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Would You Use an Old Name?

Many people dream about their children's names long before they are married or pregnant. One lady I know had all three of her tot's names picked out years before she met her spouse. She's quick to admit that he was just incidental in the grand scheme of her parenting plan.

But what happens when you have planned your life out so well and then things go awry? What if you and your ex-boyfriend picked "Isabel" as your favorite girl's name? Does that mean it's off limits when you actually have a baby with another partner? Or, would you still keep it on your list?




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Greggie Greggie 7 years
I don't think the post is referring to older, traditional names, but names you picked out years ago with someone else.
kaya kaya 7 years
I like some older names because they aren't that common now. My names picked out for our first born is Audrey for a girl and Seth for a boy.
Great-Sommelier Great-Sommelier 7 years
Four must be a big age for name picking!
Great-Sommelier Great-Sommelier 7 years
I had my first child's name picked out from the time I was four. Jude. Boy or girl, it was going to be Jude. My parents are big hippies so I grew up on the Beatles, The Who, etc. I fell in love with the name Jude. Luckily, I married a fellow music devotee who loved the idea. Now we have a beautiful daughter named Jude.
kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
Aw that's a sweet tribute leah :)
leahandcecilia leahandcecilia 7 years
Should clarify, that my husband did not like the name Cecilia at first. oops
leahandcecilia leahandcecilia 7 years
Should clarify, that my husband did not like the name Cecilia at first. oops
leahandcecilia leahandcecilia 7 years
When I was four years old I promised my grandpa, who's name was Cecil, that when and if I had a baby girl I would name her Cecilia after him. I got married and got pregnant with a girl and told him her name was Cecilia and he didn't like it, but I stuck to it and let him choose the middle name. So 20 years later I got to keep my promise and he got a living tribute. Hell or high water wouldn't have changed my mind..haha
leahandcecilia leahandcecilia 7 years
When I was four years old I promised my grandpa, who's name was Cecil, that when and if I had a baby girl I would name her Cecilia after him. I got married and got pregnant with a girl and told him her name was Cecilia and he didn't like it, but I stuck to it and let him choose the middle name. So 20 years later I got to keep my promise and he got a living tribute.Hell or high water wouldn't have changed my mind..haha
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 7 years
I should have added that the other two names I love are, Ava and William.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 7 years
I say keep it although I already have general idea of what I'll name my children so this issue won't happen to me. I adore the names: Chloe and Jacob though my dream is to have four children.
CoralAmber CoralAmber 7 years
I came up with the name Kincaid (Kiki for short) with an old flame, and while I still like it, I think I have come up with two others I would use first with my current boyfriend (Arden and Zalea). Although, both me and his sister like the name Xander for a boy, but since I'm 12 years older than her I think I'll may get to it before her. ;)
codewhiz codewhiz 7 years
I agree that cousins shouldn't have the same name. Why, on my husband's side of the family there are *3* sets of cousins with the same name: two Davids, a Brian and a Bryan, and a Carrol and a Carol.
Greggie Greggie 7 years
I absolutely love the name Delaney, magirl. I agree that names should be chosen by both parents, but I don't think that automatically rules out anything that was thought of previously. If I suggested a name and my husband didn't like it, it wouldn't matter where it originated, it wouldn't be used.
Greggie Greggie 7 years
I absolutely love the name Delaney, magirl.I agree that names should be chosen by both parents, but I don't think that automatically rules out anything that was thought of previously. If I suggested a name and my husband didn't like it, it wouldn't matter where it originated, it wouldn't be used.
milosmommy milosmommy 7 years
I don't think I could use names that I thought up with an ex. In my opinion I think picking out a name should be something that both the mother and father agree/decide upon so I don't think that works.
macgirl macgirl 7 years
If my first child would have been a girl we would have used the name Delaney, which I just love. When I got pregnant with my 2nd husband that name came up and I had to fess up that was on my list before. He didn't mind so much but I did. I just think it would have been weird.
K-is-For-Kait K-is-For-Kait 7 years
I think she means old in the since that you came up with the name ages ago with an old flame. I'm not a parent, but I could never use a name that my ex wanted for their child. For instance, an ex-bf of mine always said (without any prompting from me) that he'd love to name his first son Joshua. I don't think that's a bad name, but I could just never use it because of him. It'd be like an hommage to an old flame. It's just wrong! I've also had incidences where relatives gave their children names I liked, but I'm not in baby mode yet, so I have plenty of time to think of others!
K-is-For-Kait K-is-For-Kait 7 years
I think she means old in the since that you came up with the name ages ago with an old flame.I'm not a parent, but I could never use a name that my ex wanted for their child. For instance, an ex-bf of mine always said (without any prompting from me) that he'd love to name his first son Joshua. I don't think that's a bad name, but I could just never use it because of him. It'd be like an hommage to an old flame. It's just wrong!I've also had incidences where relatives gave their children names I liked, but I'm not in baby mode yet, so I have plenty of time to think of others!
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 7 years
I dont really consider Isabel old. I think its actually pretty popular right now. We have this really old book and it lists popular names in it, I wish I could think of some of them now but they are really off the wall. One in particular that comes to mind is Lavinia. Its so weird! I kind of like it... ;)
anniekim anniekim 7 years
On the side topic--baby name thieves are the worst. But baby name hogs are bad,too. My sister has no kids but she has 2 girl's names she has banned me from using (or tried to ban me from using)just in case she has kids and 2 are girls.
anniekim anniekim 7 years
On the side topic--baby name thieves are the worst. But baby name hogs are bad,too.My sister has no kids but she has 2 girl's names she has banned me from using (or tried to ban me from using)just in case she has kids and 2 are girls.
anniekim anniekim 7 years
I never talked baby names with old boyfreinds, but if I had, and loved a name, I'd keep it as an option. That is, assuming the name is neutral. If the name was a family name of the old boyfriend or a junior or something like that I'd skip it. If the name would always make you think of the old relationship that could cause trouble in the current family dynamic.
anniekim anniekim 7 years
I never talked baby names with old boyfreinds, but if I had, and loved a name, I'd keep it as an option. That is, assuming the name is neutral. If the name was a family name of the old boyfriend or a junior or something like that I'd skip it. If the name would always make you think of the old relationship that could cause trouble in the current family dynamic.
kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
Greggie, that's really sweet of you and your husband to use the name your FIL wanted to use :) I like how it ties family in twice (your FIL and your/her heritage) If for some reason I wound up having a kid with someone other than my SO I would probably still use the boys name I have picked out as it was supposed to be my name if I were a boy. But I'd use a different middle name b/c the middle name picked out is a family thing for my SO. As for a girl - I'd go with a different first name b/c there are others I like more ... my SO and I had a very hard time picking out a girls name - we had to compromise a lot... we still occasionally try to find a different one. The middle name would stay the same b/c it is my middle name. Oh and I think cousins with the same name is fine. Especially if there are quite a few years between them or they don't see each other often.
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