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Would You Freeze Your Dying Husband's Sperm to Use Later?

Lisa Roberts, a 34–year–old British woman, lost her husband, James a few years ago to a devastating bone cancer.

Already a mother to seven–year–old son Cameron, the couple chose to freeze James' sperm before he started his cancer treatments.

Hoping he would fight off the illness, they were prepared to use the frozen sperm for future fertilization to grow their family. Sadly, things didn't turn out that way and the father died.

As he laid in hospice during his last days, he asked his wife if she would ever use the sperm, to which she replied, "Definitely." Taking a couple of years to grieve and pick up the pieces, Lisa couldn't fathom pregnancy again without her spouse. But as she pulled her life back together, she knew it was time to welcome James's second child into the world.

After calling various IVF units, Lisa found one that would help her fulfill her wish. Pregnant on the first try, the mum was thrilled and excited to welcome a baby girl into her life with James watching from above. As fate would have it, she swears Jaimie–Rose (named after her father) looks like him, too.

If you knew your spouse was going to die, would you freeze his sperm for future use?
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imdamoos imdamoos 7 years
Would you rather not be alive than not know your father?
krys786 krys786 8 years
Yes! And it's not selfish, everyone!
milosmommy milosmommy 8 years
Sorry I know I'm in the minority on this but I don't think it's fair to the child. But who knows what I would do for sure if I was in that situation. Just my opinion.
Joelgasm Joelgasm 8 years
I kinda of agree with ohjeeze....I mean, MAYBE if we didn't yet have a child or, like someone else said, it was his last request....but otherewise i don't think so....you know what, on second thought I don't think I would at all. I wouldn't want to have to raise a baby on my own and later have that kid ask me about their father.
Joelgasm Joelgasm 8 years
I kinda of agree with ohjeeze.... I mean, MAYBE if we didn't yet have a child or, like someone else said, it was his last request.... but otherewise i don't think so.... you know what, on second thought I don't think I would at all. I wouldn't want to have to raise a baby on my own and later have that kid ask me about their father.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
yes. and look at how cute that :baby: is :kiss:
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 8 years
yes, because i might never want to be with another man. BUT i might not use it if i felt guilty about bringing a child into the world without a father :S jmho
Jennifer777 Jennifer777 8 years
YES!!! Especially if it was something he wanted also and agreed with me doing (this woman's husband did ask her if she planned on using his sperm after he died.) And, ohjeez, yes I would want my husband to use my eggs if the situation was reversed, don't even have to think about it.
RobinFabulous RobinFabulous 8 years
I would, but don'r know if I would ever use it. I've been a single mother to a small child and it is TOUGH. I think sometimes the desire for having a baby trumps all logical thought. For us, it's a choice we struggle with a lot. My SO has 3 children from previous marriage, I have 3 as well, but we do not have one together. I would LOVE to have a child that was "ours" but practicality and sense win me out daily. As much as I love him and would love another baby, I know that I owe too much to the children we already have...
RobinFabulous RobinFabulous 8 years
I would, but don'r know if I would ever use it. I've been a single mother to a small child and it is TOUGH.I think sometimes the desire for having a baby trumps all logical thought. For us, it's a choice we struggle with a lot. My SO has 3 children from previous marriage, I have 3 as well, but we do not have one together. I would LOVE to have a child that was "ours" but practicality and sense win me out daily. As much as I love him and would love another baby, I know that I owe too much to the children we already have...
ohjeeze ohjeeze 8 years
I think there is a difference because with an adopted child you are giving them the chance of having a stable and good life (if that is what you're intentions are), you are acting unselfishly. When you do this you are acting selfishly because you are not thinking about how will this affect the child. As humans we all do selfish things in life, so I am not judging these people but the act itself is selfish
DesignRchic DesignRchic 8 years
But some biological parents request that they not ever be contacted by their adopted child, so where's the difference in that? Isn't it the same as if they were "dead?" I just think it's unfair to say that what this woman did was selfish. Is that how people view abortion too? Probably not.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
There is a huge diff between knowing your parent is dead, and wondering about your bio parents as an adopted child. I am talking death here, not absent fathers or birth parents.
DesignRchic DesignRchic 8 years
Then what do you say about women or men who adopt as single parents? Are these kids going to wonder who their biological parents were? Sure! But that's up to the person who adopted them to teach them about where they came from, what or where their culture/country is but all of course at an appropriate time. I come from a home without a father and I turned out just fine. Maybe as a child they might not understand, but when they become adults I'm sure they will one day identify with their mother's decision. If it were the other way around, I'd leave that decision up to my husband because he's ultimately the one who will live with that decision, not I.
DesignRchic DesignRchic 8 years
Then what do you say about women or men who adopt as single parents? Are these kids going to wonder who their biological parents were? Sure! But that's up to the person who adopted them to teach them about where they came from, what or where their culture/country is but all of course at an appropriate time.I come from a home without a father and I turned out just fine. Maybe as a child they might not understand, but when they become adults I'm sure they will one day identify with their mother's decision. If it were the other way around, I'd leave that decision up to my husband because he's ultimately the one who will live with that decision, not I.
emmebeth emmebeth 8 years
Absolutely!
emmebeth emmebeth 8 years
Absolutely!
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I agree with OhJeeze, its selfish. I understand the need to have something of your dead husbands, or to have a symbol of your love again, but to make this child grow up without that father is just selfish. I lost my father to cancer when i was three, i Have no memories of him and no matter how many pictures i look at , or how many stories people tell me, i carry around the HUGEST hole in my heart for a man i will never know. to deliberately do that to a child is unforgivable in my view.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I agree with OhJeeze, its selfish. I understand the need to have something of your dead husbands, or to have a symbol of your love again, but to make this child grow up without that father is just selfish. I lost my father to cancer when i was three, i Have no memories of him and no matter how many pictures i look at , or how many stories people tell me, i carry around the HUGEST hole in my heart for a man i will never know. to deliberately do that to a child is unforgivable in my view.
ohjeeze ohjeeze 8 years
I'm sorry but to me this is kind of selfish. I would only do it if it was my husbands last dying request. When people do this they are not thinking about the child but themselves. I'm not saying the child cannot have a good life but they will always be thinking about the father they never had. It's like they want to see their husband reincarnated. To all the ladies that answered yes, be honest with yourselves, if you had your eggs frozen and chances are you were going to die would you want your husband to fertilize the eggs and have it implanted in another woman.
secrethoughts secrethoughts 8 years
No doubt.
secrethoughts secrethoughts 8 years
No doubt.
CoconutPie CoconutPie 8 years
I've thought about this before (I think too much) and I would.
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