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First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in the baby carriage. And then they lived happily ever after, right? Research professor Scott Stanley says no. His new report reveals that out of 218 couples, a shocking 90 percent of those couples saw a demise in their marital bliss after having a child. Sound depressing? The silver lining to that black cloud is that the childless are also apparently experiencing "diminished martial quality." To see what else the study says,

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The difference, he says, is this:

Having a baby accelerates the deterioration, especially seen during periods of adjustment right after the birth of a child.

I feel much better knowing I am doomed to misery. But really, what can we learn from this? Should couples forgo children if they want to keep their blithe relationship? I'm starting to think all of those Tinseltown parents are onto something... marriage after baby. If people marry each other after having gone through the growing pains of parenting, the bar is set lower from the beginning so maybe the misery is lessened all together. Can we get Brad and Angelina to give us some input on this one?

Tell mommy, was your relationship with your partner better sans children or now with a family?
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babysugar babysugar 7 years
Yay meandtheo! I feel the same way. It's different being married with kids but life for all of us is so much better.
meandtheo meandtheo 7 years
i agree that it is all about waiting to be ready. my husband and i were married for 6 years before our first baby...we traveled the world, escaped to wine country on whim, partied down and did all we needed to do before our lives took a dramatic change. i actually think having a child has brought us closer together, i feel the happiest and most fulfilled I have ever been and can't wait for our second child in September!
Bsmrekar Bsmrekar 7 years
I am a very happily married Momma!! My husband and I waited to have kids until we felt like we were ready, and now we couldn't be happier!!
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