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Too Sexy, Too Soon


Too Sexy, Too Soon

For many moms of tween and teen daughters, a shopping trek to the local mall can turn into a jaw-dropping experience. From $14,000 diamond-covered prom dresses, to low-cut, skimpy sheaths that are anything but elegant, there’s plenty to get up in arms about.

As a mom of two daughters (and a son), I yearn for the days when I was the family’s Chief Fashion Officer. As CFO, my mission was cute and sweet, not Snooki and sexualized.

I used to love buying cute little coordinating Easter and holiday outfits for my trio. But once the tween years hit, my CFO role was pink-slipped, literally, as my daughters begged for Victoria’s Secret PINK sweet cheeks panty collections and sweat pants with “Hard to Get” on the butt.

It’s hard to whip out your credit card (or take out a bank loan) to fund fashions from the jungle of animal-patterned, lace and leather getups that are pushed on tweens and teens. A friend of mine describes the look as “hooker on parade.” Not exactly what you envision for your 12 year-old daughter.

I don’t consider myself a prude. But as a mom, I strive so hard to teach my children to respect themselves so that others will respect them too. I believe that what we wear and how we care for ourselves send a strong signal about who we are and what we value.

I know that materialism is huge with tweens and teens. For teens, brands define their status among peers. So I am okay with occasionally shelling out the funds for stuff “everybody has.” But honestly, the risque getups in Madonna's daughter's Material Girl Collection are not exactly what I want my daughters to aspire to.

Turns out I am not alone.

One Circle of Moms member, Jessie R. finds the issue of teens dressing in an overly-sexualized way so stressful that she's glad she has a son: "Every time I see young girls dressed like hookers I praise god that I have a son. It wasn't until I had him that I realized I got off easy! "

How do you get your tween or teen daughter to dress appropriately?

The views expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of, and should not be attributed to, POPSUGAR.

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