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oral sex quandry

Thu, 18 Dec 2008 16:41:34 -0800

My loving wife of 17 years does not enjoy receiving oral sex. She says (and I believe her) that she is self conscious about the way she smells and tastes and thinks the whole idea of cunnilingus is dirty. (She loves giving me oral sex, however, and is very good at it). I have several issues with this.
I LOVE giving oral sex. If I had my way, it would be a normal precursor each time out (or in, as the case may be)
I am VERY adept at it - it's a combination of stamina, technique, being taught by a much much older girlfriend the right way a long time ago, and a genuine, heartfelt excitement for the priveledge of being there. I have had GFs in the past tell me how much they enjoyed my talents, and one in particular was a practicing bi-sexual and said it was better than any "homefield advantage" she had ever had.
I LOVE the way my wife tastes, and have told her so. She has tasted herself on a few occasions and has commented, "Hey, that's not bad at all."
Here's the ringer: the few times I am "allowed" to do it (maybe 2-3 times per year), the sex is always AMAZING and super hot. When given the opportunity, I have raised by wife to multiple orgasms using only my mouth and hands, so even with her reluctant approval, I know she, shall we say, takes to it very well.
My fantasy is to have her walk up to me out of the blue and say, "Get down there and get after it, mister" strip from the waist down, grab me by the back of my head and treat me like a virile cabana boy.

Help me figure out a way to bring her around PLEASE!!!

Men Who Sexually Harass Women Aren’t Being Sexist

PinkNC — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 09:12:57 -0800

Kingsely R. Browne recasts sexual harassment in terms of sex differences in mating strategies. Women reporting sexual harassment complain they have been subjected to degrading, intimidating and abusive treatment by male coworkers.

However, Browne points out that before women entered the workforce, men subjected each other to similar degrading, intimidating and abusive treatment. These are simply part of the tactics men employ in competitive situations.

Thus, by subjecting women to this kind of treatment, men are not treating women differently from men (which is the legal definition of discrimination under which sexual harassment falls) – but treating them the same. Men harass women because they are not discriminating between men and women.

Conclusion: Be an equal-opportunity a-hole?
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Here is the question: Do you ladies agree with this article?

PinkNC wants to know......Can you honestly believe that men subjected each other to similar degrading, intimidating and abusive treatment before the woman arrives in the workplace?
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When Should You Walk Away?

PinkNC — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 11:39:08 -0800

When you meet someone and begin to build your life around them because you feel you’re finally deeply in love, it can be pretty hard to leave them when they begin to show disrespectful and aggressive behavior towards you.

Here are a few examples of men’s unacceptable behaviors:

1. Physical Abuse
2. Cheating
3. Verbal Abuse
4. Disrespect for Your Friends & Family
5. Drugs & Alcohol
6. Forgetfulness - (He may claim to have forgetfulness when he is really just being lazy & doesn’t want to work & buy you anything)

7. Accidental Insults - Men and women speak a different language. "I didn't intend to hurt you by what I said," is not a good excuse, but sometimes we accidentally say hurtful things. Sadly, men may say this TOO often because he IS meaning to disrespect you.

Be mindful and know when it’s the right time to leave him. Remember that most times, in my opinion, just after the so called “accidental verbal insults” comes the daily flat out verbal abuse, then finally in the end comes the physical abuse.

Too many women stand by their tainted men because they have set their own standards TOO low to begin with. If you settle for a disrespectful man because you do not see yourself as getting anything better than him, then I advise you to check yourself before you mentally and physically hurt yourself for life. Step back and take time for YOU and learn what is acceptable from a man that can truly make you happy. Now tell me, PinkNC wants to know.

Here are the questions: Is it worth being in a dreadful long term relationship as you still hope for the best between you two, or is it better to be alone until Mr. Right finally comes along?

Have you ever been in any of the situations that I mentioned above….if so, how did you overcome your devastating relationship?
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9 Great Places To Meet People (Other Than Bars)

PinkNC — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 11:33:04 -0800

Here are some good non-alcoholic meeting spots:

1.The Supermarket

2. Art Shows - Art openings are usually festive affairs that naturally feed conversation around the artist and their art.

3. Museums & Zoos - Museums are full of conversation-starters.

4. Concerts/Shows/Plays - People gather before the show starts, and intermissions provide a little window to chat with people about the production. Then, at the end of the production, there's always time too.

5. The Park - It might be a little stalkerish to approach someone sitting by themselves in the park; just don't corner someone, and you're usually OK kicking up a little conversation. If you're both doing a similar physical activity such as roller blading or biking, you might have a little in with someone.

6. Sporting Events - Even if you're in a sports bar (not drinking), there is plenty to talk about as people react to their team's performance, or wear sports apparel reflecting their team allegiance. At actual events, you might meet people in the parking lot while tailgating, and later on in the stadium.

7. Book Stores/Cafes - Lots of people talk about books they are reading, even when someone approaches them and asks them about the book. Book stores surround us with conversation-starting items. You can even "select" someone based on what section they are browsing.

8. Classes - Any type of class (boxing, yoga, acting, music, computers) is a great place to meet people. Any class you join will include people with similar interests. It's a low-pressure environment that encourages teamwork. And, even if you don't meet that special someone, you're still improving yourself.

9. The Mall - Shopping is full of opportunities. There are niche stores such as music, clothing, or whatever that might bring you in contact with people with similar interests.

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Here is the question: Have you ever had any luck at the above venues? What non-bar or non-alcoholic venues would you add to this list and why?
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Threesomes…are they really a recipe for DOOM!

PinkNC — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 11:42:59 -0800

We often here that threesomes can feel so good while committing the act but later down the road jealousy and control issues begin. We also know that when one person in the relationship is wanting threesome sex again and again even though their partner doesn’t want to do it anymore, is just another part of this recipe of doom, in the relationship.

So, PinkNC wants your thoughts on this one

Here is the question: Have you ever had a threesome or know of one that turned out good for both parties, with no arguments, jealousy or control issues, that happened after the sex act that you all committed?
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Have You Ever Done This? ...5 Things To Consider Before Saying "I Love You"

PinkNC — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 11:31:40 -0800

1. Who Goes First?
2. Do You Really Mean It?
3. Was it Spontaneous Or Planned?
4. Is It The Right Time?
5. Is It Better To Show It Than Say It?

Here are the questions:

*What are your thoughts on saying "I Love You" for the first time?

*Do you shy away from saying it for the first time?

*What effects has the phrase had on your relationship after it's been said?

*Have you ever been manipulated or used the words to manipulate someone in a relationship?

Tell PinkNC your thoughts on this one
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Is using YOUR gift card on a first date lame?

PinkNC — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 11:08:29 -0800

We all have been given gift cards at one time or another, to use ONLY on ourselves, but sometimes we use them on other people if we cannot afford or don’t want to afford paying for something with our own hard earned dollar bills.

Here is the question: Is it lame to pay on a first date with a gift card?

Tell PinkNC your thoughts on this one

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Is Overthinking a Relationship Ever Good?

PinkNC — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 10:58:14 -0800

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It's tough, because first instincts can be too much of an impulse, but overthinking can lead you down the wrong decision path.

Here are the questions:

Do you think it's best to listen to your first instinct and then close the book on the discussion?

Do you run into trouble when you over think things?

Do you have any examples of ignoring the right instinct and ruining what could have been a good thing?

Tell PinkNC your thoughts on this one
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Sexpertise Quiz / Myth or Fact

PinkNC — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 08:34:38 -0800

You like to have it and feel great afterward... of course we're talking about sex! While hitting the sheets with your partner may be the best part of your day, how much do you really know when it comes to all things sex? Take this sex myths quiz to find out.......Enjoy!!

Take the quiz

Do you like kissing and cuddling better than sex sometimes?

PinkNC — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 22:10:47 -0800

"It's fun to lose yourself in a kiss, and because there is so much anticipation and anxiety over that first physical contact with someone; usually there is great release with the kiss. Kissing, even more than sex or cuddling, lends itself to spontaneity because you can do it any time or anywhere"

But sometimes even when you’re home alone you don’t want to have to sex but you still want to get close. There’s nothing wrong with just a little play pillow fighting…it’s fun! Now, PinkNC wants to know.

So, do you like kissing and cuddling better than sex with your mate sometimes? Do you prefer intimacy over the actual sex act?

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