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DearSugar — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 03:00:52 -0700

Hi Everyone,

In order to make DearSugar the best it can be, I am back with another reader survey to help figure out what you like, what you dislike, and more importantly, what you want to see more of on the site.

Please take a moment to fill out DearSugar's survey. Our goal is to get to know you better so that DearSugar can be everything you've ever wanted it to be.

Thank you once again for all of your continuous questions, Group Therapy posts, and, of course, comments!

All the best,
DearSugar

DearSugar's Week of Big Love: Tell Us Your Valentine's Day Plans!!!!!!

DearSugar — Tue, 13 Feb 2007 10:30:00 -0800

Valentine's Day sometimes feels a lot like a Hallmark holiday; nevertheless, a lot of us try to make it our own by honoring love and friendship, indulging ourselves or requesting a little pampering. We might buy lingerie, eat a few chocolate-covered strawberries, or drink a little bubbly as a way to celebrate the carnal and romantic parts of our lives.

Please share, ladies: We're dying to know about your Valentine's Day plans. And this means you, too, single girls. We're all in this together!

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Pillow Talk: Will He Call?

DearSugar — Mon, 12 Feb 2007 11:00:00 -0800

Will he call? It's an age-old question, and one that women who are dating tend to ask and analyze a lot, filled with an anxious and exhilarated mix of hope, worry and excitement. If the phone doesn't ring soon after the date, we can find ourselves wondering if we did something wrong, if we misinterpreted something, if they really liked us at all. And sometimes, these tense questions and their focus keep us from being in touch with how we felt about the date, the conversation, and whether or not we're even that interested in him.

New romance and its possibilities often lead men and women to obsess and fantasize, and this is perfectly natural. In fact, it's a biological response. You're experiencing elevated levels of dopamine and norpenephrine, and lowered levels of serotonin, during the early stages of a romantic encounter. Remember, this means your brain is unusually focused and flooded just now. Try to use this energy for something constructive. As much as we are creatures of nature and biology, we are also creatures of intellect, imagination, and resourcefulness.

Please don't assume you've done something wrong if the phone doesn't ring. And if it keeps not ringing, don't let your default setting be that you're undesirable, unworthy, or uninteresting. Dating is the practice of discovering for yourself who will be a desirable and worthy partner; it should not be experienced as the practice of failure, despair, and self-criticism.

If you've had a great first date and a goodnight kiss, of course you will expect a phone call; you will probably hope and wait for one. But doing nothing else while waiting and hoping for that call is gonna make you a nervous wreck. Keep busy in rewarding ways. Tend to the details in your life that matter to you, too. Challenge yourself to let him be one of the things you think about, not the only thing. Go out with friends and leave your cell phone behind; you know how to have fun, whether he's leaving a message or not. You can hope without waiting and without unraveling.

I'd love to hear some details about positive ways you've handled that waiting period, and ways you've handled it that you'd prefer not to repeat. I've got a long list of both, trust me. It's one of those things my friends and I are always trying to be saner, stronger, and more sensible around, and I mention this topic here in hopes that there really is a way to bring more polish and pride to that inevitable waiting period!

Week of Big Love: Big Love, Big Gift?

DearSugar — Mon, 12 Feb 2007 10:30:00 -0800

Chocolates, roses, and candy, oh my! Finding the perfect gift for your Valentine can be a daunting task, but on a day meant to celebrate the love you feel for your partner, sometimes the most memorable gifts are small and simple and heartfelt. One of the best presents I ever received was actually the card attached to the gift, which I still keep in a box filled with other important keepsakes.

Ladies, in the comments below, please share with us the best gift you've ever received from a Valentine or a present you gave and still remember as special.

And for you busy girls who need some last-minute gift ideas, we love FabSugar's Valentines Day Gift Guide.

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Dear Sugar's Week of Big Love: What's In a Song?

DearSugar — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 14:00:00 -0800

A song can take you back to a time and a place, just like that. Whether it was your first slow dance or the song that was playing when you first locked eyes with your future husband, hearing a few mere notes can be powerful and emotional.

In the spirit of Valentine's Day, of past loves or best loves, tell us what song makes your heart sink or gives you that "Say Anything" moment.

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Which of the Seven Deadly Sins Is Your Weakness?

DearSugar — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 13:00:00 -0800

This latest storm of celebrity rehab stories got me thinking about the seven deadly sins and which one I struggle with the most. And then that got me wondering, ladies, what your weak spot might be.

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Pillow Talk: More Bed Time!

DearSugar — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 11:00:00 -0800

In this day and age, professional responsibilities consume more hours than ever before, leaving us less time with our loved ones at home. Although affectionate e-mails and occasional phone calls are thoughtful and sweet, it's still important to set aside quality time for each other, live and in person. In the spirit of keeping romance alive, give your significant other the best gift of all this week: your time.

Lots of recent studies should that the happiest couples spend more time than other couples holding hands, touching each other, and gazing at each other. These activities, between happy couples, also lower blood pressure and strengthen the immune system. So, instead of using the snooze button for a few extra winks, reserve that time for lounging in bed together for another fifteen minutes.

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Live! SugarChat in 10 Minutes!

DearSugar — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 09:51:42 -0800

Hi Everyone,
It's almost time for DearSugar's live chat! Click here in just 10 minutes to gab with the girls. We are going to be conducting this chat once a week now from 1:00 - 1:30 EST time and from 10:00-10:30 Pacific time. I look forward to chatting with you soon!

All the best,
DearSugar

DearSugar's Week of Big Love

DearSugar — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 00:27:19 -0800

Hello Ladies! And welcome to DearSugar's Week of Big Love. In the spirit of dreaming big and thinking big about love, we've planned lots of new, sassy features about women, romance, and friendship during our countdown to Valentine's Day. Please come celebrate with us and talk with us!

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Welcome to the New DearSugar!

DearSugar — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 00:13:28 -0800

Welcome to your new DearSugar, Sugar Network's advice, romance, and personal growth blog.

I'm so happy and excited to announce many wonderful changes on DearSugar. I want to offer you more choices, more ideas, and more fantastic features about life, love, and being happy. Rest assured, tho, we'll still have your old favorites, like DearSugar's advice column, the daily horoscope, super fun polls, and Group Therapy.

Beginning today, you can click on Pillow Talk for relationship tips and stories, or use our Venting Machine, a safe place to let off a little steam. Enter the Mood Gallery and post a picture about how you feel, or dish at Do Tell, where we'll get to know each other better. Through Wise Guide, I hope you'll feel inspired and encouraged a little more every day. Your comments always impress and move me, so I've decided to highlight three of your remarkable posts every Friday! And because we should all feel free to be ourselves, I'll try to help embolden you with You Don't Need Permission to. . . .

And that's just the beginning! As always, I want to know what you like and what you don't! Remember, I'm here to help us learn more about being happier, wiser, stronger and even more fabulous!