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Does Violence or Sex in Video Games Bother You?

I love that nearly every night this week, Conan's done a different version of a PG-rated GTA IV, but I've also been thinking lately that not only are we at a high point of sex (Stripper Pole Wii, anyone?) and violence (got to give credit where credit's due, GTA, who's got both) in our video games, but there's also a healthy helping of family friendly and positive games — like Wii Sports.

My friends got into a heated debate the other night about the significance of violence in video games, and what it says about our society, but I definitely feel like it's your choice to buy the games. However, I really appreciate the ratings system, like in movies. Then again, I expect my opinion to change when I have kids. What do you think?

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Mina-Xue Mina-Xue 8 years
Yes, it does, but thats my personal taste. I prefer an amazing story, and it if happens to include both, then cest la vie.
Baby-Girl Baby-Girl 8 years
It doesn't bother me. Like others have said, the parents who let their under age kids play the mature games does.
ChicaGeek ChicaGeek 8 years
From the very moment violence are sex are part of society, I don't see why they shouldn't be depicted in a videogame (for example in GTA IV which has been mentioned a couple of times and which tries to depict a realistic city). I love violent videogames, but in real life I don't dare even kill a fly. We adult players know how to distinguish reality from fantasy so I don't know what's all this fuss on violent videogames about. I guess it just sells as news headlines. Oh and I totally agree with Kawaii: some people should pass an exam to prove they're capable of parenting kids before actually having them.
ChicaGeek ChicaGeek 8 years
From the very moment violence are sex are part of society, I don't see why they shouldn't be depicted in a videogame (for example in GTA IV which has been mentioned a couple of times and which tries to depict a realistic city).I love violent videogames, but in real life I don't dare even kill a fly. We adult players know how to distinguish reality from fantasy so I don't know what's all this fuss on violent videogames about. I guess it just sells as news headlines.Oh and I totally agree with Kawaii: some people should pass an exam to prove they're capable of parenting kids before actually having them.
chhavi chhavi 8 years
I don't feel very comfy when I'm playing in front of my cousins.
Masqueraded_Angel Masqueraded_Angel 8 years
I do not tolerate violent or sexy video games in my house. But I have seen my husband fire up a good Army-like computer game online with one of his friends a couple of times. Which is fine...after my son goes to bed. And I ask my husband to turn all the blood and guts off beforehand. I'm not going to be one of those over-active moms that complains to everyone about violent games...I honestly do not have any animosity towards them whatsoever...but I do not tolerate them in my household. My son is WAY too good at impersonating characters in movies and cartoons...and I don't need him impersonating ripping someone's guts out at school. The only thing that I AM worried about...when he gets older, I'm sure some of his friends will have these kinds of games and stuff...but hopefully by then he'll be old enough to be able to tell fantasy from reality.
Masqueraded_Angel Masqueraded_Angel 8 years
I do not tolerate violent or sexy video games in my house. But I have seen my husband fire up a good Army-like computer game online with one of his friends a couple of times. Which is fine...after my son goes to bed. And I ask my husband to turn all the blood and guts off beforehand. I'm not going to be one of those over-active moms that complains to everyone about violent games...I honestly do not have any animosity towards them whatsoever...but I do not tolerate them in my household. My son is WAY too good at impersonating characters in movies and cartoons...and I don't need him impersonating ripping someone's guts out at school. The only thing that I AM worried about...when he gets older, I'm sure some of his friends will have these kinds of games and stuff...but hopefully by then he'll be old enough to be able to tell fantasy from reality.
devils devils 8 years
doesn't bother me too much
devils devils 8 years
doesn't bother me too much
freegracefrom freegracefrom 8 years
I don't personally flock to games with violence and sex, but I don't begrudge people from enjoying/playing games like that. Some adults like games like this, because in a way, it can expose people to things they would never want to do in real life or allow them to take out their aggression/frustration on a video game character. I don't think kids should play them because they are impressionable, but that's why there is a rating system for games and why they have parents/legal guardians. Why pick on the gaming industry for violence? If anything, the industry are trying to keep up with Hollywood/movies/television and other media forms. Over the past few decades, movies have been growing progressively more and more risque and violent. I don't hear nearly as many politicians complaining about that trend as they do about video games. And the reason why people complain about video games? Because some parents are too lazy to pay attention to their kids. It's not fair to punish adults that play games like this, just some parents/guardians don't want to take the time to educate themselves on what their kids can get into these days. Also, to be fair, you can kill prostitutes with the GTA game... but you can kill anybody, man or woman. I know there is a video floating around the internet that creates that impression, but there isn't a marked purposeful violence specifically against prostitutes. You don't get bonus points or anything.
mayara mayara 8 years
It depends. First of all, sex is much less likely to bother me, as is also true with other forms of media/entertainment (books, movies, music, etc). As for the violence, it depends on the context -- some of my favorite games include fighting games, but things like GTA are too much like the real world and real people, and the activities in it give me the creeps. My husband tried out the first one, to get a more clear idea as to what the whole series was about, and didn't enjoy it, which was good, because the little I saw of it squicked me. Our society is too enamored with violence.
wiciltd wiciltd 8 years
MuhAAHAHAHAHAH I love violent video games.. I cackle gleefully to myself while I play them.. I LOVE that in God of War you get to rip some mofo's head apart with your bare hands.. BLOOD EVERYWHERE.. and you can go behind the secret wall and have an orgasm with some water whores.. and I love to play jack the ripper in GTA.. Cept instead of a knife I use a chainsaw to kill the hookers And in reality? I am an anti social person who loathes general society.. and I have never and will never harm a person or thing.. Hell.. I pick worms up off the sidewalk and place them on the grass so they won't get hurt.. People need to get off the pot when it comes to video games.. It's all about communication.. COMMUNICATE with your kids people.. Don't sit around hen pecking about how violence is bad etc etc etc to all your friends and the media ... Talk to your kids about it .. Make sure tehy understand that it is just a fake thing.. Not reality... Great googamooga.. I loathe that people are willing to put the responsibility on everyone but themselves.. And btw.. I loathe how people blame violence and video games for Columbine as well as music and blah blah blah.. Kids being pushed to the point of snapping after verbal and physical abuse by their PEERS is what led to them snapping.. You can only push someone so far before they blow their stack..
Liz7757 Liz7757 8 years
I think the majority of people's problem with GTA stem from the fact that the violence is realistic. You don't see People for the Ethical Treatment of Dragons getting riled up about the Final Fantasy series. Even completely innocuous games like Super Mario contain violence; the game routinely requires you to kill enemies to get money and points (sounds familiar...) but because it's not realistic people aren't bothered by it. And really that makes sense. We're more easily bothered by something that hits close to home.But senseless violent acts have existed long before the age of pervasive media and video games. I'm pretty sure Jack the Ripper didn't get the idea to brutally murder prostitutes and Bonnie and Clyde didn't decide robbing banks would be fun from playing a video game. Sociopathic behavior is just inherent in some people regardless of what stimuli they're exposed to.
Liz7757 Liz7757 8 years
I think the majority of people's problem with GTA stem from the fact that the violence is realistic. You don't see People for the Ethical Treatment of Dragons getting riled up about the Final Fantasy series. Even completely innocuous games like Super Mario contain violence; the game routinely requires you to kill enemies to get money and points (sounds familiar...) but because it's not realistic people aren't bothered by it. And really that makes sense. We're more easily bothered by something that hits close to home. But senseless violent acts have existed long before the age of pervasive media and video games. I'm pretty sure Jack the Ripper didn't get the idea to brutally murder prostitutes and Bonnie and Clyde didn't decide robbing banks would be fun from playing a video game. Sociopathic behavior is just inherent in some people regardless of what stimuli they're exposed to.
KHast KHast 8 years
I have to say, my first game was at the ripe old age of three or four, and it happened to be the first 3D first person shooter out there (Wolftenstein 3D). I moved from there to Doom, Duke Nuke'em, and other oldies but goodies. Violence, explosions, guns and weapons and great graphics to go along with them (that means I don't turn off the gore), are part of the gaming experience for me. But, I don't like sex being brought into the mix. Sex should not be a partner to violence and vice versa.
Bookish Bookish 8 years
It bothers me that so much rampant violence is ok, but a tastefully done love scene- with zero nudity- (like in Mass Effect) gets people up in arms. Seriously, the game's rated Mature anyway. Why is it ok to hack people up with a chainsaw, or to shoot them with a shotgun and watch the body parts fly, but it's the end of civilization as we know it if two characters have a love scene? That said, I don't mind sex and violence. I'm an adult and capable of handling such things. It's not for kids, obviously, and parents should educate themselves about the games their kids are playing- but you can't blame the games themselves. That's just lazy.
Bookish Bookish 8 years
It bothers me that so much rampant violence is ok, but a tastefully done love scene- with zero nudity- (like in Mass Effect) gets people up in arms. Seriously, the game's rated Mature anyway. Why is it ok to hack people up with a chainsaw, or to shoot them with a shotgun and watch the body parts fly, but it's the end of civilization as we know it if two characters have a love scene?That said, I don't mind sex and violence. I'm an adult and capable of handling such things. It's not for kids, obviously, and parents should educate themselves about the games their kids are playing- but you can't blame the games themselves. That's just lazy.
angelinemarie angelinemarie 8 years
no, its awkward
angelinemarie angelinemarie 8 years
no, its awkward
xrawk_starrx xrawk_starrx 8 years
I love GTA! And I like violent video games. I don't know why people get so worked up over it. It's just a game.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I actually like the sex and violence in games, that are meant for adults....Just like I enjoy Rated R movies. I personally dont think it glorifies violence on women, because in games like GTA, you kill everyone...
ehadams ehadams 8 years
I play video gameas a lot and it doesn't bother me unless it is really extreme or graphic, like rape or something. I feel the same way about books, tv shows, and movies though- video games are just a form of entertainment like them. I hate it when people point to video game violence/sex but ignore other media. I personally find it more offensive on TV, which is much more accessible. I can choose to pay $50 for a video game after all. I remember I was watching the news and they had a youtube video showing graphic violence. I changed the channel, but not before I could get a glimpse. That to me is much worse than a video game!
dzmartini dzmartini 8 years
While it does not bother me, I do think that it is important for parents to teach their children that the games are not something realistic. It is important to instill values in children that would allow them to see these things just as part of the game and not something to go and act out. The same goes for movies.
dorfyguin dorfyguin 8 years
On principle, fictional sex and violence doesn't bother me as part of video games. Unfortunately, so much of the supposed video game sex seems geared toward male gamers and frequently comes across as very misogynistic. As much as I may want to think myself personally "hip" enough to deal with this portrayal, it makes me very uncomfortable.
GiggleSugar GiggleSugar 8 years
I find it disturbing that in the violent society we live in, and with violence going on in the world, that people think it's fun to be violent. Perhaps they're working something out? But I worry that it desensitizes people to violence's real effects by literally turning it into a game. And I hate that part of the "fun" in Grand Theft Auto includes killing prostitutes. Violence against women is real, and I don't think this stuff helps. :mob:
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