I'm a bridesmaid in a very good friend's wedding this coming October. I knew saying yes when she asked me to be a bridesmaid would be tricky because I've been saving half my income for an extended trip to South America (leaving in January). Since the soon to be bride is in school (and not working) I figured their wedding and events leading up to it would be fairly economical and I could make my tight budget work.
Now that the bridal shower, bachelorette, etc details are coming together and I have my budget laid out through the end of the year the numbers just aren't working in my favor. I've been helping plan the bachelorette party/trip to San Diego (she's having two bachelorette parties, one is a traveling trip to SD and another in the city we live) and I'm beyond stressed. If my trip in January weren't so important, I'd be happy to charge the SD trip to my credit card and pay it off later. But I can't put South America off and I can't leave the country with debt. The bottom line is I can't afford this bachelorette party and I need to back out but I'm at a loss for how to do so gracefully. Is it even possible? Should I back out as a bridesmaid altogether?