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Tech Dating 101: Using Your Phone While on a Date

DearSugar — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 11:42:02 -0700

Sometimes we all need a little help navigating the choppy waters of dating when tech gets tossed into the mix, which is why geeksugar and I have teamed up for another installment of Tech Dating 101. Last week, we talked about canceling a date via text, and this week we're discussing whether or not texting and making calls during your date is acceptable dinner etiquette.

Can I text and make phone calls during a date without being rude?

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I'll make this one simple. Using your phone while you're on a date is rude - period. A date should be about you and the person you're with, trying to get to know one another, enjoying your time together, and most importantly, not worrying about what your friends are doing or who is trying to get in touch with you.

If you're on a date with your long-term boyfriend or your husband, my opinion is a little different, especially if you have kids. While I think having chats at the dinner table is still impolite, I do think checking to see who is calling or reading a text is acceptable if you're trying to make plans with other couples or if you're calling to check in with the babysitter, but taking it any further is still a no-no in my book.

However, if you're on a blind date and you think there's a chance you'll need to make a quick escape, by all means keep that phone on the table for your "emergency call" from your best friend!

To see what my girl geek has to say, be sure to click here!

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Where Do You Stand? Sharing Food

DearSugar — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 07:30:00 -0800

It's no secret that most restaurants are overfeeding us, yet many of us continue to order our own appetizers, entrees, and desserts. But now that people are penny-pinching every chance they get, David Pogrebin, general manager of Brasserie in New York, says people are splitting things like they never have before.

Being frugal is the name of the game these days, so even if you weren't a fan of sharing food before, would you now that you're watching your pocketbook more closely?

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Do Tell: What Does "Hooking Up" Mean to You?

DearSugar — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 10:00:00 -0800

I overheard some guys talking at a restaurant the other night. One of them was dishing about a girl he "hooked up" with, and he went on to talk about this elaborate sexual experience he had. I was in shock for two reasons: one, that he was speaking in such detail about his sexcapade in a public place, and two, that by "hooking up," he meant sex. I guess where I'm from, that term means you kissed a guy or fooled around a little, but I've never equated it with sex. The notion of hooking up has been in the news a lot lately, so tell me, what does "hooking up" mean to you?

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7 Places to Meet a Healthy Mate

FitSugar — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 03:30:00 -0800

Living your healthy lifestyle is tough enough on your own. So if you meet someone who shares your passion for exercise and eating right, it'll be easier to stay on track. Where can you meet a like-minded health nut? Here are some ideas.

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You Asked: Can I Ask to Bring a Date to Their Wedding?

DearSugar — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I need some advice on the correct and most gracious protocol on asking about a plus-one to a wedding. I am a bridesmaid in one of my dear friend's wedding. It's a destination wedding so I would love to bring my boyfriend as my date, however it's a very intimate wedding (family and close friends only), with a large reception to follow afterwards, back here at home. While the engaged couple has met my boyfriend, he travels often and hasn't had a chance to get particularly close to them (though they get along very well).

I absolutely understand that this is my friend's day and I will go along with whatever she prefers, even if that means that I go solo, but do you think it's even worth asking her if I'm allowed a plus-one date or should I assume that it's out of the question? I love my friend and I don't want to create any awkwardness or have her feel like she must say yes, but it would mean so much to me to have my boyfriend there with me for the long weekend. - He Wasn't Invited Ingrid

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Dear He Wasn't Invited Ingrid,

This is a toughie! It sounds as though you haven't been dating your boyfriend long so since they don't know him well, it's possible that they really do want to keep their wedding as intimate as possible, but the only way you'll know for sure is by asking.

Since you say you'll be fine if she says no, I'd preface your conversation by saying just that. Be as honest as possible, let her know that you understand that they want to keep their guest list to a minimum, but if there was space for just one more, you'd love to have your boyfriend come help celebrate their special day. I'm sure she'll understand your desire to have him there, but as we all know, weddings are expensive and they take a lot of time and energy to plan, so if adding one more will cause too much trouble, try not to be disappointed if her answer is in fact no. And remember, if he can't attend the actual ceremony, he will be able to celebrate with everyone at the reception back home!

To see all of our wedding coverage, check out IDoSugar.com.

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Dear Poll: Do You Create Exit Plans?

DearSugar — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 13:00:00 -0700

I’ll be the first to admit it, if I’m going somewhere where I really don’t want to go, with someone I don’t want to be with or might not want to be with after all is said and done, I’ll set up a convenient/fake phone call from a friend about an hour and a half in, with a request to come pick them up. If I’m having a terrible time as expected, this is the perfect out, but if I’m having a blast, I can easily just tell her that I can’t get away - she'll know the code. It’s not my classiest move, but it saves me a lot of heartache, plus it saves my “date” any hard feelings. So do you ever use an exit plan when you're unsure of how your evening will pan out?

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Dear Poll: Which Type of Date Takes the Cake?

DearSugar — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 13:00:00 -0700

Sometimes the best date is the one least expected, like when you meet an amazing guy and spend the entire night gallivanting through the streets. Then again, there’s nothing like your possible future beau planning a wonderful evening down to the smallest detail just to impress you. OK, I’ve never experienced either of these dream dates, but I'd have to go with the totally spontaneous date as my pick. What about you?

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Handle This: You Get Tricked into a Date

DearSugar — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 10:00:00 -0700

When a new co-worker asks you to go see a show with him, using the company's box seat at a local venue, you say yes because you assume it's a group thing. When you find out that no one else is going, you’re very uncomfortable but you don’t want to assume it’s a date. You decide to just play it by ear and keep it really casual.

The day of the show, your coworker casually mentions that his ex-girlfriend will be there, and that he needs you to pretend to be on a date with him. You’re totally shocked that he would just presume that would be OK with you. Not only are you not that close, but you don't even like him that much, especially like that! You’re supposed to be leaving with him in less than an hour, so how would you handle this?

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What's Your Take: Is It OK to Look?

DearSugar — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 10:00:00 -0700

My friend made a deep, dark confession to me the other day. She told me that she made a profile on an online dating site, and sat down nightly to peek at her potential matches in her inbox. She no longer has issues with online dating, but she's ashamed that instead of paying for the full service and actually giving it a try, she's checking out the basic profiles of the guys who might fit her ideals just to make herself feel better about her current (post-breakup) situation.

I swore to her that it was fine, but it did seem kind of odd. So is sitting at home, sipping wine while checking out matches online the new version of sitting at a bar, drinking a cocktail and checking out single men? If so, what does that mean in terms of being single and putting yourself out there? So what's your take, is it OK to look?

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Handle This: You Don't Like Him, But Your Friend Might

DearSugar — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 07:00:00 -0800

You recently met a guy while out with friends. He asked you out on date and it ended up going really well, but the sparks just weren't there. You guys have continued to chat via email for a few weeks, and as you get to know him better, the more you're convinced that he would be great for a friend of yours. They have all the same interests, they're both looking to settle down in the next couple of years, and something about him just reminds you of her.

You've definitely determined that the guy isn't seriously into you, but you're still not sure on how to approach the set up. Your girlfriend also happens to be very sensitive, so you fear that the fact that you dated him briefly would bother her, but you just have a feeling this could be a match made in heaven. Tell me ladies, how would you handle this?

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