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Registered For Honeymoon But Didn't Get as Much as We Expected

Ask a Savvy Bride: We Didn't Get the Money We Hoped For

Wedding planning and etiquette can be tricky. If you have a dilemma like the one below, be sure to ask our Savvy Bride for help in the Ask Savvy group.

Dear Savvy,
My fiance and I registered for our honeymoon in lieu of traditional wedding gifts. We're getting married in just three weeks and we haven't gotten anywhere near the amount of money we thought we were going to receive from our registry. I know people have up to a year to buy a gift, but we scheduled our honeymoon right after our wedding. What should we do?

Home For Our Honeymoon?

To see the Savvy Bride's advice, read more.

If you didn't make a note that you were honeymooning immediately after your wedding, it's not a shock to me that you haven't received all your gifts/credits yet. You're right, some people don't buy presents right away so it looks like you might have to foot part of the honeymoon bill yourselves. My best advice for quick funds would be to convert gifts like dinners and spa treatments that you registered for into cash, if possible. If you feel an immediate sense of urgency, see if you can add a statement to the registry now — since your wedding is just weeks away, I'm sure many of your guests will be looking around to see what's left and hopefully the extra push will force them to buy now instead of later.

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bisou002 bisou002 6 years
I've never given a gift prior to the actual wedding - I'll bring my check to the wedding itself. I'd never put together a honeymoon registry; it's really not my style. And to echo previous posters, I'm also a big fan of living within your means. What would have happened if no one at all gave any money towards the honeymoon? What would you have done then?
smart-blonde smart-blonde 6 years
What should you do? You should wait and save the money until you can go on a honeymoon you can afford. My husband and I were not well off when we got married, and we had such a small wedding that there's no way we could have afforded to finance a honeymoon on our gifts. What we did was road-trip to a nearby big city for a few days after the wedding (and it was lots of fun), and we didn't have the honeymoon we wanted until we'd been married 5 years. Believe it or not, we're still happy in spite of our imperfect honeymoon.
sweetcupcake sweetcupcake 6 years
I'm with GlowingMoon. Why are setting yourself up to live beyond your means right after the wedding? Are you not realizing that the economy sucks and if you can't foot the bill, others probably cannot do it either? Put your big girl panties on.
katiekat95 katiekat95 6 years
I find honeymoon registeries extremely tacky. Go on a honeymoon you can afford. Not one that your guests need to pay for.
Happsmjc Happsmjc 6 years
ugh, relax commenters. a lot of people do this these days--i mean people who get married expect gifts regardless if they are traditional china or or now money for a honeymoon, she wasn't complaining and going to make an announcement at the wedding for her guests to leave money at the door for the honeymoon, really. and for all those saying "live within your means". a lot of ppl do over spend for a wedding/honey--again cut a person a break. i would say that i don't pay attention to what im doing for a wedding gift, unless its a close friend or im in the wedding, until the week of, so it will probably pick up then. not that that makes it less stressful, but i am sure most people do the same thing.
Happsmjc Happsmjc 6 years
ugh, relax commenters. a lot of people do this these days--i mean people who get married expect gifts regardless if they are traditional china or or now money for a honeymoon, she wasn't complaining and going to make an announcement at the wedding for her guests to leave money at the door for the honeymoon, really. and for all those saying "live within your means". a lot of ppl do over spend for a wedding/honey--again cut a person a break.i would say that i don't pay attention to what im doing for a wedding gift, unless its a close friend or im in the wedding, until the week of, so it will probably pick up then. not that that makes it less stressful, but i am sure most people do the same thing.
boringgrownup boringgrownup 6 years
Savvy gives the worst advice. Because honestly, do you think that had you specified that your honeymoon was RIGHT AFTER your wedding, your guests would then happily rush to pay for the whole thing? Guests are not obligated to buy everything off your registry. They're not obligated to pay for your honeymoon. They're not even obligated to come. That's why they're called "guests" and not "slaves." You should have told your guests that they were going to a "Please pay for our expensive vacation party." Maybe they already knew and that's why they're not paying up. But seriously, you should be happy that this is your biggest problem. I imagine your honeymoon is not to some third world country to help starving orphans?
boringgrownup boringgrownup 6 years
Savvy gives the worst advice. Because honestly, do you think that had you specified that your honeymoon was RIGHT AFTER your wedding, your guests would then happily rush to pay for the whole thing? Guests are not obligated to buy everything off your registry. They're not obligated to pay for your honeymoon. They're not even obligated to come. That's why they're called "guests" and not "slaves."You should have told your guests that they were going to a "Please pay for our expensive vacation party." Maybe they already knew and that's why they're not paying up.But seriously, you should be happy that this is your biggest problem. I imagine your honeymoon is not to some third world country to help starving orphans?
imLissy imLissy 6 years
Wow. Rule #1, don't expect gifts of any kind. Gifts are something that are nice when you get them. If you rely on them, you have a problem.
imLissy imLissy 6 years
Wow.Rule #1, don't expect gifts of any kind. Gifts are something that are nice when you get them. If you rely on them, you have a problem.
Vampyre Vampyre 6 years
What does she mean by they have up to a year to buy a gift? Does that mean you've given notice of when the wedding will be, a year before it happens, so they have that time to buy a gift? Or does it mean that you have a year, from the day of the wedding, to buy a gift?
Vampyre Vampyre 6 years
What does she mean by they have up to a year to buy a gift? Does that mean you've given notice of when the wedding will be, a year before it happens, so they have that time to buy a gift? Or does it mean that you have a year, from the day of the wedding, to buy a gift?
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
Don't get me started. I'm from the school of thought that people should spend what they earned (i.e. live within their means). And yes, the spending includes funding one's honeymoon.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
Don't get me started.I'm from the school of thought that people should spend what they earned (i.e. live within their means). And yes, the spending includes funding one's honeymoon.
rachekate rachekate 6 years
I think the Honeymoon registry is a good idea (I am personally doing one). But we planned our trip for what we could afford to buy 100% on our own and anything that people put towards it is just a bonus at the end. Honestly it is a racket if you go through the resort because them money can ONLY pay for your trip. And, it is a racket if you do it other ways because none of what people are buying are you actually getting , you really just get cash.
rachekate rachekate 6 years
I think the Honeymoon registry is a good idea (I am personally doing one). But we planned our trip for what we could afford to buy 100% on our own and anything that people put towards it is just a bonus at the end. Honestly it is a racket if you go through the resort because them money can ONLY pay for your trip. And, it is a racket if you do it other ways because none of what people are buying are you actually getting , you really just get cash.
Spectra Spectra 6 years
Seriously? You're complaining because you didn't get enough money to go on the honeymoon you wanted? Grow up and go somewhere cheaper. Guests shouldn't have to foot the entire bill for your honeymoon.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 6 years
Oh my, what would Miss Manners say to this? Probably that no one should go on a honeymoon that's beyond their means.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 6 years
This isn't surprising to me. I've never given anyone their wedding gift 3 weeks before the wedding. Sounds like you're going to be opening up a new credit card . . .
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