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Does Your Relationship Affect Your Beauty Choices?

For my friend's birthday I gave her a beautiful and classic pinky Bobbi Brown Shimmer Brick. She doesn't wear a ton of makeup, so I knew she'd appreciate its versatility. As it turns out, she loved the idea but asked me for a gift receipt after explaining that she won't wear makeup that contains shimmer.

Apparently, her boyfriend feels that sparkly makeup is tacky and it makes people look old. I was so taken aback that I nearly sprayed her with my champagne cosmo. If a guy ever asked me to alter my makeup to suit his tastes, it would be sayonara city — but that's just me. Do you tailor your beauty choices to please your significant other?


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guavapineapple guavapineapple 8 years
hm. if my bf didnt like makeup on me it wouldnt really bother me. but i do try to change my look to suit him. after all, hes the one looking at me. i hated his glasses and asked him to stop wearing them. it didnt bother him and he just stopped. similarly, he told me he likes my hair better down. so i try to wear it down more often. i think its all about compromise.
designerel designerel 8 years
my last ex hated it when girls wore too much makeup. at first i thought that included me, but he said "i wasn't that bad" psshhh whatever. he also complained if i had on lip gloss because it would be sticky. that i understood. the current guy has no opinion of makeup, his only complaint was about this lip gloss i sometimes wear from revlon that "makes his lips numb" huh??? i like that lip gloss but since he has such strong feelings about it i just don't wear it around him.
comfortec comfortec 8 years
I could never imagine my boyfriend or any other guy I dated noticing anything to do w/my hair or make up unless I looked like a hideous clown. So I have never even thought about this but I probably wouldn't take their opinion about these things too much to heart b/c what do boys know about makeup anyways?!
monday monday 9 years
i just take note of what is said. opinions usually aren't enough to get me to give anything up, but sometimes it's enough get me to consider trying something once.
JEWELS22 JEWELS22 9 years
I agree with you FinnLover:) I chose other too... when I just start wearing make up I did wear a lot but over time as I got older I started to wear less because I liked to look natural even when I wear makeup and then when I meet My Hubby he just prefers me natural and I feel more comfortable in my skin then ever before with or without the makeup, plus I never wear makeup to work, but the weekend or when we go out I love wearing a little to bring out my features.. I wear mascara, lip gloss, bronzer (because I’m very pale) and sometimes cream blush... I think it is a little weird when a guy have a say in every little thing you put on your self, I understand if your showing tooooo much skin then I believe your husband does have a say in that but if it’s a certain color or he want you to only wear certain clothes or you have to wear Eyeliner or a certain print, or you have to dye your hair blond because the guy loves blonds and you’re a brunette  that is too much because obviously that guy has a problem with the way you look and he wants you to look like someone else.
Niki-Lovebug Niki-Lovebug 9 years
I won't change my style for somebody else. If they don't like the way I do my hair or makeup, then kick their ass to the curve. But boys like how I do my hair and makeup. I don't over do my hair or makeup, I just make it pretty.
AmberHoney AmberHoney 9 years
Ladytron7000 - are you the fashion/makeup police? I'm way over 21 and wear platforms and flipflops (do have a pair of platform flipflops), glitter, stilletos, pushup bras and much more.
tigerfire21 tigerfire21 9 years
My bf and I both have rather expirimental tastes, so we don't complain about what each other wears. Just for the record, I always think he's totally hot and he always says the same about me. There are a few things though: I shave more often and don't wear sticky lipgloss.
katrinawrites katrinawrites 9 years
When I was 16 and on my way to a party, my dad--who is straight but blessed with the musical tastes and vanity of a drag queen--told me: "You need more eyeshadow." I didn't comply. A couple of years ago, when an ex-boyfriend mentioned something about loving my smoky eyeshadow, I thought nothing of it. I still wore makeup the way I wanted though. I couldn't very well wear smoky eyes everyday. These days, my husband prefers me without makeup, but I still wear as much or as little as I like. And when the mood strikes, I reach for the navy eyeshadow and dark liner. However, that does prompt my husband to ask "Why do you have a blackeye?"
Tabloid Tabloid 9 years
On the other hand, there's a lot of guys who likes woman who doesn't wear make up because they prefer woman's natural beauty... I find it insulting if a man tells a woman to wear make up because it means she's too ugly so she needs to cover her face with make up. hah! yeah, so I do understand some fact about man.
tatsauce tatsauce 9 years
I think dressing and looking good for your man is important big time but you can't let that hinder your style. I'm lucky my guy digs my style other wise, it's sayonara ville for him!
jamela92600 jamela92600 9 years
My bf prefers that I don't wear lipgloss with shimmer because it'll get on him and he thinks he looks like he just left a strip club. lol I couldn't really argue with that so I don't wear shimmery stuff when we hang out.
orisugar orisugar 9 years
I started getting influenced by bohemian chic/hipster fashion and my boyfriend (who is very preppy) hated it, but I didn't care. Even though I love my boyfriend, I dress to please me first.
itsme3683 itsme3683 9 years
So aside from the fact that it's TOTALLY weird for him to tell her what makeup she can't wear... shimmer making people look old?? He's clearly crazy. I do tend to doll up a little more when my boyfriend's out but that's mostly just because I feel bad making him wait for me while I get ready. The one thing I don't use as much of with him is lipgloss, just because it gets sticky after a few kisses!
peptor85 peptor85 9 years
My good friend has a boyfriend who hates it when she wears almost any kind of makeup, especially eye shadow and lip products. She still wears makeup sometimes but not so much when he is around. She doesn't even wear bold makeup, just subtle and natural colors which look really good on her! I think it's really weird and that she should wear what she wants when she wants and tell him to butt out. I myself love bold eye makeup and would never stop wearing it just for a guy. If he told me he hated my makeup I'd probably end the relationship.
Ladytron7000 Ladytron7000 9 years
There's a difference between controlling and having preferences. If you want your partner to do things that you find attractive, and avoid things you hate, you should return the courtesy. My husband hates platform flipflops, which, like glitter, are tacky for anyone over 21. I don't wear them. I hate facial hair, but as I always say, it's his face. He occassionally grows an ironic moustache, but kindly shaves before a date with me. We both watch our weight for each other.
ElizabethRae ElizabethRae 9 years
He doesn't dictate, but I take his opinion into consideration. Hubby likes my hair longer so I don't cut it short as often, which is not a huge sacrifice. I like his longer so he does the same for me. I think if it's something I'm ambivalent about and he has an opinion, I can defer to him and we are both happy. On the flip side, he doesn't care if I shave my legs often or wear makeup. This is extremely important to me because when I was younger I shaved my legs more often b/c I dated a guy who thought girls should shave every day. Never again. I love the freedom to be myself and still be totally loved!
RobyTose RobyTose 9 years
Nine days out of ten it's all my preference... but on special nights out with him I'll pull out the red lipstick he likes or something 'cause I know it's his favorite. I'm not going to change my whole look for him, though. He better love me for who I am! :)
gigill gigill 9 years
I'm like most people here and am sort of in between when it comes to my appearance and pleasing my partner. Pretty much every guy I've been with says they like my hair long, so I tend to keep it on the long-ish side since I like it too. If they ever asked me to dye it though, then that's a big "HELL NO!" and that's the end of that. As for makeup, I don't think I wear enough for guys to bitch about it or compliment me. They just tend to say I look good when I put a bit of effort in and that's that - none of this "no shimmer" crap. That's a little too fussy in my books.
cokerad cokerad 9 years
I will say that glitter or shimmer is maybe the one thing a guy should have a say in, because that crap gets everywhere! If you hug or kiss him, poof, he's a glittering goddess too. But there is a difference in demanding she not wear it and suggesting she doesn't. That's the line between controlling and having someone's best interest in mind.
dreamlover823 dreamlover823 9 years
I cant imagine having to change yourself to please someone else. I have never let anyone influence my decisions. I have been happily coupled then engaged then married to the perfect man who will just chuckle at the countless hours I spend on beauty blogs and who will endure long shopping sessions at sephora. He sees the passion that I have for these things... I guess I am just lucky!
AndiO1225 AndiO1225 9 years
My boyfriend hates it when I wear make-up. Sometimes he hides my mascara from me! He just likes it when I look natural, and I try to comply when I go out with him, but wear make-up when I have a girls night. He says that because I have big features (eyes and lips) it looks to over the top when I emphasis it. I know it sounds horrible but he would change his clothes for me if I told him I didn't like what he was wearing. It's give and take, and if it makes him happy when we go out, well...
emososays17 emososays17 9 years
I don't know if this guy saying he doesn't like shimmery makeup would count as abusive. A man being controlling is one thing, voicing an opinion and having the girl take it into consideration is another. I listen to my bf when he tells me he loves my hair curly as opposed to straight or when he wrinkles his nose when he sees me with a heavy smokey eye because all it means is that he likes the way I am naturally and what's so wrong with that?
ranksubjugation ranksubjugation 9 years
I agree with Renees3! It's one thing if your bf FORBIDS you to do something and punishes you if you defy him -- especially if it's something you did all the time when he met you. This, however, just sounds like he isn't into sparkly stuff. My bf is from the midwest, and says that dark eye makeup makes a girl look.. uh, less than virtuous... so I don't experiment with those looks. It's just good manners to avoid things that really rub your partner the wrong way -- And hey, this way he's more likely to listen to ME when I speak up against something of his.
Blackwidowchick Blackwidowchick 9 years
My husband doesn't care what I do to my face, but he does have his "favorite" looks. So sometimes when I am dressing up for him to go out on a date I will do his favorite look, but other than that if I wanted to wear lime green shadow and orange lipstick he wouldnt give a rats behind.
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