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Dear Poll: Would You Move Back in With Your Parents?

Living on your own as an independent woman is something we all strive for, but what happens when you just can't afford to make ends meet? I know moving back into your parents house isn't ideal, but for some it's the only option. So ladies, tell me, if you needed to move home until you got back on your feet, would you consider it?


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 7 years
No way. I wouldn't do it. I respect my parents but they never financially supported me. I left home early at 17 to go to school. I paid for school with an inheritance from my grandparents. Worked for years and years and got married. Bought a car, house, etc. on my own. Paid for my wedding on my own. Pretty much everything on my own. Nice thing about that is I did everything my way and got it too. Also got a divorce and lived on my own for three years with an small child. My parents didn't really help or come to town much then. I guess I could never forgive them for that so therefore I would never go to them in the future. I do have a sister who might help if I needed. However my husbands family seems more considerate of things. I could live with his mother if I had to for a few months. But in the end 'm just too proud to depend on anyone for very long.
Sofia-Soubrette Sofia-Soubrette 8 years
I moved back in a few years ago so my mom could go back to school full time :) It was a win win situation!
jleareid jleareid 8 years
My husband and I are facing this decision currently. We're both working full time and have been on our own for years... however, due to the recent econmic situation, we're realizing that any amount of extra money we can hold onto, doesn't put any sort of a dent into college loans or credit card payments. We figure by moving in with my mom (who we both get along with) will give a chance to start fresh. We'll be able to save plenty of money within two years to eliminate credit card debt, pay down some student loans and save a hefty amount for a down payment on a house. The pro's seem wonderful, but leaving the home we've made over the last few years will be really hard, and saying goodbye to our freedom as we knew it. I'm worried about the stress it'll put on our relationship, even though we're strong- it's hard to stay afloat with mom-in-law around. We're trying to plan for our future and since we dont' have children yet- it seems like the right thing to do. Take 2 years or so out of our life and get things on track for the benefit of our relationship and hopefully one day our kids... are we crazy?!
witchbaby witchbaby 8 years
everything I love is at home- my parents, my pets, my kitchen ect. why would I want to leave? I'm graduating from college and why would I want to pay rent when my parents would completely understand I'm trying to pay off my loans plus the loans they took out in my name to send me to school.
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
Oh, but I should add, my boyfriends mom lives in Oregon and we live in Florida, so it would be hell even trying to move up there to live with her!
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
My parents already told me I wouldn't be able to move back in with them (Nice, huh, since I'm only 20) but my boyfriends mom would let us live with her if it came down to it!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I would go into a homeless shelter before this happened... OH WAIT I DID... Moving back home isn't an option. My sister already moved out and then moved back in again. I'd go insane. My dad was telling me about some arguments him and my mum had had recently and I could feel my blood pressure raising!! My boyfriend's parents have offered us the option of moving into their house. There is enough space and we can actually tolerate them. We'd consider it but honestly it would be a LAST DITCH option if we got desperate! I think we'll be OK for at least 6 months or so. ;)
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 8 years
i don't have any real issues with my parents but i honestly DON'T consider this an option. my parents have no spare bedrooms in their appartment so i'd be living in their living room. i will not accept that as an option. i'll stay with my boyfriend. we've already talked about what would happen if i get kicked out of where i'm living [cuz it's kind of a possibility] and he is more than willing to live with me, so i'll live with him before my parents. it would take more than a broken economy to make me go back.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
I did this, and am in the middle of it now - just as a breather stop from college to grad school. But man moving back home DEFINITELY was not the best decision I ever made. Sure, free room and board and meals and cable and whatnot are nice - but not when you have to deal with "house rules" for teenagers that just don't make sense when you're in your 20s. But the prospect of that is supposed to KEEP you from moving back in with the parents, right? :D
Deidre Deidre 8 years
No, I wouldn't consider it. But that because I'm getting married next month, and my folks live in another state. We've have to both be unemployed and have eaten through our savings for parental co-habitation to occur. While I know they're always there for me if I need it, the scenario is far from likely to ever happen. *phew*
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
I already do, it's very difficult living here. But you have to make it work.
bbkf bbkf 8 years
I wouldn't mind living with my mom again, but there's no way I'd ask my husband to move in, too.
bengalspice bengalspice 8 years
I would probably take advantage of my ex first before moving back home.
clarabelle98 clarabelle98 8 years
When I was 23 with a child, I got a divorce. If I hadn't gone to live with my parents with my son I'd have been homeless. However, I was out of there again in 6 months. I knew it would be hell going in, so I did everything in my power to keep the time I was there as short as possible.
redchick152 redchick152 8 years
i desparately hate the job i've been at since i graduated (almost 2 yrs ago). i'm considering going back to school and possibly living @ home so i can afford to quit my job. eek, that sound so bad considering the ecomony and unemployment.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
I don't have much of an option. I have a very volatile relationship with my mother so unfor I couldn't if I ever needed to.
TidalWave TidalWave 8 years
i thought about this yesterday actually. the only way i would ever move in with a family member is if i was unemployed for 2+ months. that is about when my savings will run out and i couldn't afford to live in NJ on unemployment. but sleeping on a couch at my brother's house doesn't really sound appealing even if it's free!
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
No, especially since I now live with my partner and I'm sure he wouldn't want to move back to the parental nest either.
oblio000 oblio000 8 years
I'm Indian, so it is perfectly normal for kids to live with their parents, often even if after they get married. So I don't view it as a problem at all! I love my parents!
RaCheer RaCheer 8 years
I live at home now. I'm really close with my parents though and they are totally awesome. We have such a great time together. I'd rather live at home and save money for a down payment on a house than throw my money away on rent. My boyfriend and I also plan to get engaged this year so it's worked out perfectly. I'll actually be really sad to leave.
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 8 years
OH GOD NO. Seriously, when I lived with my parents, my mother watched my every movement like a hawk. (My dad worked long and unpredictable hours, so we were never sure when he would be around, and he didn't do very much as far as raising us. He was generally better about it, but not there most of the time when my mom needed the most tempering.) She felt like she had to have a big discussion about drugs and drinking anytime I went out with friends whose parents she didn't know personally (which was most of them), which was ALMOST NEVER, because I was suffering from severe depression in high school (though I didn't know it at the time). I had been confined to the house at all times from 10-14 (unless I was at parent sanctioned extracurricular activities), so when I showed almost no self esteem, social skills or motivation to socialize in high school like "normal" kids, she constantly acted as if there was something wrong with me and I couldn't make any intelligent decisions on my own. She made me generally miserable. I went to college freshman year and all of the sudden was (I thought deliriously) happy; I figured it was just because I was having the best year of my life. I came back home for the summer, and when I couldn't get a job because that's when the economy tanked, my mom was all over my case again and it got worse. She threw a hissy fit when I wanted to create my own class schedule and not follow hers; she hated my boyfriend (my pillar of support) because I was "too dependent on him"; she didn't understand why I wasn't working "hard enough" to get a job; she said I should be grateful to be able to come back and do the chores again, because she had no obligation past 18 to house me...I actually had to get COUNSELING to get over my issues with my mother so that I could function when I went back to school. It was that bad. Of course, from their point of view, living with them had nothing to do with it, but I know better. I will NEVER go back to that option again, not unless every cardboard box on the street is already taken and I have nowhere else to go. Well, maybe with my dad. But that's another story.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 8 years
Yes, I most definitely would. My mom actually always excitedly suggests "You could move back in with us!" when I say "I hope my job doesn't suddenly go!"
avocado_seed avocado_seed 8 years
It wouldn't be the worse thing in the world at this point, since many of my friends still live at home, but after being on my own for the past 4-5 years while at university, I just would feel trapped and would miss the freedom I have living on my own. My parents are VERY overprotective and overbearing, so nothing I do would go unnoticed, and they would treat me like a teenager. I feel like the gap between the year I left home and now is like a standstill point for them. I love going home for holidays, but I prefer to live on my own.
glampop20 glampop20 8 years
I am super close with my Mom. She would probably drive me crazy if I moved back though. If I really couldn't afford an apartment on my own I would definitely consider moving back home.
La-Tua-Cantante La-Tua-Cantante 8 years
I live at home and I love it! I get along great with my parents and being a student, it just makes life so much easier! Plus I'm so not ready to move out yet - I would miss them too much! I guess I'm just not at that stage yet.
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