Should I break up with my boyfriend?

Feb 09, 2009 - I'm 20, and I've been with my BF for 15 months now. We're both in college, though he is 25 because his family couldn't afford to pay for his education all at once, so he did 3 years, worked for 2 and came back. Last semester he took 21 hours (the max allowed at my school) even though I told him it was a bad idea, and he became extremely withdrawn. - 8 Comments

What do I do about recent breakup?

Nov 10, 2009 - So about a month and a half ago, my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I broke up.  He is afraid of the next step to our commitment, which I think he thinks is either engagement or marriage.  I have not pressured him explicitly, but being a girl, I'm sure I have subconsciously.  His reasoning was that he says he needs time to be single and selfish and that he has issues to figure out, but still really cares about me.  He says it has nothing to do with me and that if he wanted to be in a relationship right now he would be in one with me.  We have been in contact since we broke up and when we do talk or see each other, it is like nothing happened and is totally normal between us.  I feel like he is my best friend so it is so hard not to stay in contact with him because even when I don't instigate the conversation, he does.  I know a lot of people will probably say don't talk to him, but I don't know if that is the solution.  He tells me that the upcoming holidays, Valentine's Day, and his birthday will be really hard for him (he is 30 and I am 27 and this all seemed to stem from his fear of turning 30), but that he feels like he needs these next 6 months to clear his head.  He said that time will tell what will happen with us, and I do believe that, I just hate waiting :) Also, his twin brother, who has been dating his girlfriend for almost 4 years has what seems to be the same issues with commitment.  It is weird because they come from a great family with great commitment role models.  Their mom and dad have been married for 40 years and their older brother has been married for 10 years.  I just don't know what to do with regards to this.  I am trying not to hold myself back and to go and meet other people to see what is out there, but I really had thought that we were going to spend our lives together.  Does anyone recommend couple's counseling?  Has anyone been in a similar situation?  I just need some guidance.  Thanks! - 9 Comments

Multiracial Relationships

Oct 19, 2009 - PLEASE I REALLY NEED ADVICE!!!!!!!! MY WHOLE FUTURE DEPENDS ON IT.   my husband and i started dating about 2yrs ago and we are both from 2 different worlds... - 5 Comments

BF is verbally & emotionally abusive. Does therapy really work?? Is there any hope? Sorry so long....

Oct 06, 2009 - My BF is verbally and emotionally abusive. This I know for certain. I don’t even know where to begin because it’s all too much!! - 8 Comments

Domestic violence as pre-existing condition? 8 states still allow it

Oct 04, 2009 - By Les Blumenthal | McClatchy Newspapers WASHINGTON — Eight states and the District of Columbia don't have laws that specifically bar insurance companies from using domestic violence as a pre-existing condition to deny health coverage, according to a study from the National Women's Law Center. The states are Idaho, Mississippi, North Carolina, North Dakota, Oklahoma, South Carolina, South Dakota and Wyoming. The study by the nonpartisan, nonprofit center focused on individual coverage, not group coverage. - 40 Comments

How to accept my new stepmom and stepsiblings??

Sep 28, 2009 - My dad just got remarried over the weekend. It was very painful and difficult for me and my sisters because we have never had a good relationship with him. My parents were together for over 40 years when my dad left my mom. - 4 Comments

Ok. So bear with me. I'm new here.

Sep 21, 2009 - Hello and welcome!  I don't really know who would possibly be reading this, I only know that I've been reading other blogs and I've become 'hooked'.  I find myself thinking of the things I would like to say or write about - pretty much all day long.  I kinda figure that at the very least this is going to be a bit of a journal while I'm trying to figure out my life.  We'll see where it goes from here... I think I should start at the beginning, but which one?  The beginning of me and my life?  The beginning of my relationship with my soon to be ex-husband?  The beginning of my trying to be 'me' as a single and dating Mom (now)?  I guess we need some background here to start off... So basic me: 

• I am a small town girl that moved to the big city to go to College.  I have a Degree in Psychology and Sociology as well as a Diploma in Child & Youth Work.   I tell you this only because for so long I felt that my job really defined me (but that's a whole other entry...). 

• So I moved to the city in June 1995.  I had two roommates from my hometown.  I met my future husband on November 29, 1995.  So my big city dating lasted for only a short 5 months.  I met 'him' on a telephone chat line.  My roommates and our friends would all get on the extensions around the apartment and flirt and chat and goof around on the chat line.  Slowly we all started going on on our own and actually meeting guys seriously.  I can't remember exactly how many but I probably met around 8-10 guys off of the chat line.

So as this is just the getting-to-know the background post I will give a general overview of the next part.  Let me start by saying that I DID NOT sleep with him on the first date. - 0 Comments

I wish every elected official could be challenged in a primary

Sep 09, 2009 - The Murtha Method Computer Analysis Shows 12 of 16 House Defense Subcommittee Members in Controversial Circles of Lobbyists, Earmarks, and Campaign Cash By The Center for Public Integrity | September 08, 2009 For months, a cloud has swirled around Congressman John Murtha (D-Pa.), chairman of the powerful House Appropriations Defense Subcommittee, and the relationship that Murtha and other subcommittee members had with the PMA Group, a lobbying firm filled with former subcommittee aides. Index Follow the links to see reporting on individual committee members. ■Reps. - 4 Comments

Big Food vs. Big Insurance

Sep 14, 2009 - Kinda long...so I only posted the first page. I linked the second page of the article at the bottom. By MICHAEL POLLAN Published: September 9, 2009 TO listen to President Obama’s speech on Wednesday night, or to just about anyone else in the health care debate, you would think that the biggest problem with health care in America is the system itself — perverse incentives, inefficiencies, unnecessary tests and procedures, lack of competition, and greed. - 25 Comments

Obama's election and the health care reform push would have been impossible without the dumbing down of academia.

Aug 27, 2009 - Obama’s Civilian Troops Were Trained by Ayers Obama's election and the health care reform push would have been impossible without the dumbing down of academia. Mary Grabar earned her Ph.D. in English from the University of Georgia and teaches in the Atlanta area. - 3 Comments