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Do You Judge Women Who Are More Attractive Than You Are?

Many women feel jealous of drop-dead gorgeous women. I'd love to believe that everybody can meet people with an open mind, but that's unrealistic. I'm not saying that the catty beast in you automatically awakens when you are around beautiful women — but do you think that you judge pretty women differently than you do with someone who you view as less attractive than yourself?


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BBaby BBaby 9 years
Look here. I need to clarify some things about the posters on here. I'm a very attractive Grace Kelly type with an education. I've flown myself all over the world with my own business. I used to skydive and am very daring in nature. I'm also the best, loyal friend you would ever want. I come from a wealthy family who has settled this country over 400 yrs. ago. My personality does not match my looks. In appearance I look like an ice queen. I was also a very beautiful baby and child. This goes over great with old people and men but it has been the biggest burden of my life when dealing with other women. If it wasn't the unattractice children in my neighborhood tormenting me, it was an insecure women at work or the boyfriend's troll looking sister. It's usually these insecure losers that ban together. Most truly attractive people are beautiful on the inside. You wanna know why? We have nothing to complain about. We are happy with our lot in life so we are not trying to compete and tear others down. Yes, an annoying butterface who acts like she is the bomb annoys everyone, not so much the truly beautiful. We just laugh it off. This envy in women does not go away with age. Especially for the true narcissist. I worked under a manager who was old enough to be my mother and she just resented me and thought I took too big 'a slice of the pie'. She went after me for every little thing. Yet, she never bothered my unattractive co-workers who were screwing up left and right. She felt superior to them and sorry for them. She was 55! She wasn't ugly but she was nothing special to look at. Never was. I knew she envied me and I was flattered but so ready to quit because her envy and actions were unrelenting. When her ass got fired, I rejoiced and celebrated. When she came down with breast cancer, I never contacted her. She was a cancer. Of course, she's survived but I hope she never inflicts herself on anyone ever again. Don't become her. Karma will get you.
keiraz keiraz 9 years
I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Rnicolew Rnicolew 9 years
I think every woman does( no matter the age) and its just something that happens...what matters and what sets some apart is if that woman is friendy, classy, and chic. I love when I see a gorgeous woman and she just gives off that vibe that she is secure, and happy within herself- there is nothing better!!!!
Princess-Rebecca Princess-Rebecca 9 years
I know I shouldn't but sometimes I do it. And sometimes I probably do it without knowing it.
sagittarius sagittarius 9 years
Jude, I agree, we are the prettier sex to look at! :0)
gaelgirl gaelgirl 9 years
i'm sort of an ugly duckling. i was totally weird & made fun of as a kid, but i grew up to do some modeling. i'm not saying i'm the prettiest person ever, but i know i look ok. here's the thing. most girls treat you like crap. that get all catty & start rumors. it makes it hard to get female friends. then, the guys won't talk to you b/c you intimidate them. another problem is that people treat you like you're a ditz, but i made good grades, passed my medical boards, & was even a computer tech. it was funny too. men usually gave me a chance to prove myself but women would go, ugh, can i have a guy fix my computer? it shocked me that women were the ones quick to judge another woman. next time you see a hotty, just talk to them. they probably feel as nervous & awkward as everyone else. they probably aren't trying to steal your man. hey, i haven't had a date in years. they probably would kill to have some reliable female friends. and they probably have bad hair days, skin issues, & sometimes hate their thighs. if you're hating someone else b/c of their looks, you're actually hating yourself. give yourself more credit & treat people equally until you see who they are.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
Sagittarius, you have a great point. It reminds me of a line from Edith Wharton's The Custom of the Country: one character says of the nouveau riche American women he's watching in a French cafe, that "one is sometimes inclined to deny [such women] actual beauty--to charge them with producing the effect without having the features." And I also totally check out girls more than guys. What can I say? We're just a prettier sex to look at!
sagittarius sagittarius 9 years
It depends on how they present themselves. If the girl is dressed inappropriately or just not very classy, then I won't find them that attractive anymore. It's all about how they carry themselves. I admit I'm jealous if the girl seems to have it all, the looks, the brains, the sophistication, a great personality...the entire package. I'm someone that appreciates beauty very much. I probably check out more girls than guys because I admire their overall look. Although I find there are a lot of girls who are FAKE PRETTY. They only appear to be pretty because they have perfectly styled hair, loads of makeup and the designer clothes. But if you pull back the hair, remove the makeup, and put plain clothes on, are they still pretty?
belladande belladande 9 years
LOL! Who's more attractive than me?
caligirl101 caligirl101 9 years
If she has a good attitude then I'm jealous, if she has a bad attitude I hate her.
rosey_y rosey_y 9 years
Unfortunately that's so true KimBurnett. It's a real pity. Imagine the bonds we could form if we weren't so busy tearing each other down, even if just in our own heads. I've finally been lucky enough to find a couple of close friends who are both fantastically beautiful on the inside as well as the outside. One thing I've found that helps is that at the moment I have braces. When I meet a female for the first time I can often see them sizing me up very obviously. Then I flash them a big metal grin and I can see them visibly relax. Haha! "She's not so threatening, she's a Brace Face!!". It's a bit sad, but I have to admit it's nice to have an instant ice-breaker that works everytime. I try hard not to judge others on their appearance because I know I hate it when people do it to me (for good OR bad reasons) but it's human nature to at least size people up, especially of the same sex. Blame biology. Taking that next step and judging what kind of person they are based solely on looks ain't cool though, we need to watch that.
OMGoshDramaQueen OMGoshDramaQueen 9 years
Yeah, what [vanilla19] said!
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
You got that right, KimBurnett.
KimBurnett KimBurnett 9 years
This is why it's so hard to have genuine female friends.
vanilla19 vanilla19 9 years
I only judge if it seems like they flaunt themselves and act like they're the most beautiful thing in the world.
BeautyXRush BeautyXRush 9 years
Every woman does, if they say they don't its a lie. Then again, I tend to be friends with very beautiful women. I judge weight more, and I know thats horrible.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I know that I do sometimes especially if she acts stupid, it's just asking for it. I'd like to be better about it but it's not like I'm saying it to their face.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
I'm often on the receiving end of that kind of cattiness, so I try hard not to do it myself. Confession, though: I do find myself judging women when they're dressed in a very obviously provocative way. Not "sexy," but the trashy look. And in that case it doesn't matter whether the woman has attractive features or not.
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 9 years
I think it's really just instinct to judge by appearance. It's survival of the fittest, and it's how our species survived so it is in our DNA. I TRY to treat everyone like they are a friend of mine. We are obviously biased towards our friends and are more lenient with their quirks. That is, until they give me a reason not to pre-friend them. :) Also, I find that most people are sensitive to the plight of the ugly (or people who think they are ugly) and will build them up, while pretty people who acknowledge that they are aesthetically-blessed are torn down with "she's ok but she's not all that" wickedness. I think anyone who judges is bitter, period. There is always someone prettier, smarter, fitter, funnier, more charming, more alluring, sexier, and better at everything you do. If you center your life around being the best at anything, or trying to measure up to others, you will be sadly disappointed and unhappy! And if someone else judges you, just say what I say, "Don't hate me 'cause you ain't me!" :D Or say it to yourself anyway. ;)
AmberHoney AmberHoney 9 years
I believe as you age you out grow this sort of thing.
stephley stephley 9 years
If I see a woman who I think is more attractive to me, I'm likely to look at her favorably and kind of study what it is that drew my attention. I have no problem noticing that some women get things more 'right' than I do. I tend to fall apart the second I leave the house, so any improvement tips I can pick up are fine by me. If we're talking about a woman that the men I'm around think is more attractive to me, then I tend to be more critical. Because their taste is ridiculous.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 9 years
I try not to however sometimes I do w/o realizing it.
Spectra Spectra 9 years
I think I tend to look more at how people put themselves together more than how pretty or attractive they are. If I see a modestly-attractive woman out with a nice outfit on and her hair done nicely, I tend to think she's better looking than a naturally pretty person who's out in their PJs. I don't think I'm petty or judgemental...I know lots of women that are prettier than I am, but I try to focus on their good qualities and I tell myself that I have good assets as well. Very few women have the total package, so to speak. Most of us have features that we love and some features we don't.
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