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Do Looks Lead to Special Treatment?

Over the weekend, I toddled a few blocks to my favorite bakery to grab breakfast for me and the roomie. This bakery almost always packed with foodies clamoring to get their hands on a warm pain au chocolat or fancypants tart. You wait and wait in line, then finally you get your food and enter taste-bud heaven. A disarmingly good-looking woman was in line in front of me. She was unusually beautiful, especially when she smiled. Pretty lady, I thought, and began plotting my croissant fest.

When we got to the front of the line, the counter staff was visibly charmed by her appearance. And then, pow, she got an extra pastry for free. When I followed after her, I had to pay for all of my pastries, and a tiny part of me was miffed. (I, too, would enjoy a free croissant.) Then again, I'm sure there have been times when I've given special treatment to someone I found attractive, and I've probably enjoyed perks from someone who thought I was cute — so I'm just as guilty.

Have you ever been given special treatment because of your appearance, or have you doled out privileges to someone you found attractive? If so, did you feel uneasy about it?


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Lenay Lenay 7 years
Yes, I've been given special treatment in the past because of my looks. When I was a senior in high school (as an art major with the intention of selling my artwork for a living as an adult) I was lucky enough to be enrolled in an art program where the instructor taught us how to stretch our own canvases (and even measure and cut our own stretcher bars to "build" the canvas around). I'm a portrait artist, and this would have been a valueable skill. However, the boys in my class fell all over themselves to make canvases for me, and my male teacher let them do so.
jdmxrain jdmxrain 8 years
btw, who wants to be friends with a beautiful person that has an ugly character? No way. I'm sure looks sometimes work against these beautiful people but for the most part it works for them. Of course there are beautiful people that have good character and I'm jealous of those people. lol.
jdmxrain jdmxrain 8 years
Yes looks do lead to special treatment. Come on its so obvious. I've also seen that 30 Rock episode and I can relate to those ladies whom say that they get treated better after they lost weight. I've gained 45 lbs that I'm trying to lose right now but even gaining 20lbs is enough of a difference for people to treat you worse. Have I gotten special treatment? Yes. But I doubt that its because of my looks. I look about average but I also look young for my age. I'm 26, but people think I'm 16, plus I sound very young. I'm a nice person to everyone so I think that tends to go a long way. Also look at people on tv, the movies, magazines, etc. Most leading character roles go to good looking people, people that look average are demoted to playing character roles or the supporting role. But you know it could be worse, its better to look average than to be disfigured or disabled. So lets be thankful for that. Some people are unfortunate like the elephant man. Besides I think most people can improve their looks through exercise, better clothes, makeup, plastic surgery (get a good doctor and check his credentials), and getting lumineers. So you can look like the best version of yourself. But I think good character and a great personality are more important that looks. :)
minze minze 8 years
People generally associate beauty with goodness which is why in the movies, the the good guy is hot and bad guy is not. Maybe we've been programmed to treat pretty people better. I don't feel uneasy about special treatment I know is related to my looks because they're the ones behaving superficially. It's disgusting really.
kulikuli kulikuli 8 years
I think it's funny, i've never gotten special treatment in my normal life, but when my sister and i go on vacations it's a fun role reversal. All of the sudden it's two girls in their twenties amongst a bunch of families or whatnot. I'm not gonna lie we got free drinks, free snorkeling, hook-ups everywhere. Even random women thought we were famous and took some pictures with us lol. But then it's back to normal life and the only time i get hooked-up here is when i bring food as a trade-off not cuz of my looks lol. It's funny being on both sides of the fence.
AmandaG AmandaG 8 years
It happens. My husband and I are a nice looking couple and it happens to us both,when we are alone together its nice. But when we are with other people sometimes it a bit uncomfortable.
sldc sldc 8 years
Maybe it isn't just looks, as we may be inclined to think, but also smile and friendly demeanor. Some people come across as more flirty from a heterosexual male's perspective and if the guy thinks he has the tiniest chance, they will give preferential treatment to a remotely attractive girl. Double the chance of him giving away a free sandwich, if she is very attractive.
dragonlady920 dragonlady920 8 years
I don't think I've ever gotten anything free for being cute. But I'm less striking and more innocent kid sister cute. So that means I always get carded, and when going into a venue, security almost always waves me through without scanning me. (Could work in my favor if I were criminally inclined!) My husband jokes that I could totally get away with smuggling or drug dealing, because no one would ever suspect me. (Not that I would do those things!)
poptart-princess poptart-princess 8 years
so... this chick got a free pastry and she might get other perks in the retail world, but it probably makes up for the fact that more than likely, she's seen as "intimidating" and/or "unapproachable" to people on a one to one level. i dunno why people think that it's such a plus to be better than average looking. it can actually backfire at times and both men and women can get a kick from treating you like crap 'cause they might think that you're only giving them attention because you want something from them, or whatever issue they might have and it makes them feel good to reject you. like one time i was applying for a waitress job, which i was qualified for and a less attractive friend of mine - who happened to not have any of the qualifications - was given. i loved how smug the guy was when he told me i didn't get the position. ideally it should come down to what your mama taught ya; always treat people the way you want to be treated, regardless of looks.
dmartinxoxo dmartinxoxo 8 years
Yeah I get free service quite frequently. I got a free burrito from Chipotle yesterday :)
polkadots567 polkadots567 8 years
my best friend is absolutly stunning, and whenever we go shopping together she gets offered free samples of beauty prouducts and discounts on her purchases... then i pay right afer her and have to shell out the full price; it makes me feel like crap. But I also notice whenever i bother to put on makeup I get extra attention from male waiters... huh
cloroxcowgirl cloroxcowgirl 8 years
I'm w/ hippie cowgirl, I've been treated differently when I lost a lot of weight. I'm pretty good-looking, I suppose (in the blonde, blue eyed Drew Barrymoreish kind of way) and I guess being thin compounded with this means better service/more male attention. But it disgusts me too, how shallow people are. Then again, there is something to be said for radiating positive and friendly energy toward people, I think that makes difference in how we are treated as well.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 8 years
From guys muchhhh better service...from girls its 50/50. Some girls (if they see a guy flirting with me) even try to overcharge me!
Jessiebanana Jessiebanana 8 years
Not to toot my own horn, but I think I get superior customer service. I never get carded, I never wait, no one is ever suspicious of me. Like my friends said, I could rob a bank with my cheeks and no one would ever look twice as I walk out the bank with bags full of money. It's not that I'm gorgeous, but more like I'm super adorable...kind of like a Miranda Kerr,
teegaall teegaall 8 years
At the starbucks I frequent, I'll get free drinks fairly often but that's because a couple of the baristas know me as a regular and I make small talk with them. Though it's also possible that the male baristas gave me a free drink because they find me attractive.
HoneyBrown1976 HoneyBrown1976 8 years
I won't toot my own horn. Oh hell, toot, toot. Yeah, I'm cute and I do benefit from it. Is it wrong? Perhaps. But, damn, everybody's got their something.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 8 years
Yup. Strangers were definitely nicer to me when I was 35 lbs. lighter than I am now.
jelibeann jelibeann 8 years
oh, that 30 rock espisode was so funny...and old college roommate just has this charm that attracted everyone to her...we joked that it was her phermones...not that she isn't a very pretty gal, but it was definitely something beyone looks
emalove emalove 8 years
LOL, Dawn Subha, I immediately thought of that 30 Rock episode too! And yes, I do think good looks leads to better service/treatment.
Dagne Dagne 8 years
Yes, this happens to me. People definitely treat me better when I'm dressed up, especially males. I feel a little guilty for getting freebies but I guess there are worse things.
bengalspice bengalspice 8 years
I get ridiculously uncomfortable when people try to offer me more food than I ordered as a treat because they think I'm cute. I would rather pay for what I ordered and leave in those instances. I get less flustered when I'm out at an intimate restaurant, and the owner comes to the table and offers something on the house because everyone at the table can't stop praising how good the food is. I know in those instances the owner wants us to spread the word about the place, and less with me being attractive to anyone specifically.
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