chagrin of the rest of the room, said during labor she felt like her "uterus was going to just jump out of her body."

Do you find yourself sharing battle stories and pregnancy tales with strangers, or do you hold your tongue?

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masonsmama masonsmama 8 years
I've talked to friends/acquaintances about it but not really any sort of war stories. I think so many people relish telling how bad things can get, and really, I didn't think any of it was that bad - fun? no, but horrible? not at all! - so if anyone brings it up, I just say that it wasn't that bad, that healing after delivering was the hardest part because I wasn't expecting that, but that's about it. I think it helps sometimes to hear that not everyone had a horrible time with pregnancy/delivery.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
Not pregnant, but my mom has a bunch of younger friends about mid thirties who are just now pregnant, and my mom tells me all the time that she will never discuss the complications or horror stories just because she doesn't want to cause stress to the mother. She'll talk about it to close friends, but that's about it. Otherwise she's open about her pregnancies. She'll talk about how with me she only got sick when she ate things other than chicken or salad (which explains why at her largest in her pregnancy she wore a size 9...no maternity anything) and with my brother she has ice cream and 3 salt bagels after dinner, etc.If I'm ever pregnant, I know I will not want to her advice and horror stories unless specifically asked. I would never in my wildest dreams as a total stranger about their pregnancies. No way!
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
Not pregnant, but my mom has a bunch of younger friends about mid thirties who are just now pregnant, and my mom tells me all the time that she will never discuss the complications or horror stories just because she doesn't want to cause stress to the mother. She'll talk about it to close friends, but that's about it. Otherwise she's open about her pregnancies. She'll talk about how with me she only got sick when she ate things other than chicken or salad (which explains why at her largest in her pregnancy she wore a size 9...no maternity anything) and with my brother she has ice cream and 3 salt bagels after dinner, etc. If I'm ever pregnant, I know I will not want to her advice and horror stories unless specifically asked. I would never in my wildest dreams as a total stranger about their pregnancies. No way!
Greggie Greggie 8 years
Oh my friends know, and I'll happily sit with other moms and swap stories. I just won't do it with pregnant women, especially if they're not close to me.
nevadamtnbear nevadamtnbear 8 years
Definitely to myself, I kind of have the mentality...don't discuss unless asked. I'm candid about my first experience, but I don't reveal the real horrid details except t close friends or those who really wants to know.
Greggie Greggie 8 years
No. Even if a pregnant woman asks me, I tell her I'll share it after she's given birth unless she's asking for specific advice. Even then, I don't share details of my first two births, just things like advice on how to handle a c-section. I would never in a million years start talking battle stories in a room full of pregnant women.
Greggie Greggie 8 years
No. Even if a pregnant woman asks me, I tell her I'll share it after she's given birth unless she's asking for specific advice. Even then, I don't share details of my first two births, just things like advice on how to handle a c-section. I would never in a million years start talking battle stories in a room full of pregnant women.
Great-Sommelier Great-Sommelier 8 years
She was obviously lonely. Poor lady.
candace87 candace87 8 years
I've had a total stranger come up and tell me about hers. When I was working in retail, she came up to me and was CLEARLY pregnant and she felt the need to tell me. and I didn't know what to say so i just said congratulations, and then she went on 'Yes I'm 7 months, its a boy!! My last 2 were girls so i'm so excited!! I'm craving ice cream, and I just want fried food! ' and went on and on about it. I didn't mind but.. it was a little weird.
FrankiLee FrankiLee 8 years
I definitely hold my tongue. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I got so frustrated with "advice" from total strangers (some advice that was mostly just old wives tales) and their horror stories about labor, that I vowed to never do the same!
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