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I'm Asking: What's Your Take on Splitting the Bill?

I'm Asking: What's Your Take on Splitting the Bill?

Dinner with friends is always fun, and throughout the meal, we're rarely thinking about the check — but inevitably, it arrives. So, even if you weren't the one ordering that third bottle of wine or partaking in any of the apps for the table to "share," you're going to have to pay for your share of the meal. Still, it starts to get a little tricky, and even uncomfortable if your share differs from the rest of the group. I have a lot of friends, who, no questions asked, will fork over their cards, while others will calculate each person's owed amount down to the last penny. There are of course, other situations where the potential for awkwardness surrounding the check can escalate — what if it's someone's birthday? What if you know someone can't afford their share? So, how do you deal when the check arrives?

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ShantiAfriWaress ShantiAfriWaress 5 years
If you go out with a group to dinner there should be an unspoken understanding that the bill will be divided evenly. If you can't put in your share let be known from the start, because you never know if you are alone in not paying equally. Or maybe, you expect to sip on water all night? :)
Meowphotog Meowphotog 5 years
I went out once for a bachelorette party to a semi expensive restaurant. The group was a mixture of a few personal friends and the bride to be's other friends. Her friends would NOT throw in enough money at all. It was ridiculous. A friend of mine and me decided to just through in an extra 20 each to help cover the remaining bill. It was so pathetic and people wouldn't offer to pay enough for the bride to be or leave a good tip. I'll never go out with her friend's again that's for sure.
gigly_grl gigly_grl 5 years
After too many bad experiences to count I try to make a point to ask for separate bills as soon as we arrive as a group. If I've joined a large group later for drinks and it's obvious the tab is covering the whole table I'll ask the wait staff if I can pay for my drink when I get it or slip out and go to the bar to order. I've only ever been asked once to split the bill evenly and that was before we even ordered, my friend asked if keeping meals to $10 was ok... and I was honestly confused haha Wait staff is pretty good with separate bills around here (Toronto), I think even they know it works out better for everyone.
dani17731 dani17731 5 years
This whole "split the bill" thing is foreign to me. I mean, I've heard of it, but I've NEVER been out with people who've suggested it, and I eat out a lot. Maybe it's a regional thing, because I live in Detroit and have been to several cities in the Midwest and we never do that. How is that fair? If I order $120 worth of food and you order $35, how is that fair to you? I don't think it's cheap or petty to want to pay your share, even if it's down to the penny. It's fair.
Hello890 Hello890 5 years
My friends and I always ask to split the bill before we order. Sometimes we forget and we just end up "owing" each other because we forgot to bring cash (if they will not separate the check for us). But, yeah, it does depend on who I'm with and what the occasion is.
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 5 years
Depends on who I'm with, but generally the consensus is to pay for what you've ordered. But I'm not one who needs to get it down to the penny. Sometimes I'll pay for more or less, because I figure in the end it'll even out. When close friends/relatives come to visit, I'll usually pay for the whole thing. I mean, they spent money to fly out, it's the least I can do.
Spectra Spectra 5 years
We usually just end up splitting up the check by who ordered what. That way, no one feels like they're paying for someone else's food.
J-Rabbit J-Rabbit 5 years
I'm still p.o.'ed about a time I met my friend's BF for the first time and he picked an expensive restaurant to meet at and then we had to split the bill evenly. I didn't drink, didn't order appetizers, and didn't order a meal w/ meat (I'm vegetarian), so my meal was considerably cheaper. I didn't speak up at the time and I really regret it.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 5 years
It depends with who I'm with, too. With close friends and family, I have no problems splitting the bill, even if my entree was less expensive. Shoot, I wouldn't mind paying for the whole bill.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 5 years
I always plan on paying for what I ordered, whether it's just a salad and a pop or whether I'm the one tacking on the extra wine bottles and appetizers. If someone cannot or will not pay for his or her fair share, I cover it that time, and then talk to them about it later.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 5 years
We always expense work meals, so no problem there! With friends, unless there's a huge disparity in what I ate/drank versus what others ate/drank, I usually just go with whatever everyone else wants to do; if they want to split it evenly, that's fine with me. If they'd rather everyone pay for what he/she ate, that's fine, too. We never nickel and dime it, but I do have one group of friends that prefers we look at the price of what each person got. I really don't have much of a preference.
socalbeachgal socalbeachgal 5 years
It depends on who I'm with, if it's my usual group of girlfriends, we just separate the check since over time it works out. Tho, I'm with @skigurl, on the work situations when someone who usually makes a lot more orders the extra bottle of wine and then wants to split the check evenly. Usually with work lunches we ask for separate checks when we order.
poizenisxkandee poizenisxkandee 5 years
depends. in one group of friends we ask the check to be separated before ordering. when dining with my best friend only we tend to switch off. when dining with my close friends from high school it depends on the meal - if it was eaten family style where we get a number of different entrees for everyone to split; we split evenly. if it was eaten where we all ordered different things, we approximate each persons share but tend to round up for tip. it is never really messy for us anymore
fakeplanettelex fakeplanettelex 5 years
i'm okay with splitting the bill if i'm out w/close friends and we had similar orders. with co-workers, we always ask for separate bills so usually it works out fine. it's the birthday dinners/parties that really fire me up. people don't account for tip in a large group, drinks, etc. that is usually when i will nickel & dime it (plus chip in for the birthday person) b/c i'm not going to throw in an extra $60 for someone that tried to skimp out on their fair share. that just isn't right!
khameel khameel 5 years
I think it's only fair to pay for what you order. I hate going out with people who want to split it evenly, when I had something small and cheap, and they had something more expensive.
skigurl skigurl 5 years
if someone can't afford their share, they shouldn't be out to dinner with you at that particular restaurant ordering/eating wine and appies....so i wouldn't worry about that aspect for me, it depends on who i'm with...if it's work people, we usually just ask for seperate bills and it works out okay...if it's with my girlfriends, we just split it fairly evenly and either throw cash on the table of give our cards...we don't nickle and dime it... it's annoying, on the odd chance you're out with people you won't know that well, and they order crazy food and drink and expect you to pay a share of it. if i really don't want any, i'll just not eat any, but otherwise i'll just suck it up and say whatever! there have definitely been awkwars situations though...often it was on business trips...ugh i can't even talk about it it makes me so mad...when people don't pay their fair share....people who make WAY more money than you! like double...and they are your boss...ooooh i'm getting worked up, LOL
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