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Tell Mommy: Does the Term "Housewife" Offend You?

Tell Mommy: Does the Term "Housewife" Offend You?

I've never been a full time stay-at-home mother (except for when I was on maternity leave), but I was raised by one and feel the sting every time I hear the term "housewife" used to describe a mom who opted out of the work force to focus on her children. The SAHM mamas I know aren't popping bonbons on the couch and watching soap operas or scrubbing the kitchen floor with a toothbrush and playing bridge, they are educating their offspring, shuttling carpools, catering school parties (when a lot of working parents can't make it), not to mention raising the next generation. This doesn't discount the fact that many working moms do some of the same things. But, it's 2009 and the term "housewife" seems a bit demeaning and outdated. What's your opinion?

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21sthousewife 21sthousewife 7 years
The term housewife does not offend me at all. I love being a housewife - indeed I am The 21st Century Housewife of the website of the same name! There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman working outside the home but for me, housewifery is my career of choice -so I'm happy for people to call me what I am!
MaggieLei MaggieLei 7 years
I am not offended by it. I feel like some people look down on the decision no matter what you call it. Working moms feel the same way, though. I would love to be able to pull off a June Cleaver! I am not that disciplined.
MaggieLei MaggieLei 7 years
I am not offended by it. I feel like some people look down on the decision no matter what you call it. Working moms feel the same way, though. I would love to be able to pull off a June Cleaver! I am not that disciplined.
hausfrau hausfrau 7 years
As you can tell by my login, I like the term housewife. It sums up what I do now. But I don't have any kids yet, so that could be why. I don't see anything wrong with staying at home and running a family, esp. if you have a hubby who is gone with work a lot of the time. To me, to say something is "offensive" implies that there is some kind of shame or wrong doing with it. I don't see that at all. I have no problem being in an apron and making a casserole, it doesn't take away my degree or make me any less smart.
hausfrau hausfrau 7 years
As you can tell by my login, I like the term housewife. It sums up what I do now. But I don't have any kids yet, so that could be why.I don't see anything wrong with staying at home and running a family, esp. if you have a hubby who is gone with work a lot of the time. To me, to say something is "offensive" implies that there is some kind of shame or wrong doing with it. I don't see that at all.I have no problem being in an apron and making a casserole, it doesn't take away my degree or make me any less smart.
Captivate Captivate 7 years
Well it would be nice if there was a term that clearly acknowledged the SAHMs for their domestic labor, which isn't valued as much as it should be in certain societies.
LuvLeoDiCaprio LuvLeoDiCaprio 7 years
It's not offensive to me
LuvLeoDiCaprio LuvLeoDiCaprio 7 years
It's not offensive to me
Greggie Greggie 7 years
Stay at home mom sounds more confining to me. *lol* You stay at home! I don't find it offensive though.
Askimoli Askimoli 7 years
I really don't see what the big deal is, if you are a wife that stays at home, then what about the term offends you? I think people are the ones who put too much meaning into words. It is just a word, a term that has a standard definition, problems begin to arise when people read way more meaning into a simple word.
atlasburped atlasburped 7 years
housewife sounds like you're CONFINED to the home. person i picture is the classic apron wearing, donna reed baking the perferct casserole using 1950's kitchen appliances. SATM is like, "yes, I'm home taking care of my children, but I also..."
atlasburped atlasburped 7 years
housewife sounds like you're CONFINED to the home. person i picture is the classic apron wearing, donna reed baking the perferct casserole using 1950's kitchen appliances.SATM is like, "yes, I'm home taking care of my children, but I also..."
Revrend117 Revrend117 7 years
I like the SAHM, haven't really heard the term used a lot but I'll throw it around my office to see what reaction I can get. Personally I like stay@home mom. I would love to be at home with my child and be a part of his monumental moments instead of his grandmother. Housewife isn't offensive as it had seem to be in the late 90's.
Revrend117 Revrend117 7 years
I like the SAHM, haven't really heard the term used a lot but I'll throw it around my office to see what reaction I can get. Personally I like stay@home mom. I would love to be at home with my child and be a part of his monumental moments instead of his grandmother.Housewife isn't offensive as it had seem to be in the late 90's.
Greggie Greggie 7 years
Depending on where you live, the terms housewife and stay-at-home-mom are interchangeable. Here, either is used.
facin8me facin8me 7 years
–noun 1. a married woman who manages her own household, esp. as her principal occupation. 2. British. a sewing box; a small case or box for needles, thread, etc. –verb (used with object), verb (used without object) 3. Archaic. to manage with efficiency and economy, as a household. I don't see anything offensive about it. And while SAHM is probably more descriptive for the modern mother, housewife would still be apt as raising children could be considered a vital part of the household. And in this day, managing something with efficiency and economy should be lauded. I'd take it as a complement.
facin8me facin8me 7 years
–noun1.a married woman who manages her own household, esp. as her principal occupation.2.British. a sewing box; a small case or box for needles, thread, etc.–verb (used with object), verb (used without object)3.Archaic. to manage with efficiency and economy, as a household.I don't see anything offensive about it. And while SAHM is probably more descriptive for the modern mother, housewife would still be apt as raising children could be considered a vital part of the household.And in this day, managing something with efficiency and economy should be lauded. I'd take it as a complement.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 7 years
stay-at-home, housewive, etc. same thing. It doesn't bother me.
katedavis katedavis 7 years
I don't think it's offensive, just horribly outdated.
schnappycat schnappycat 7 years
I thought the new term for "housewife" was "homemaker." Either way, it doesn't really bother me, but as another poster mentioned, it seems more fitting for a woman with no kids who stays home (like I was for a few years quite honestly). I think SAHM is definitely more encompassing and accurate. And I on occasion do like to sit on my couch with and watch soapy TV while my son is napping. SAHMs need breaks, too! :)
schnappycat schnappycat 7 years
I thought the new term for "housewife" was "homemaker." Either way, it doesn't really bother me, but as another poster mentioned, it seems more fitting for a woman with no kids who stays home (like I was for a few years quite honestly). I think SAHM is definitely more encompassing and accurate. And I on occasion do like to sit on my couch with and watch soapy TV while my son is napping. SAHMs need breaks, too! :)
Jennifer777 Jennifer777 7 years
I would consider myself a stay at home mom before I would consider myself a housewife. I suck at the whole cleaning and cooking thing, I focus 90% of my energy on my child and tend to forget that there is a sink full of dishes. When hubby gets home he plays with Madi and I do the dishes then. When Madi is a little older then I will worry about the house being spotless, then I will consider myself a SAHM/housewife. The term isn't offensive to me; I just don't think it applies. :-)
redegg redegg 7 years
I think a housewife is different from a stay at home mom. A housewife stays at home and takes care of the home for her and her husband but has no children. I don't find either term derogatory but I am not either one so I can't speak from experience.
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