What do I do about recent breakup?

Nov 10, 2009 - So about a month and a half ago, my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I broke up.  He is afraid of the next step to our commitment, which I think he thinks is either engagement or marriage.  I have not pressured him explicitly, but being a girl, I'm sure I have subconsciously.  His reasoning was that he says he needs time to be single and selfish and that he has issues to figure out, but still really cares about me.  He says it has nothing to do with me and that if he wanted to be in a relationship right now he would be in one with me.  We have been in contact since we broke up and when we do talk or see each other, it is like nothing happened and is totally normal between us.  I feel like he is my best friend so it is so hard not to stay in contact with him because even when I don't instigate the conversation, he does.  I know a lot of people will probably say don't talk to him, but I don't know if that is the solution.  He tells me that the upcoming holidays, Valentine's Day, and his birthday will be really hard for him (he is 30 and I am 27 and this all seemed to stem from his fear of turning 30), but that he feels like he needs these next 6 months to clear his head.  He said that time will tell what will happen with us, and I do believe that, I just hate waiting :) Also, his twin brother, who has been dating his girlfriend for almost 4 years has what seems to be the same issues with commitment.  It is weird because they come from a great family with great commitment role models.  Their mom and dad have been married for 40 years and their older brother has been married for 10 years.  I just don't know what to do with regards to this.  I am trying not to hold myself back and to go and meet other people to see what is out there, but I really had thought that we were going to spend our lives together.  Does anyone recommend couple's counseling?  Has anyone been in a similar situation?  I just need some guidance.  Thanks! - 9 Comments

Realistically, is he good for me? I've never been so torn.

Oct 15, 2009 - Hi, I just joined after browsing for a bit... it looks like there are wonderful and very intelligent people here. :) First of all, I'm only 20 and I guess this is the first real love I've ever had... - 21 Comments

Big wedding: 20,000 gather for mass nuptials

Oct 14, 2009 - ASAN, South Korea - Brides in white gowns and Japanese kimonos joined grooms in black suits and red ties Wednesday for the Unification Church's biggest mass wedding in a decade — a spectacle church officials say involves 40,000 people around the world. The "blessing ceremony" is the church's largest since 1999, and may well be the last on such a grand scale officiated by the 89-year-old Rev. Sun Myung Moon, the controversial founder of the Unification Church. - 3 Comments

President Obama’s Nobel Reaction

Oct 09, 2009 - Following is a transcript of President Obama’s remarks in response to receiving the Nobel Peace Prize, as transcribed by CQ Transcriptions. PRESIDENT OBAMA: Good morning. Well, this is not how I expected to wake up this morning. - 14 Comments

Half of babies born in rich world will live to 100

Oct 02, 2009 - LONDON (Reuters) – More than half of babies born in rich nations today will live to be 100 years old if current life expectancy trends continue, according to Danish researchers. Increasing numbers of very old people could pose major challenges for health and social systems, but the research showed that may be mitigated by people not only living longer, but also staying healthier in their latter years. "Very long lives are not the distant privilege of remote future generations -- very long lives are the probable destiny of most people alive now in developed countries," Kaare Christensen of the Danish Aging Research Center wrote on Friday in a study in the Lancet medical journal. - 6 Comments

really torn.... any insights truly appreciated : )

Sep 26, 2009 - OK so I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this question, but for some reason I can't tell myself the truth and take action. So bottomline, I fell for an older, very charming man 5 years ago.  I was 22 at the time, he was 35... - 11 Comments