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New Study Reports That Most People Break Up Using the Phone and Text Messages

Is It Ever OK to Dump Someone Via Text Message?

Not long ago a friend confessed that she was dumped over a text message. To make matters worse, the guy in the equation was her boyfriend of five years. Ouch. A breakup is hard enough as it is, but reduce the transaction to 140 characters or less, and it seems downright cruel.

In my friend group, breaking up with someone via text (heck, even email) still inspires words like coward and jerk. It used to be that dumping your former honey over the phone was the absolute worst. As we get further and further into the digital dating pool, phone breakups are starting to sound refreshing — a real voice even minus the face seems postmodern in a world of Twitter, Facebook, and email.

If your last tryst ended in a face-to-face conversation, you may be part of a dying breed. The mobile social network MocoSpace surveyed 20,000 of its members and 57 percent of those individuals do their dumping over the phone, with 47 percent texting the dumpee.

Even though I think a breakup text is coldhearted, my 21-year-old cousin totally disagrees. Since so many of her conversations take place over text, email, IM, and online networks, getting dumped/hitched/asked out over a text seems like an everyday occurrence. For the younger set, technology has definitely changed up relationship etiquette.

I want to know what you think . . .

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TrulyLoved TrulyLoved 6 years
if anyone gets dumped via text, the guy or girl is a coward, end of story. Grow a pair and give the other person what they deserve and break up with them face to face.
gjhunjhn gjhunjhn 6 years
Break up via text message?I think it is circumstantial. As time passes by, there will be things/practices older generations cannot understand from younger. I don't think it is good or bad per se. They just develop new skills to survive they social environment they in part have created. Though I think, as courtesy, that they should be weary that people need to feel as though they are real, loved, and important. The way in which you break up- more specifically the words you use and how in turn they make the other person feel are the ultimate test as to as good or bad break up. I think as a species we're all not that great at dealing with human relations via anything.
gjhunjhn gjhunjhn 6 years
Break up via text message? I think it is circumstantial. As time passes by, there will be things/practices older generations cannot understand from younger. I don't think it is good or bad per se. They just develop new skills to survive they social environment they in part have created. Though I think, as courtesy, that they should be weary that people need to feel as though they are real, loved, and important. The way in which you break up- more specifically the words you use and how in turn they make the other person feel are the ultimate test as to as good or bad break up. I think as a species we're all not that great at dealing with human relations via anything.
sourcherries sourcherries 6 years
Maybe this makes me old-fashioned, but whatever happened to the concept of manners?
i-heart-monster i-heart-monster 6 years
never okay. we all need to remember to maintain our personal relationships in a personal fashion. personally i think we lose a little bit of our humanity every time we scrimp on actual face to face contact in favor of electronic communication. e is a great way to supplement relationships, but should never be a substitute because it's easier or more convenient. that said, if it's a relationship based solely in the virtual realm, then it might be okay... but that's only if neither person has ever seen the other IRL. my opinion, as always, of course :)
i-heart-monster i-heart-monster 6 years
never okay. we all need to remember to maintain our personal relationships in a personal fashion. personally i think we lose a little bit of our humanity every time we scrimp on actual face to face contact in favor of electronic communication. e is a great way to supplement relationships, but should never be a substitute because it's easier or more convenient. that said, if it's a relationship based solely in the virtual realm, then it might be okay... but that's only if neither person has ever seen the other IRL. my opinion, as always, of course :)
katejlogan katejlogan 6 years
Its never ok. My friend had a bride's maid of her's bail on the wedding via txt. Totally unacceptable.
c4rolin3 c4rolin3 6 years
i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years....we've been going through a bad time recently cz my heads all over the placeafter discussion we decided he just needed to give me a bit of spacei thought this was agreed and we'd not spoken in a weekthis morning i logged onto facebook to find he'd changed his relationship statusprobably no more than i deservedbut i think we should've really decided it was definitely over before he did thatand i owed it to him to talk it out.....:(
c4rolin3 c4rolin3 6 years
i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years.... we've been going through a bad time recently cz my heads all over the place after discussion we decided he just needed to give me a bit of space i thought this was agreed and we'd not spoken in a week this morning i logged onto facebook to find he'd changed his relationship status probably no more than i deserved but i think we should've really decided it was definitely over before he did that and i owed it to him to talk it out..... :(
mek123 mek123 6 years
Maybe I'm old-fashioned but I think testing would be the cowards way out, especially after 5 years.@weffie - LOL at the K-Fed comment, I agree with that one.
mek123 mek123 6 years
Maybe I'm old-fashioned but I think testing would be the cowards way out, especially after 5 years. @weffie - LOL at the K-Fed comment, I agree with that one.
weffie weffie 6 years
It's ok if you're dumping K-Fed :) I've told guys I was briefly, casually seeing that I would no longer be seeing them via text message, but for a boyfriend of 5 years that's pretty cruel.
weffie weffie 6 years
It's ok if you're dumping K-Fed :)I've told guys I was briefly, casually seeing that I would no longer be seeing them via text message, but for a boyfriend of 5 years that's pretty cruel.
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