We've all been there. You write the email (either to a friend, family member, or co-worker), pause for a quick second, then hit send. Afterwards, you go back to your sent folder, and re-read emails that you may have worded wrong. Will she think I'm being too vague? Will he take offense to that last sentence? OMG, I can't believe I just said that! Well in February's issue of O Magazine, Mirabai Bush, a senior fellow at the Center for Contemplative Mind in Society, tackled this very topic and suggests incorporating the following steps into your daily email routine:
- Compose your e-mail.
- Stop. Take one long, deep breath, counting to five on the inhale and again on the exhale.
- Think of who you're sending your message to, and of how you want him or her to receive it. Could this person misunderstand and become angry or offended? Or think that you are being more positive than you intend?
- Look at the e-mail again.
- Change it if appropriate.