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If Your Mom Got Plastic Surgery, Would You Want to Know?

Ever since the death of Donde West last month, I've been wondering if Kanye knew his mom was going to have plastic surgery beforehand. We'll never know, since such things are private, but I'm not the only one thinking about it. This weekend's LA Times explored how some patients tell their families about their surgery—or don't.

My mom hasn't had any surgery, because she's happy with herself as she is. (And heck, she is lovely as ever!) But I'd like to think that if she were to go under the knife, she'd talk with me about it—and at the very least, I'd want to be there to hold her hand through a potentially scary process. It's a little trickier when you're the parent, though: How do you tell a child that Mommy is going to have a new nose, for instance? According to plastic surgeon Dr. Stanley Frileck, you should be honest and consider bringing kids into the office to discuss the procedure:

"The biggest mistake you can make is to try and fool a child. . . Sit your 7-year-old down, and tell him that you're having an operation and that you're going to be swollen afterward and will need some help."

In theory, this sounds like a reasonable plan, but I can't help but think that kids that age would be scared or worried. Plus, it's gotta be difficult to raise a child to be content with his or her appearance if you're dragging them to a plastic surgeon's office at that age. What do you think? If your mom were going to get surgery, would you want to know? And should potential patients tell their kids?


amandachalynn amandachalynn 9 years
My mother in law got breast implants when the boys were teenagers, and none of them know. She got them because she felt like her boobs looked older than she was. You can't even tell that she has them. She told the boys that she was going on vacation with her husband, so they spent three weeks with grandma. My hubby is now 27 and he still has no idea.
mlmoreno47 mlmoreno47 9 years
I found out after my high school graduation that my mom had breast implants put in when we were little and I was a little shocked. I kept wondering why my breasts never developed (they have since) because my mom's were large, my dad's sisters were large so I felt like mine should be too. After learning the truth I felt better and I think she should have told me way sooner. I've always compared my physical development to that of my families and in this situation I kind of felt lied to.
Ava-Gardner Ava-Gardner 9 years
If she was going under general anaesthesia then yes I would want to know, if it was just a bit of tinkering around with needles, well then, I'd give her some autonomy. ;)
TASTEthiss TASTEthiss 9 years
i would definitely want my mom to inform me about something as serious as surgery. in fact, i would be by her side while shes recovering. i hope kanye stays strong.
veronicaraye veronicaraye 9 years
I hope he knew, how sad.
Phasekitty Phasekitty 9 years
My mom got some work done while I was in high school. She had to tell me, asides from the fact that I would notice (she looked totally different), I had to stay home and take care of her! I was a little sour about it considering I was 16 and it was my spring break, but as much as my mom has and still does take care of me, I got over it pretty quickly.
joy76 joy76 9 years
I would tell my kids, I don't think it affects them, ie. make them more image conscious I mean. Kids grow to have their own personality which is sometimes independent of their parents, which is why some of us don't get along with our parents :-)
emalove emalove 9 years
I know that my mom would never get plastic surgery, but if she did, I know she'd tell me. My family just isn't secretive like that.
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 9 years
hills, sometimes it's not about losing weight... my mom got surgery done on her eyes and she looks great! she kept it a secret from most of the family....just my sisters and I knew about it. But we're all older...I don't have kids so IDK...mommy fell off the monkey bars, ate it straight in the face and got bruised real bad, lol..but she'll be bring me the remote...
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I'm sure I would be the one taking her!
MotoLinz MotoLinz 9 years
I would want to know, and I think she would tell me. Bella, you make a perfect point about plastic surgery vs. teaching kids to be happy with themselves. I could launch into a pages-long rant about the entire subject, but I will restrain myself (and spare all of you). :)
hills hills 9 years
y would u want to risk dying and leaving a family behind to have a new look u want, i think there are so many other options in losing weight, but i also understand if people feel awful and want to change their appearance, i just think its really terrible people feel that inferior. id def want to know if my mum wanted surgery, luckily she dos'nt but id want to talk to her about it.
princess_eab princess_eab 9 years
Yes. My mom has had an eye and neck lift and discussed it with us.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I think I would like to know. If I were a little kid then you'd wonder what happened to your Mom's face or body and as an adult you could be there to help her recover.
flutterpie flutterpie 9 years
i would definetly want to know if my mom was getting a procedure done, plastic surgery is a major thing that can have complications, its important that the family is kept in the loop
Elana Elana 9 years
As a 27-year-old gal, I would definitely want to know if my mom wanted cosmetic surgery. I think it depends what is noticeable, how extent the surgery will be, and the maturity of the child...I think it would also take a lot of discussion and honesty between the child and parent. I can't say an age...but I do think that a parnt shouldn't disregard the opinions of their children even if they decide to go forward in their decision. It's all about being safe and educated!
Seraphim Seraphim 9 years
i guess it would depend on the age of the child... and i'd most likely be the one trying to tell whoever,... not to...
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I would want to know so I could be there to support her and take care of her! I woudln't try and talk her out of it at all, it would be her deicision. I would want her to know the pros and cons and be educated about it, but I would be behind her if she asked me to.
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