I just started dating this guy. He's really sweet, caring, and I feel like he could be "the one." Although something happened the other day that I feel really uncomfortable about. He was showing me some photos on his computer, most of them were of family and friends, but I could see mini previews to ones that were, shall I say, very x-rated. When he went to the restroom, I quickly looked at them to find photos of him and naked girls. I want to confront him about them, but don't want him to think I was snooping. And if they happened in the past, should I even be concerned?
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First things first, don't panic. Guys are, well, "visual learners," so I wouldn't automatically go and dump the guy. But I'm sure you're still stunned at what you saw, and can't get over the fact that he may not be as prim and proper as you previously thought.
Now I'm not going to scold you for looking on his laptop and getting all up in his virtual business, because you did see the racy photo previews. The thing is, if this guy has been amazing to you, hasn't betrayed your trust, and has been a saint in every other way, then these photos could just be from a drunken night back in college. If you can't seem to get them off your mind, and it's affecting your relationship, then I would definitely ask him about them. Just seem curious rather than confrontational to see what he says. If he says they were taken years ago and he'll delete them if they bother you — great. If he says they were taken a few weeks ago and he likes taking photos of three-ways with girls — not so great.