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What to Do When You Find Porn on Your Boyfriend's Laptop

Tech Dating 101: He Has Nude Photos on His Laptop

Dear geeksugar:

I just started dating this guy. He's really sweet, caring, and I feel like he could be "the one." Although something happened the other day that I feel really uncomfortable about. He was showing me some photos on his computer, most of them were of family and friends, but I could see mini previews to ones that were, shall I say, very x-rated. When he went to the restroom, I quickly looked at them to find photos of him and naked girls. I want to confront him about them, but don't want him to think I was snooping. And if they happened in the past, should I even be concerned?

To see what I suggest as a game plan for handling this situation, just

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First things first, don't panic. Guys are, well, "visual learners," so I wouldn't automatically go and dump the guy. But I'm sure you're still stunned at what you saw, and can't get over the fact that he may not be as prim and proper as you previously thought.

Now I'm not going to scold you for looking on his laptop and getting all up in his virtual business, because you did see the racy photo previews. The thing is, if this guy has been amazing to you, hasn't betrayed your trust, and has been a saint in every other way, then these photos could just be from a drunken night back in college. If you can't seem to get them off your mind, and it's affecting your relationship, then I would definitely ask him about them. Just seem curious rather than confrontational to see what he says. If he says they were taken years ago and he'll delete them if they bother you — great. If he says they were taken a few weeks ago and he likes taking photos of three-ways with girls — not so great.

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chakra_healer chakra_healer 7 years
Prostitution isn't rape. Porn isn't rape. Stop conflating consensual adult entertainment with an act of violence. A lot of women and men *choose* to go into adult entertainment as a line of work. If you do not like it "Anonymous", do not watch it, perform in it, and find a partner that also doesn't like watching. Then, like the OP should, MYOB about others' consensual adult activities.
b1uebunn b1uebunn 7 years
She's a psycho. He is entitled to a little personal porn. Get over it. He's not your husband, dial the crazy back a bit.
witchbaby witchbaby 7 years
if he took naked pics with someone else he might want to take some with you. I think its too risky to end up getting your career ruined in the future. I'd probably end it and just say lets be friends.
chakra_healer chakra_healer 7 years
MYOB. You're *newly* dating him, see if the relationship even makes it to next week. Side note, I have a MAJOR issue with your snooping. If it wasn't wrong, you would have done it in his presence, not waited until he was out of the room to look at the pictures. If I were him, I'd RUN before you start hacking into my voicemail and e-mail - fast.
joanE joanE 7 years
Confront this head on. I didn't and all of my children have the same problem. Ever heard of Sexual Addiction? You're looking at it, right there on his computer.
GKitty GKitty 7 years
This may not be the relationship your looking for...you could be the next photo. If the cereal box on top of the TV has a blinking red light, RUN.
ashleylynne ashleylynne 7 years
I flagged the nakie photos (him not in them) with my now husband and got that convo out of the way asap. If the photos are of him with the nakie ladies, then I would question his intellect or he's looking for a way to say he's just not that into you. First of all, he keeps them intermingled with family photos. And then shows you thumbnails of them? And expects you not to notice them? The lack-of-trust monster has already entered the room and you need to slay it head on. It's obviously bothering you, so you should talk to him. And based on his answer you need to ask yourself will you ever trust him. If the answer is no, then you shouldn't be with him.
falnfenix falnfenix 7 years
sorry, meant to clarify before i hit post. i would only be concerned if those photos were new, OF HIM, and he were a committed boyfriend.
falnfenix falnfenix 7 years
honestly, if it's new, it's not likely 100% committed yet...in which case, i wouldn't think twice about it, let alone go poking about in someone else's computer to feed my paranoia. if he were a boyfriend for awhile and the dates on the photos were new, that would be a different story entirely.
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