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If You're in a Wedding, What Do You Expect the Bride to Pay For?

If You're in a Wedding, What Do You Expect the Bride to Pay For?

Being a bridesmaid can become a financial burden. Not only are you likely expected to buy a dress and attend multiple pre-wedding events such as an engagement party, a shower, and a bachelorette party, but you are also expected to come bearing gifts.

All of these costs add up pretty quickly and you haven't even made it down the aisle yet! I've been in many weddings where the bride has paid for hair, makeup or both for her bridesmaids — and I've been in others where I've been expected to pay these services. When you are included in the wedding party, what beauty costs do you expect the bride to cover?

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Allytta Allytta 8 years
i expect her to pay for the dress. but if she wants me to have a special kind of hari do then it's on her too.
abqmama abqmama 9 years
I was very concious of how much money my bridesmaids had to spend. I picked out fairly cheap ($100) dresses for them, which they paid for. The shoes were about $50, they bought them and I paid for the dying. When it came to hair and makeup I told them they could do whatever they wanted, I'm not that controlling. My matron of honor and I got our hair done before the wedding and we each paid for our own, my other two bridesmaids did their own. My sister-in-law, who was one of my bridesmaids, did my make up and the others did their own. Of course I only had three bridesmaids, my best friend, my sister and my husband's sister so all of them would have been in the wedding no matter how much it cost.
mirawilliams mirawilliams 9 years
I was in a wedding once where I had to fly from Toronto to Florida and pay for my hotel room for the night before and of the wedding. I made her pay for my dress. Considering it was US$45 plus shipping and I had to pay for the massive amount of alterations (they had to take the dress down an entire size), I don't think I was unreasonable. I did my own hair and makeup which was fine because my hair was short and I just went to MAC, booked a lesson and bought what I needed. I have no problem saying, "I can't afford to be in your wedding party." if that's the case. I freelance and I am not going to spend $1,000 on a wedding.
Random2 Random2 9 years
I think it really depends on a lot of thing. The wedding budget, where the bride wants things to be professionally done (if she even wants a professional), etc. If the bride wants something specific in an expensive salon, she should pay for it herself, but if it's a cheaper place, I'd be ok with paying for it myself. In the wedding I'm going to be in, the bride is a Mary Kay rep, and is buying us all the eye shadow/ blush/ lipstick sets and we'll do our own make up. I also have a feeling we'll be doing our own hair, as this isn't the most expensive wedding ever as all of us are just out of or still in school.
Irisia Irisia 9 years
I don't expect the bride to pay for anything but it's so appreciated. My bride didn't pay for our hair and makeup but she also didn't require us to get our hair/makeup done. We did it ourselves. My other bride paid for the dresses (she got them well below wholesale) and the hair. We all did our own makeup (even the bride). This wedding was so low key - it was amazing. No gifts - just my dress and hair. The BEST bridal gift ever!
TrickyTara627 TrickyTara627 9 years
this is all verrry interesting!! well i've been in two weddings in the past 2 yrs and neither of them made us pay for the dress. my best friends wedding was in kentucky and she wanted everyone to have straight sleek pony's to go with the style of the dress, however i did not trust the lady's doing the hair (and neither did my other bff, we're LA girls and the ladies doing hair were like 60 and very old fashioned...we said hells no to that). turned out totally fine and we looked better than her other 3 bridesmaids that let the old bats do their hair. for my brothers wedding, his fiance had all of us get hair and makeup professionally done, but it was a completely diff style of wedding and completely diff budget. ive had both and it really just depends on who the person is and ultimately their budget.
emalove emalove 9 years
I don't expect the bride to pay for my dress OR my makeup. I've been in 7 weddings in the past 15 years (soon to be 8 weddings) and only once did the bride pay for my dress. And that was because I was only 16 years old, the bride was my cousin, and she comes from a very wealthy family. I think it's pretty standard practice these days for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses and hair/makeup. Of course, if you're the bride and can afford to pay for these things, then it's a nice thing to do. But I certainly would never expect it.
KDwxgirl KDwxgirl 9 years
I'm getting married in 6 weeks and all my girls are paying for their own hair. We're not having makeup done professionally. I gave them the option of doing their own hair, but they all wanted to go to the salon with me. I think that if you have to go to a certain place with the bride, then she should pay, but otherwise the bridesmaids should. Yes being a bridesmaid is expensive, I know I've been one 3 times, but try being the bride who is paying for her own wedding.
sparklemeetspop sparklemeetspop 9 years
It really depends. Considering we're trying to buy a new house and paying for the wedding, we can't afford to pay for professionaly hair and makeup. That being said, I am not requiring them to be professionally dolled up. And, I am bringing in my makeup artist friend and non-salon hair person to do me. I honestly can't stomach paying the professional "bride" prices myself.
MindayH MindayH 9 years
I don't expect anything. But I was at a wedding recently where all but one of the bridesmaids paid to have a stylist do there was obvious in the pictures that there was 1 girl out, which sucks for my friend who got married, cause it just looks bad.
hollylyn hollylyn 9 years
I think that if a bride expects a very specific hair or make-up look, then it should be up to here to provide and pay for the appropriate stylists. If she simply states a basic look (like 1/2 up, 1/2 down or natural make-up) then it's up to the bridesmaid to either do it themselves (FREE!) or if they prefer, pay someone to do it for them.
beautylaw beautylaw 9 years
If I'm in a wedding, it is or someone I care deeply about. I am happy to share their day and support them through the journey. I will help out as much as I can and definately don't expect them to pay for anything for me.
fcseamstress fcseamstress 9 years
I'm pretty much giving my bridesmaids free reign in how they want to look; I'm only picking the color of their dresses and the store where I want them to buy from (so at least they'll match each other). Accessories are totally up to them. As for hair/makeup, I'm going to a specific salon and inviting my bridesmaids, but giving them the price before hand so they know what to expect and that they'll be paying their own. I think it would be awesome to have everyone come with me, but I know they might not be able to afford it. Oh, and the salon I'm going to will let them choose makeup, hair or both, another way to keep costs minimum. I'll probably pay for my maid of honor's hair & makeup, but that's all we'll be able to afford (7 maids would be expensive!!). I'm thinking of paying for the moms too, but not too sure about that... I'd rather give my maids lots of choices so they're comfortable, happy and don't go broke because of my big day! Plus I've got maids with light hair, dark hair, curvy bodies, twiggy bodies, light complexions and dark complexions, so one 'look' for them all would inevitably leave someone looking weird.
MuppetsForDinner MuppetsForDinner 9 years
I think make-up is pretty unnecessary. I'm saving money by not getting my makeup done. Second, I might be spending a small fortune on the wedding, but I've already said that I'm going to pay for my bridesmaids rooms for two nights and all of their meals. Isn't that enough?? We're talking thousands right there. God, I'm getting stressed. Is this ANOTHER thing we're expected to pay for?
lizadilly lizadilly 9 years
Are hair stylists and make up artists really necessary? My girlfriends look hot whenever they go out... I'd think they know how to style themselves better than anyone else could.
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 9 years
I am having only 2 bridesmaids, I will probably pay for them to have their hair and make-up done (Possibly nails aswell). They are my best friends, and they both have to pay for plane tickets to come out for it...
Kimpossible Kimpossible 9 years
hmcmcd said what I was going to say... I don't expect the bride to pay for anything, if she does that's very nice and generous of her, but if I agree to be in a wedding then I expect to "pay my way", for lack of a better term, if it turns out I don't have to well that's just a nice bonus.
SoFiaCaLZoNe SoFiaCaLZoNe 9 years
I would never expect the bride to pay for anything! Why would she pay for the dress? Maybe just the flower girl if any. If the bride wants all the girls to wear the same hair then she may pay for it but that's usually rare. It is customary for the bride to give each bridesmaid a gift the ngiht of the rehearsal dinner as a thank you for being in the wedding.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I think that it really depends on the wedding. If they're spending $400,000 on the wedding than they can afford to pay for your hair and makeup. If you're required to wear the same hair and makeup than she should cover the cost especially if it's at an expensive salon. If it's a low budget wedding than expect to pay for it yourself. Mine was casual and outside so we did our own hair and makeup so no one had to pay for something they could have done themselves anyway.It was a lot of fun having everyone do everyone else's hair, like a sleepover back in the day.
ForeverMeg ForeverMeg 9 years
If the bride is expecting the hair and makeup to look a certain way and doesn't want to take any chances of the maids doing it themselves, she should certainly pay for it to be done.
novasole novasole 9 years
The only wedding I've been in (for my sister-in-law) I paid for everything: shoes, dress, and hair (I did my own make-up), as well as engagement/bridal shower gifts. However, she did all she could to keep costs down. The dress was about $150, and the shoes were on sale. For hair, we all went to her stylist, who gave us a steep discount. I really wouldn't expect a bride to pay for my dress, since they're a little more complicated to buy (they need to be tailored and hemmed). But make-up and hair - especially if she wants it done a certain way - should really be her responsibility.
drexelmom drexelmom 9 years
it's simple- she who books the appointment/stylist pays- whoever it is bride or bridesmaid
brittanyk brittanyk 9 years
I was in a wedding last fall, where the bride automatically booked all of her bridesmaids to some extremely fancy salon (expensive) that only did bridal hair and makeup. Since she automatically booked everyone without asking, I just assumed that she was going to pay for it. I was definitely wrong. I didn't get anything great done with my hair, and I was expected to pay for it, which would have been fine if I had been under the impression that I was going to pay for it in the first place. Oh well.
calliope calliope 9 years
If the bride was paying for my shoes and bridesmaid gown then I wouldn't expect my hair and make up done. However, I am 24 and have been in 4 of my friends weddings and I have always had to buy the dress, shoes, bridal shower gifts, help set up the church, etc... I have only received a "thank you" gift (earrings) once. I think that younger people don't necessarily know how to plan their weddings and tend to inconvenience their friends financially. Not to mention each of these weddings had at least five and up to eight bridesmaids. When I get married, I plan on having two or three bridesmaids so I can cover most of the expenses.
melizzle melizzle 9 years
I'd only expect her to pay if I was required to have a specific hair and makeup style in a certain way.
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