After reading an article last night that my friend linked to on Facebook (Why I can't stop reading Mormom housewife blogs), I felt my world shift a bit. I regularly cruise a lot of these mommies' blogs for inspiration, and the women who write them are supercool, easy going, urban, young, and gorgeous. But the more I got sucked into these blogs of pretty happy people in quirky glasses, skinny jeans, and clogs I pined over, the more I wondered how did these women so seamlessly dress their kids in mini hipster gear, keep gorgeous homes, dress impeccably, stay manicured, nurse, babywear, cook dinner, and keep it all together? The combination of happiness and style was stellar and making me insanely jealous. On top of everything they maintain savvy blogs journaling their experiences and raking in the dough (presumably) on ads lining the sides of their kitschy posts.
I, on the other end of the spectrum, struggle to get a few quick minutes in front of the computer without my 3-year-old wining that she needs me to paint with her, wipe her tush, or get her a snack, and my 3-month-old crying to be held, boobed, diapered, or whatnot. And blogging is just the tip of the iceberg. The list of things that I DON'T get done in a day is longer than I'd like to admit.
So what's the catch? How do they do it? And how can I get to this state of blissful fulfillment in homemaker-dom...and in the blogosphere, of course!
The more I sit with this the more I think they are just not telling the whole story. No one's life is so easy and breezy with kids around. It's nearly impossible to be so perfect AND happy at the same time. So are they doing us a solid or a major disservice?
The optimistic side of me says thanks to these savvy women. They paint a picture I'd like to attain, and that motivation is welcome. Why not focus on the positive things? If you build it they will come, no? Think positive and positivity will come to you. Right?
The cynical side of me (more often the predominant side, though I try...) says that these ladies are just setting us all up for failure. That unattainable goal just makes me feel like I'm lacking, incapable.
So what do I do with my blog? Which is the right road to take? For me it's painting a realistic picture. No one can have projects for their kids every afternoon and cook family dinner, co-sleep and look bright and fresh the next morning, nurse and wear chic clothing, take your kids to ballet and get to yoga for yourself... For me it's refreshing to see other moms struggle a bit. It lets me know that I am doing this mommy thing right, cause everyone drops the ball once in a while, and that's totally okay!
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