In our Tech Dating 101 series, we've already tackled hot topics like whether it's appropriate to make big life announcements online, how to handle changing your relationship status online, and if texting during a date is rude. And now for this week's question: should Gadgets Be Allowed In the Bedroom?
This is a tough one because I'm as guilty as the next person for dragging my laptop, cell phone, and DS Lite into the (bed)room with me — and that's not even including the big flatscreen that permanently lives in there!
But there comes a point when you have to set the gadgets aside when there's another person involved. Take for instance my boyfriend (love you honey), who is still in the goo-goo-ga-ga phase with his iPhone and therefore feels the need to bring it to bed with him. Those few quiet minutes before you call it a night — you know, the pillow talk time? — in my opinion is important for healthy relationships and should be treated as undivided attention, zero-distraction time . . . that means nighty night for the iPhone, too!
I think there's a time and place for gadgets, and at some point, they need to be turned off and stowed away.
How can you tell if "gadget time" in the bedroom is getting to be too much? Just
If either person in the relationship is feeling like the TV, cell phone, or laptop is getting more attention then they are in the bedroom, then that's a surefire indication that there needs to be a tech intervention. Tell your partner how you are feeling, that there's always tomorrow to check email, tweet, and play online games. Hopefully, they will make you a priority over their gadget obsession.