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DEARSUGAR Needs Your Help: Spoiled Rotten By My BF's Folks

DEARSUGAR Needs Your Help: Spoiled Rotten By My BF's Folks

DEARSUGAR and Grateful Gila need your help. She feels so lucky to be dating a great guy who has parents that treat her to anything and everything, but she's looking for a nice thank you gift that will express her gratitude. Do you have any ideas for her?

Dear Sugar
My boyfriend's family is incredible. They are the nicest people and have such a warm family environment. They also have tons of money, not in the flashy way, more in an understated and humble way.

They treat me like one of their own and they always insist on taking me on amazing vacations, wonderful dinners, weekends away and they pay for EVERYTHING! My parents raised me to believe that if someone pays you a favor, then you are supposed to pay them back ten-fold (not necessarily in a financial way, but more in an appreciative way.)

I feel horrible that I can't show them the level of generosity that they show me. I obviously can't compete with their finances, so I have been wracking my brain trying to think of something special and thoughtful to get them as a gesture of my gratitude. Just saying, "thank you" and giving them warm hugs is starting to make me feel a little bit lame already.

I've thought of giving them gift baskets filled with their favorite goodies, but when I hint to my boyfriend about an idea, he tells me they have more than enough of that kind of stuff (I'm sure they do they got 30+ gift baskets for the holidays from clients)! Does anyone have any ideas for affordable gifts that would show them how deeply I care? Grateful Gila

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lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 10 years
Write them a letter telling them how much their generosity has meant to you, and send it with flowers and chocolate. **“In my mind, I’ve always been an A-list Hollywood superstar. Y’all just didn’t know yet.” -Will Smith **
Deba Deba 10 years
Where do you find folks like that? I think my mother in law hates me... Anyway! Do they drink wine or some special liquor? Get them a good reserve I dont know about cooking, you are taking the risk they dont like what you cook and end up thinking their son is going to dye of starvation... no trying to be mean or somehthing but its a risk Instead of flowers get them a bonsai... something that they can take care, some sort of symbol for friendship... I guess.
missnomi missnomi 10 years
cook them dinner, give them a picture, a collage, a special book. bake a cake! something handmade is best, something that has your heart in it.
fashion_doll24 fashion_doll24 10 years
A photo album is always a great gift if you're short on finances! They'll appreciate it because it's a very personal gift, and because you've made the effort of putting it together. Flowers are always nice! I'd go with a plant, or even flowers from your own garden! I once gave my boyfriend mother a bunch of lavender from my garden tied together with a ribbon when I came to dinner, and although it may seem very ordinary, she realy liked it.
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
I agree with Val. A heartfelt letter letting them know how much their kindness has touched you will mean more than any gift you could buy. And a photo album is a wonderful idea!
grl-in-the-world grl-in-the-world 10 years
I'm a big scrapbook fan, so I love that idea. A personal note is also a great idea, life is short and it's a wonderful thing to let special people know how important they are in your life. You sound really lucky to have your boyfriends family welcome you into their fold and care for you so much.
dancemiadance dancemiadance 10 years
make a scrapbook of all your memories together. if you can paint, paint them a picture. even a heartfelt note and a bouquet of pretty flowers would suffice.
mooneab mooneab 10 years
What if you got them something they could enjoy together? Ie. A bicycle rental for two along with a prepared picnic basket. A wine tasting trip close to home. A weekend pass to a nearby spa. If possible, a hot air balloon trip at evening light. If those aren't possible, due to location or price, try something moderately expensive that utilizes your local position.
rubialala rubialala 10 years
Definitely a (very) nice thank you card with hand written notes from you, along with something home made, loving something to do with pictures, scrapbooking or something. You are very sweet to want to give back and let them know that you appreciate their generosity instead of just taking advantage that his parents are loaded. Good girl. :HUG:
Tabusangel Tabusangel 10 years
~Tabus_Angel~ I agree with just about all these ideas. I think the photo's are a great touch and you can personalize them also.. I have found that shutterfly is so easy to work with and you can add and caption the pictures any way you want. Include pics of what you have done together and maybe some personal ones of just them. It can be done inexpensively, but it means alot.
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 10 years
I would go with making something. I like Valeri's photo album idea. Or maybe something that you could do for them.
angelbaby2 angelbaby2 10 years
how about a nice bouquet of flowers or a cool plant. I would go with the floral arrnagement
Marci Marci 10 years
I like the ideas suggested above of making them a special dinner or putting together a photo album from different occasions. Both would be nice, happily accepted, and come from your heart.
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
maybe a heartfelt note telling them how incredibly special they make you feel by always including you in family events and a photo album you put together of pix of the different events. if you have one really special photo you could get a frame engraved with something personal on it as a remembrance of the event. when people get to where they can buy pretty much whatever they want it's the effort and sentiment behind the gift that truly has meaning. 2007?
Cycy Cycy 10 years
How about something homemade/handmade? Homemade dinner for them, their favourite dinner. Or knit something? I used to do that when I was younger and couldn't afford to buy gifts for anyone. The gifts were always popular and liked.
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