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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Dated Outside Your Race?

There has been a lot of talk about race on the runway lately and it's got me thinking about the role race plays in relationships. There are many couples out there with varying religious beliefs and conflicting points of views on money, but what about dating someone of a different race? Just like any of the above, dating outside your race can bring a sense of complication to the relationship, but at the end of the day, it's all about the connection and love each person feels for the other. Clearly I'm curious so tell me, have you ever dated outside of your race?


BellaEdward4ever BellaEdward4ever 8 years
cnlew, I think you have a good point by saying that cultures should all be distinguished and that everyone should not just be lumped together and not differentiated-I was thinking the same thing as I read these comments. However, I think it's still possible for two people that are together to maintain their cultures, because for many people that's very important. If you want your SO to change their culture for you, then you're not a good match. If an interracial couple has kids, then the kids will get to learn about two amazing cultures. As long as people take care not to let go of their traditions, I don't think what you described will happen. I think it's great to date outside your race because you are exposed to different cultures and ideas you would not see otherwise...and I agree with everyone who has said sexy is sexy, no matter what race! Sorry that was kind of long.... oh and by the way I'm 14 and have never been in a relationship haha
aluminum-origami aluminum-origami 8 years
My family is French/Russian and my boyfriend is Mexican. He is the most caring, sincere person I've ever met. :)
khadeekiinsz khadeekiinsz 8 years
My bf is Irish and Cuban, I'm black. Its not an issue for me at all.
soybean589 soybean589 9 years
Of the four relationships I've had, three were with someone who wasn't the same race as me. Since I've had fewer experiences with someone from my own race, I have developed a same-race fetish.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I've never dated anyone of a different race but I definitely would if I wasn't married. I wouldn't not date anyone who I liked personality wise no matter what race or what they look like. It's not about looks or race at all. I'm attracted to all races equally.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 9 years
I haven't dated outside my race (I've only really had 1 bf), but I have a huge crush on this Chinese boy. I brought him to the house and everybody was cool with it (my mom, sister, auntie, older cousins) except for my father. But he would have gotten over it because my sister is dating a white guy.
alba1 alba1 9 years
im all for dating outside my race! But i can see where cultural differences may cause conflicts further along, but i guess if u really love the doesn't even matter!
ravanwild ravanwild 9 years
ha yeh my hubby is east indian and im white, talk about getting looks from people,,,and not good ones either but who cares right we love each other and thats what matters to us,
Sevy Sevy 9 years
My boyfriend is black and I'm a mixture of causcasian, native american, black and waaaayy too many other things haha. But my skin is white (meaning to the general public, I'm just a white girl). I can't say I've gotten many judging or odd looks from people.. but maybe it's just cause I don't care enough to notice. Race doesn't matter to me at all. Who cares? Like everyone else here has said. A person is a person.
bellaressa bellaressa 9 years
I know what you mean Bran, I grew up in the South and when I return to visit family. It sometimes seems I went back in time.
bransugar79 bransugar79 9 years
bella I just stare back and smile. It's really weird here. Hardly anybody hangs out with people outside their race. It's not like segregation exactly I mean everyone is cordial with everyone else but no one seems to have real close friends of different races.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
I'm the first one in my Taiwanese family to be marrying a white guy, and I have a feeling he'll be subjected to a lot of (friendly) jokes from my cousins and such. I've been preparing him for that :)
bellaressa bellaressa 9 years
Bran, when people start looking at you, you should tongue him down. :lol:
bransugar79 bransugar79 9 years
I'm black and my husband is white. I grew up in California where it was never a big deal to see people of different races on the street hugging or kissing. Now we live in Georgia and we get the strangest looks. It makes me sad because when I'm with my husband I don't think of him as "the white guy I bagged" he's just my husband and my best friend. And to cnlew i know this might be something you never thought of but if we all start to mix races then we each bring our own cultural quirks along. There is a difference between the way I was raised and the way my husband was raised. We each bring different strengths to our relationship and if we have children a different set of values and standards will emerge. So while you may want to keep things pure so you can "enjoy the difference" remember that we're all individuals we're all different. The beauty of relationships is that we can all take our differences and our commonalities and form something beautiful and strong from them.
Belle1031 Belle1031 9 years
I'm Hispanic and Spaniard but for some odd reason I don't find myself attracted much to my own race. I like the mystery and knowledge I gain from dating someone outside of my race, then again I've only really dated my ex bf who was British( and hot!) :P
Fallen85 Fallen85 9 years
ThePerfectScore did they realize it was a joke? As a white woman with a black boyfriend we often keep our eyes peeled for other biracial couples like ourselves and we always get excited to see them so if a bi-racial couple gave us a dirty look I think we'd be hurt! I hope you made it clear you were just screwing around lol
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
I kind of have to, it's my obligation to dip into the population.:D It's better if we all start looking alike.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 9 years
I;m currently in a relationship with an Italian man and I am black... we've got no problem with it... but this weekend when we saw another interracial couple (white male, black female) Mike and I stared at them in disgust as a joke. It was fun...
allinavhcnerf allinavhcnerf 9 years
hell yes! i don't like dating guys the same ethnicity as me!
nancita nancita 9 years
Wow, that is very cool how many people are saying yes! Though I currently date someone of the same race, I have always been glad to have experience dating outside my race too.
0danielle0 0danielle0 9 years
It's sad to me that this is still an issue to certain people. :( The color of someone's skin has never been a factor in determining who I choose to spend my time with. Morals, values, interests, and goals are much more important than the shape of a person's eyes or the shade of their skin. I'm looking to spend my time with a caring, genuine person, not someone who will match my skin tone in pictures. As a side note, I do remember a little dilemma I dealt with in one of my more serious interracial relationships- there were times when I worried that any children we had together wouldn't look like me. Silly, I know, but the thought crossed my mind whenever the subject came up. Also, although she never came out and said anything, my mom never bothered to learn the pronunciation of his name- it was a traditional, somewhat difficult Korean name. To me that always seemed like her way of saying she disapproved. :(
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
I have many times. It's never been a problem in any relationship I've had.
talanted08 talanted08 9 years
I've never dated out side of my race but I did come really really close when I was in high school! I have quite a few bi racial cousin's so to me it's not no worry! As long as you two know what's good for you then why worry about the comments of other people. We all find love in the strangest of places but when you find it it's best to hold on to it! As the future grows near there's going to be a lot of other thing's going on and I don't think race will be one of them so why worry now!!
sjo33 sjo33 9 years
I'm Black and have dated a majority of White and Indian guys, although most of my serious relationships have been with guys my own race. I felt like several of the Indian guys felt family pressure to marry Indian girls, so sadly, even when the feelings were there, things could never get too serious. My family was cool with me dating whomever-- most of my female relatives are married interracially.
acechinoise acechinoise 9 years
Hell yeah!! My boyfriend is french and im asian and we are traveling with his ultra conservative parents this winter!! Can't wait!
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