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Do You Buy Shower Gifts From the Bride's Registry?

Do You Buy Shower Gifts From the Bride's Registry?

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Sshhare Sshhare 6 years
Well, MY MOM always told me that it's the thought that counts. I guess you can apply it to the thought the bride and groom have when registering and the thought the gift giver has when they choose the gift to give. It's unfortunate that people are not more sincere. They may not even admit it to themselves, but they want to be invited to events like weddings and parties, so they can enjoy the food and be entertained. They really should be there to wish the bride and groom well, encourage them and be a part of the community. Of course it should be enjoyable, but the reason for a wedding is the bride and groom are announcing their intentions to the community... Then, of course, there ARE greedy couples who start thinking of the loot...and they might not have started that way but end up there. Let's all try to be better and it helps to stop and think about your motives. It is the thought behind the deed that sets our intention - we need more unconditional love in this world.
runningesq runningesq 6 years
Katie, many people WANT to buy the newlyweds gifts... and rather than getting them something they don't need or already have, they can look on the registry. The registry should, of course, contain items in all price ranges (under $25, $25-$50, $75-$100, $100+) and if you hate everything on the registry, then don't buy anything from it... hell, don't buy anything at all. But I would rather get the newlyweds something they WANT and NEED instead of giving them a toaster or towels that don't match their decor.
katiekat95 katiekat95 6 years
I think registries are ridiculous. It just shows how greedy people are. I don't need to buy you a $200 foot massager or a $250 shower head. China, silver and maybe wine glasses is the most I would register for.
aimeeb aimeeb 6 years
I try to although sometimes depending on my money situation and other factors I may not be able to but most of the time I try to.
runningesq runningesq 6 years
I almost always use the registery, unless it's something unqiue that I know they will like ! I got my sister a massage and a sugar rub down at a spa near her house :)
merie33 merie33 6 years
After watching my brother and sister-in-law sort through countless mismatched kitchen towels and 3 different sized crock pots, I will always use the registry. (I wasn't one of the ones who didn't in the first place) The bride and groom take the time to set up the registry in the first place; and unless you have a really good reason, i.e. you can't afford anything off that registry, then there is no reason not to use it.
Modus-Vivendi Modus-Vivendi 6 years
I forgot to say I was wondering if this poll was trying to get at the difference between a wedding gift and a shower gift. I know I'm more likely to get something personal as a shower gift and just buy off the registry for a wedding gift.
heatherhas heatherhas 6 years
I use registry and write something thoughtful in the card. :) The registry is their for a reason! And most brides want those practical gifts, such as towels and nice sheets.
Modus-Vivendi Modus-Vivendi 6 years
I typically buy off the registry (although for a shower for a close friend I might give something more personal that I know she'd like). I would never consider someone who gave me a present rude, though, regardless of whether it was from my registry or not. I don't think it's rude if someone gives me a birthday present that's not from my amazon wish list.
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 6 years
When I got married, it really annoyed me how many people didn't use our resgistry. I actually just ran into the same problem with my baby shower. We registered for certain items for a reason, and we ended up having to return have the gifts people did get us so that we could actually get the stuff we needed and wanted!
Chloe08 Chloe08 6 years
After recently planning our wedding, I am baffled by how many people didn't use our registry. We ended up with so many crock pots and food processers and other random things we have no need or space for and cannot return. I will NEVER buy another bride something not on her registry -- DUH that is the point. I don't understand why people don't get it!
Happsmjc Happsmjc 6 years
Well, its extremely rude to go completely off registry without a GOOD reason (i.e. passing down a family heirloom etc.) However, because I also find it very important to give more personal gifts I always do both. I always give something wine related off the registry, and wine bottles with poems relating to the couples life. Most poems are generic for any couple (i.e. First New Home, First Anniversary etc.) and the bottles should be opened and use when that occasion arises. There are six wine bottles and poems, and I make one more personal (i.e. last day of medical school, passing the bar exam), and then one bottle of grape juice for First Baby for them to open and drink when they find out they are expecting. It's always been a big hit, its super personal, and the actual "gift" be it a wine rack, wine glasses, etc. is something they registered for. (Downside is its time consuming, usually expensive, but I love giving gifts so its worth it!)
insanitypepper insanitypepper 6 years
I stick to the registry. No one should have to deal with trying to return four crock pots.
pharm_chick pharm_chick 6 years
i usually give money or jewelry. i know that some, not all but some brides i personally know that add filler expensive stuff on registries only to return it later to get store credit for something that looks silly to put on a registry lol (like a his and her watch set from fortunoff). why not just give cash and make their life easier lol
Spectra Spectra 6 years
Not usually, but if the couple is registered somewhere cool, I like to go there to find out what they've registered for. Otherwise, I don't buy ugly presents, I just give cash.
lickety-split lickety-split 6 years
off the registry. when we got married we got some lovely gifts that we didn't register for, and now 12 years later i'm finally admitting that they just won't ever have a place in our home. an expensive cashmere throw in lavender, a beige kitchen clock with herbs pressed into the sides, etc. we're cleaning out the garage and the gifts pop up one by one. there's a reason people ask for certain things, so if i am to be remembered for giving the serving bowls; so be it :)
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