I'm at the crossroads of my life

Nov 23, 2009 - I plan to tell my husband of 4 years tonight that its over. I know in my head its the logical thing to do.  We are both in our 40's and we never intended to have any children. - 6 Comments

What do I do about recent breakup?

Nov 10, 2009 - So about a month and a half ago, my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I broke up.  He is afraid of the next step to our commitment, which I think he thinks is either engagement or marriage.  I have not pressured him explicitly, but being a girl, I'm sure I have subconsciously.  His reasoning was that he says he needs time to be single and selfish and that he has issues to figure out, but still really cares about me.  He says it has nothing to do with me and that if he wanted to be in a relationship right now he would be in one with me.  We have been in contact since we broke up and when we do talk or see each other, it is like nothing happened and is totally normal between us.  I feel like he is my best friend so it is so hard not to stay in contact with him because even when I don't instigate the conversation, he does.  I know a lot of people will probably say don't talk to him, but I don't know if that is the solution.  He tells me that the upcoming holidays, Valentine's Day, and his birthday will be really hard for him (he is 30 and I am 27 and this all seemed to stem from his fear of turning 30), but that he feels like he needs these next 6 months to clear his head.  He said that time will tell what will happen with us, and I do believe that, I just hate waiting :) Also, his twin brother, who has been dating his girlfriend for almost 4 years has what seems to be the same issues with commitment.  It is weird because they come from a great family with great commitment role models.  Their mom and dad have been married for 40 years and their older brother has been married for 10 years.  I just don't know what to do with regards to this.  I am trying not to hold myself back and to go and meet other people to see what is out there, but I really had thought that we were going to spend our lives together.  Does anyone recommend couple's counseling?  Has anyone been in a similar situation?  I just need some guidance.  Thanks! - 9 Comments

How do you know if you've fallen out of love with someone?

Nov 05, 2009 - I don't know if my boyfriend and I are in the middle of one of those "dips in the cycle" that everyone says longterm couples go through (we've been going out about 2 years), but I just haven't felt very many positive feelings at all towards him lately. I got a new BC prescription in June, so I wonder if that has anything to do with how I feel, but I'm not so sure. It's been this way for about a month and a half. I'll have one random day in a 2 week span in which I wake up adoring him, but then I get slighted by the silliest things and all the feelings are replaced by insecurity, and then I just go back to apathy.  get ticked beyond belief when he asks to borrow my cell because his died (it's completely destroyed, not just left off the charger for a night), or when he borrows my car, or when he's playing video games that have no way to involve me in them (he plays at least 5 hours of video games a day, I swear - I've only started being that bad this week because I've had swine flu and nothing else to do). - 9 Comments

To break up or make up?

Oct 31, 2009 - Yesterday my boyfriend and I celebrated our two year anniversary. We met our sophomore year in high school and starting dating our senior year. After high school, I went away to a biblical college and he entered the work force. - 7 Comments

What's wrong with me?

Oct 20, 2009 - My boyfriend is amazing. He wants to marry me, has even gone to couseling with me when I was misunderstanding all his actions (we have most of that straightened out), has given me the confidence to stand against my family in one of the few amazingly rare circumstances that warranted it, has helped to provide for me and been my best friend while I'm at school - but I can't stop finding stupid things wrong with him and blowing them up in my head. Then I get paranoid, and confront him about it, and it will all have been that he hasn't done anything wrong in the first place and I've gone and accused him of something (eating too much Asian food, hoarding his money, not taking care of himself, not caring what my family thinks of him, not caring about me, not being concerned enough to get a job after graduation - I've seriously run the gamut here). - 4 Comments

Bill to Allow Same-Sex Marriage Introduced in DC

Oct 06, 2009 - (Patricia Hawkins, 69, a psychologist who works in Washington, wipes a tear as a bill allowing same-sex marriage in the District of Columbia is introduced at a city council meeting in Washington, on Tuesday, Oct. 6, 2009. (AP Photo/Jacquelyn Martin)) Same-sex couples would be allowed to marry in the nation's capital under a bill introduced Tuesday by a District of Columbia councilman. - 8 Comments

Am I settling?

Sep 30, 2009 - I am 22, my bf is 24. We dated for 2 years, broke up for two and got back together a little over a year ago, we are both very down to earth people easy going and have goal in our lives. We were foing great except for small things.. - 7 Comments