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What Is the Most Disposable Wedding Expense?

Everyone has their opinion about which aspects of a wedding are budget-worthy and which can be skipped altogether. Of course I have my own opinions, but I'm more interested in learning what you think a wedding can do without most. Common details I've heard brides ditch because they thought their funds would be better spent elsewhere are wedding favors, a formal wedding cake, and cocktail hour hors d'orderves.

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vvvalerie vvvalerie 6 years
Lots of things. Cake, extravagant flowers, centerpieces, and the DJ (yay friend with an ipod?!). I also think some people go way overboard on transportation costs. I guess I'm pretty low maintenance! Only things I don't agree with skimping on is open bar and food for your guests. If they get you a gift, they deserve to have a good time!
mom2bella mom2bella 6 years
People remember a few things about your wedding that you should not skimp on - the music and the food.Nobody remembers your centerpiece or what flowers were in your bouquet, or how the programs looked.But they will remember if the music sucks (because you skipped a DJ and used your ipod), if there isn't enough food (because you skipped hors d'oveures), if there isn't any cake, if they don't get a favor.
mom2bella mom2bella 6 years
People remember a few things about your wedding that you should not skimp on - the music and the food. Nobody remembers your centerpiece or what flowers were in your bouquet, or how the programs looked. But they will remember if the music sucks (because you skipped a DJ and used your ipod), if there isn't enough food (because you skipped hors d'oveures), if there isn't any cake, if they don't get a favor.
mischeva mischeva 7 years
Wedding favours are a simple thank you for your guests, it can be supper simple ( i'd agree that edible is best ). Cutting it out is saying that it's all about you, very selfish IMO!Wedding cakes ... usually totally over the top, we had a cupcake tree with a cake on the top layer ... Guests still got their cake and we still have the top for our first anniversary, saved a lot! :)Hors d'orderves is what you feed people while they WAIT for dinner while you spend two hours getting your pictures taken...Want to save some money? Be reasonable, your dress, hair, makeup ... all those things cost a lot!Don't be selfish with your budget! There are many way to moderate your budget without cheaping out on your guests.
mischeva mischeva 7 years
Wedding favours are a simple thank you for your guests, it can be supper simple ( i'd agree that edible is best ). Cutting it out is saying that it's all about you, very selfish IMO! Wedding cakes ... usually totally over the top, we had a cupcake tree with a cake on the top layer ... Guests still got their cake and we still have the top for our first anniversary, saved a lot! :) Hors d'orderves is what you feed people while they WAIT for dinner while you spend two hours getting your pictures taken... Want to save some money? Be reasonable, your dress, hair, makeup ... all those things cost a lot! Don't be selfish with your budget! There are many way to moderate your budget without cheaping out on your guests.
MrsSchell508 MrsSchell508 7 years
I would agree with alot of the previous postings. I just got married three months ago and my husband and I had a wedding for about 100 people for only $5000. We got married in a garden which eliminated the need for decorations, only did a heavy hor d'ouevres reception, his aunt makes soy candles so we bought some of those in our wedding colors and used them as the centerpieces on the tables and let people take them home as favors.I think the key is really just to figure out what's most important to you. We knew we wanted a good photographer and good food at the reception so the majority of our budget went to those items. We still shopped around alot to find the best deals we could. Everything else we did as inexpensively as possible; printed our own invites, save the dates and programs, found a florist who could do our flowers for just $300, etc.So just take the time and you can easily have a nice wedding without blowing your budget!
MrsSchell508 MrsSchell508 7 years
I would agree with alot of the previous postings. I just got married three months ago and my husband and I had a wedding for about 100 people for only $5000. We got married in a garden which eliminated the need for decorations, only did a heavy hor d'ouevres reception, his aunt makes soy candles so we bought some of those in our wedding colors and used them as the centerpieces on the tables and let people take them home as favors. I think the key is really just to figure out what's most important to you. We knew we wanted a good photographer and good food at the reception so the majority of our budget went to those items. We still shopped around alot to find the best deals we could. Everything else we did as inexpensively as possible; printed our own invites, save the dates and programs, found a florist who could do our flowers for just $300, etc. So just take the time and you can easily have a nice wedding without blowing your budget!
SillyGirl SillyGirl 7 years
I cant believe all of these food and drinks should not be necessary comments. If I am taking a day out of my life to celebrate with you, spending time picking a present, and then spend 3+ hours at your wedding, i would like to be fed, and I would like to at least have some wine. If you cant afford a formal dinner and a hard bar, totally understandable, so tone down the wedding have a fun picnic style wedding or something equally casual, and serve fried chicken and beer for all I care. But if all these people go out of their way to celebrate you on your day, the least you can do is show some hospitality. Skip the favors unless they are special and handmade (and always edible if you expect people to keep them). Serve cupcakes or pies, or buy a sheet cake to cut down on that expense. Go with simple flowers like daisies everywhere in a simple glass vase with a ribbon to cut down on lavish floral arrangements. But dont skimp on hospitality - the point of the celebration is to show your guests a good time - not how "done-up" you or the banquet hall looks.
SillyGirl SillyGirl 7 years
I cant believe all of these food and drinks should not be necessary comments. If I am taking a day out of my life to celebrate with you, spending time picking a present, and then spend 3+ hours at your wedding, i would like to be fed, and I would like to at least have some wine. If you cant afford a formal dinner and a hard bar, totally understandable, so tone down the wedding have a fun picnic style wedding or something equally casual, and serve fried chicken and beer for all I care. But if all these people go out of their way to celebrate you on your day, the least you can do is show some hospitality.Skip the favors unless they are special and handmade (and always edible if you expect people to keep them). Serve cupcakes or pies, or buy a sheet cake to cut down on that expense. Go with simple flowers like daisies everywhere in a simple glass vase with a ribbon to cut down on lavish floral arrangements. But dont skimp on hospitality - the point of the celebration is to show your guests a good time - not how "done-up" you or the banquet hall looks.
CurlyGrrrl CurlyGrrrl 7 years
P.S. My wedding favors were my favorite - we took little metal tins and filled them with tea bags of Cherry Blossom tea (we were living in D.C. at the time - people could use the tins for all kinds of things...most common use is "I have it in my sewing kit at home and it is so handy") and made a CD with a lot of our favorite songs...not wedding songs (i.e. no Sinatra), but a lot of songs that were kind of romantic or funny or really "us" - people still tell me that they found a new favorite band through those CDs. ;-)
CurlyGrrrl CurlyGrrrl 7 years
I'm a wedding planner....and I think that what is "most disposable" depends on the couple...For example: If you're going to have a really cool wedding cake - maybe skip the sort-of-average favors.It's all really a matter of budgeting - when you start out, pick a few things that you REALLY like the idea of - and focus on those. If it's amazing favors and expensive invitations, maybe skip the cake and favors....but DON'T EVER EVER EVER get a subpar photographer. This is the LEAST disposable wedding budget item. When you're done with your "big day" - you'll have some new jewelry, a husband, photographs and some wonderful memories. If you have EXTRA money to spend (hah!) think about getting a videographer - because one of the most cherished memories of a lot of my brides a few years later is having the toasts that their friends and loved ones made to them during their wedding.All the best.~Sarahredlotusevents@hotmail.com
CurlyGrrrl CurlyGrrrl 7 years
I'm a wedding planner....and I think that what is "most disposable" depends on the couple...For example: If you're going to have a really cool wedding cake - maybe skip the sort-of-average favors. It's all really a matter of budgeting - when you start out, pick a few things that you REALLY like the idea of - and focus on those. If it's amazing favors and expensive invitations, maybe skip the cake and favors....but DON'T EVER EVER EVER get a subpar photographer. This is the LEAST disposable wedding budget item. When you're done with your "big day" - you'll have some new jewelry, a husband, photographs and some wonderful memories. If you have EXTRA money to spend (hah!) think about getting a videographer - because one of the most cherished memories of a lot of my brides a few years later is having the toasts that their friends and loved ones made to them during their wedding. All the best. ~Sarah redlotusevents@hotmail.com
loveyoulots loveyoulots 7 years
Lawchick I so agree that I would not want to have a champagne glass w/ some else's name on it. I in the planning stage and I love chocolate so I think we will do the personalized m&m's as favors. I'm thinking just do the wedding colors and maybe mix in some with our faces or weding date or one's that say thanks on them. I have also heard of using a styrofoam cake with a real piece to cut and them giving guests sheet cake.
thedanmole thedanmole 7 years
I think if you are planning on taking pictures after your ceremony its only a polite to give your guests something to eat while they wait. I remember attending a wedding where the hosts didn't serve appetizers while they took pictures for over 2 hours and everyone complained that the might as well have save money and not had chairs at the reception too! Secondly, if I have on a cute expensive dress and heels, the last thing I want to do after standing in line for 10 minutes, is to balance my plate of peas as I weave back to my table - not a fan of the buffet.I think nixing elaborate centerpieces, stupid Hummer limos, $200 updos and makeup, bride and groom gifts and opting for a consumption bar are ways to cut costs without imposing it on your guests.
thedanmole thedanmole 7 years
I think if you are planning on taking pictures after your ceremony its only a polite to give your guests something to eat while they wait. I remember attending a wedding where the hosts didn't serve appetizers while they took pictures for over 2 hours and everyone complained that the might as well have save money and not had chairs at the reception too! Secondly, if I have on a cute expensive dress and heels, the last thing I want to do after standing in line for 10 minutes, is to balance my plate of peas as I weave back to my table - not a fan of the buffet. I think nixing elaborate centerpieces, stupid Hummer limos, $200 updos and makeup, bride and groom gifts and opting for a consumption bar are ways to cut costs without imposing it on your guests.
stacey07 stacey07 7 years
it's your day get what you can afford,dont go into debt for anything that you can't afford.you can have a great wedding for $10,000 and under. iam an events designer/floral designer take my word for it
ChanelLover ChanelLover 7 years
I've thought about this before and I think if I cut back on anything it will probably be on the amount of people I invite because if I have a smaller wedding than I can have more of the things I want at my wedding. Besides smaller is more intimate and personal.
crystaljune crystaljune 7 years
I splurged on the dress, cake, and reception. I saved by having the ceremony at our state's capitol building, which was free and I did without the musical trio that I originally thought I had to have to walk down the isle to. I found a student violinist on craigslist to perform for less than a quarter of the price of the trio!
Ladytron7000 Ladytron7000 7 years
My biggest money saver was doing my own flowers. Luckily, I'm in good with my hair salon, so the bridesmaids and I had the whole place to ourselves the big day. Those who were not in a chair trimmed and arranged bouquets and arrangments. I just ordered from a wholesaler three different kinds of red flowers with different textures. Medium roses, some other oriental-type orchid (maybe?) and carnations for filler. We made a giant centerpiece out of the orchids(?) for the guestbook table and scattered bags of rose petals on the table and on our cake. The local itself was quite ornate and didn't need much to dress it up, so that helped, too, very little decor expense.
mlo319 mlo319 7 years
My fiance and I are definately for going the favors...But my question is what do I replace the cake with? I'm not fan of cake and he doesn't really care, but everyone tells me I need some kind of dessert. What should I do?
leahtron leahtron 7 years
I've worked in catering since high school, so I see a lot of weddings, and I think most of the reception is ridiculously excessive. One thing in particular though - the new trend is to get a cardboard cake wrapped in fondant just for show and have sheet cakes in the kitchen. The cake's pretty much just a symbol if you ask me - I've had my share of wedding cake and none of it seems worth it.
hvanness331 hvanness331 7 years
My thoughts were to not spend an extravagant amount of money on wedding invitations. I've received some of the most beautiful invites in the mail (with bows, organza ribbon, vellum overlay, etc), write it in the calendar, then throw it in the trash...thinking, those were probably $3.50 a piece or more!
ches ches 7 years
ah! who needs wedding favors any way ;0
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