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Tell Mommy: Fair For Grandmother of Octuplets to Talk?

Much of America gasped when they found out the single mother of octuplets, Nadya Suleman, already had six children, all of which were supposedly conceived by donor sperm and fertility treatments.

While the public continues to speculate on why the 33-year-old mama decided to pursue a sizable brood she likely cannot afford, her own mother has been talking to the press. Angela Suleman who lives with her daughter and is helping to care for the older charges has commented that her daughter being an only child might have played a role in her obsession with children among other statements. Do you think it's appropriate for this mom to speak out about her daughter?

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verily verily 7 years
I think it's absolutely fair for her mother to speak out. She knows her daughter better than anyone, is helping care for her children, and is housing Nadya (who is old enough to live on her own). Now she is in a very unfortunate situation where she'll look terrible if she kicks the woman out, despite all the sacrifices she has to make for this family. And it's completely unfair for Nadya to lay any sort of blame upon her just because she was an only child.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
ljaygril, i was an only shild and NEVER wanted a sibling, lol. don't feel too bad :) i just read an article where this woman is quoted as saying she's going back to school in the fall :faint: woman, you have 14 kids, you're never going anywhere for YOU again!
ladyr ladyr 7 years
I think it is ok for Grandma to speak out, especially since her daughter is bringing her and her husband into it and basically blaming her parents for her need to have tons of kids. Her daughter is also putting a huge burden on her and her husband both emotionally and financially. They have so far been helping to care for all these children and letting them all live in their home, despite the fact that they disagree with the irresponsible choices made by their mother. She did not get pregnant unexpectedly, she chose to have fertility treatments over and over again, even though she did not have a real source of income. I'd have something to say too if I was her mother. Who knows what her childhood was like, but there is no excuse for using children this way.
gidigirl gidigirl 7 years
Obviously, this girl has some psychological issues. I have a son who is an only child..and i often feel a little sad for him that he will not have the experience of growing up with siblings like i did. However, like everything in life there are advantages and disadvantages to every situation and you make the most of the situation you are in. Her quest to fill this "void" that she feels she has had since childhood raises questions.. 1. Is it o.k to USE children in this manner? 2. How many children does it take to fill such a void? 3. How meaningfully can one person connect with 14 children all under age 7. 4. At what point is her physician required by law to suggest a psychological evaluation? I imagine her mother is exasperated and exhausted by this situation, while i dont condone her outburst.. Given the circumstances it is understandable.
Lily-Inferno Lily-Inferno 7 years
The first 6 are from a "friend" who donated the sperm. Shes never been married. I think this lady is sick and her mom had every right. Maybe someone else out there has a balls crazy daughter too. I dunno, something doesnt seem right about this whole story.
chatoyante chatoyante 7 years
Of course it's fair...grandma was already having to take care of half of the babies, no doubt with more responsibility to come. This situation is such a sad mess. In the recent interview, the daughter basically blames her mom for her pathological need to have many children (to make herself feel better, which is pretty selfish). Assuming she's got any sort of mothering instinct, the grandma probably feels she can't really abandon her daughter, both for her sake and for the sake of these innocent kids. I don't see this ending happily for those kids.
GirlC GirlC 7 years
I was wondering about that stmt too Lickety - I wondered if the mom sort of dumped the other 6 on the grandma... who knows like macgirl says. Anyway, I'll be annoyed if she gets hand-outs. She is simply irresponsible.
macgirl macgirl 7 years
Who knows what kind of relationship they have. She is making huge sacrifices because her daughter. If I was in the same situation I might speak out as well. I would be embarrassed if this was my family :-(
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
was the mother okay with it? i didn't like some of the things the grandma said, like "i can tell her this, when you come home from the hospital i WON'T be there. i'm leaving!" why would she say that to the world? the whole thing is strange. the mom has also said all the babies come from the same father, so are they her ex husbands? if they are did he know? is he financially responsible for them?
GirlC GirlC 7 years
Not sure, but I bet by talking about it and having people interseted in it a book deal/reality TV series or something will most likely occur... then maybe she'll be able to "afford" having 14 kids. Just curious - can a fertility treatment center deny a woman? You'd think they'd know her history...
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