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Balancing Wedding Planning and Work

Working Girl's Guide to Wedding Planning, Part I

Everyone always says the time between your engagement and wedding will fly by — between work, wedding planning, and everything in between there's barely time to come up for air. It's important to keep your priorities in order and recognize that while your wedding represents one of the biggest days in your life, you need your job for your everyday livelihood and can't let those responsibilities take a backseat. While wedding planning can be stressful at times, think of it as an extracurricular activity that you should try your best to leave out of the office.

It can be tempting to use your company's resources to help you achieve ultimate wedding planning efficiency. There's a fax machine 20 feet away from you and empty conference rooms just waiting for you to call your florist with an idea that just hit you. It may all seem pretty harmless, taking 15 minutes out of your work day to accomplish some wedding business, but put yourself in your employer's shoes before you start reserving the conference room for you and your cell every day at the same time. To see why I think this is important just


In your mind, those handful of minutes represent time you'd be taking a break looking up recipes or getting your hourly dose of Sugar, but it's doubtful that your employer shares your rationale. Picture this scenario: You've given out the company's fax number to all of your vendors, and without warning your band faxes over a set list for you to sort through. Your boss is expecting an important fax and intercepts the fax meant for you, that's blatantly not work related. While some bosses are understanding about the demands of wedding planning, most would prefer the only multitasking done at the office makes you a more productive worker, not a more efficient wedding planner.

Bottom line: You need to care about your job. You also need to stay on your employer's good side during wedding planning because you may need to squeeze in some last-minute appointments as the wedding date comes closer. They'll be more likely to oblige to any emergency requests if you maintained a high work ethic throughout the planning process.

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tiff58 tiff58 9 years
Because I do work from home, after the work day (and before) I doubt that my boss would mind that I do some personal things at work.
bellaressa bellaressa 9 years
Great tips, if you can have a friend help with follow-up - that may also help.
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 9 years
I agree with SkinnyMarie - some places only have hours that are 9-5. If you live in a different state and have to deal with time differences, it gives even more messed up. And don't forget...there's always the lunch break to do wedding stuff.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
this is a good point, and while it seems obvious, some people are oblivious to how much "personal business" they tend to at work
janest janest 9 years
Self magazine just had a funny article about this!
SkinnyMarie SkinnyMarie 9 years
I have asked my boss if I could use the fax to send something wedding related. I think asking is the best policy. But I do have to add that it is extremely hard to avoiding using time at work to do things mainly because the vendors are only available the same time that you are at work. My caterer only answers the phone m-f 9-5. Its been difficult. i would also add to not overload your schedule with other stuff you normally do. I found myself this winter (the months of heavy planning) on two soccer teams and in a study group for my NCIDQ test. I never had a day to just come home and sit, and if I did I didn't want to do anything except be a zombie in front of the tv.
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