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Has a Relationship Ever Gotten in the Way?

As we said goodbye to the first season of The City last night, we also watched Whitney say goodbye to her boyfriend, Jay. After he broke up with her last week, he decided he made a mistake by letting her go, but it was too little, too late. Whitney realized she was the one who had let herself go in their relationship — focusing too much time and energy on Jay, which was taking away from her career and friendships. I was pretty surprised when she turned him away, but I glad to see her put herself before a man that didn't seem to be all that ready for the relationship.

Having to choose and make sacrifices when it comes to matters of your heart can be incredibly overwhelming, but tell me ladies, has a relationship ever negatively gotten in the way of your career, friendships, or family life?

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jessy777 jessy777 8 years
*not once regretted my choice.
jessy777 jessy777 8 years
I was engaged at 18 but it turned out we had very different opinions about the future. He saw no reason for me to go to college past my bachelor's degree because he wanted me to stay home. There is nothing wrong with that but it just isn't me. After many fights about my dream to become a professor or a lawyer we ended our engagement. I couldn't sacrifice a future I always dreamed of for someone else's. I have now completed my Master's Degree, am going to law school this fall and I have once regretted my choice.
LilyLyra LilyLyra 8 years
Yes I have been putting my fiance before other things in my life. Such as when he comes over I don't really talk to my friends in the week or two that he is here, and they understand because I see him twice or maximum three times a year. But my relationship has also gotten in the way of my career, since I've graduated and am not working now, since I will be moving in less than 3 months after our wedding... So yes, but I am happy with these things since I know I have so much potiential and it WILL be put to work on everything I have planned, but it has to be postponed just a tiny bit. Until then I'm putting it to work on wedding plans!!! :-D
La-Tua-Cantante La-Tua-Cantante 8 years
Whether the show is scripted or not, I was so proud when Whitney decided to put herself first in the end. If her and Jay were meant to be, there's plenty of time for it to happen in the future. But if you neglect yourself and your own identity you will probably regret it for the rest of your life. It's not easy to make that kind of decision when you're young and you think life will be over if you don't have a boyfriend. I love LOVED DVF's advice about your relationship with yourself being the most important one because no matter what you always have yourself. I think it's something every girl/woman should take to heart.
robinlh912 robinlh912 8 years
Hey fellow Wisconsinite Spectra! Haha, anyways, I've had issue with allotting my time properly. I need to study, go out with my roommates, and spend time with my boyfriend (who isn't 21 for a couple weeks yet), and with all the organizations I'm in, spending time with my boyfriend sometimes hurts my studying time :( Oh well, the joys of being in college I guess
Spectra Spectra 8 years
Kind of. I graduated before my husband did and I got a good job in Madison in my field. Meanwhile, we got engaged and then my husband graduated and got offered a job in Oshkosh (2 hours away from Madison). Since his job paid WAY better than mine did and it costs about half as much to live in Oshkosh, I decided to give up my job and move to Oshkosh with my hubby. I don't really regret it, but sometimes I wonder what would have happened if I would have stayed with the company that I started with back in Madison.
doucettr doucettr 8 years
Ahh but clearly something happened if she invited Jay to her birthday dinner a few weeks ago. It sucks to think the whole thing might have been staged.... because I believe she made the right decision in the end.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Not really...sometimes it has been hard to balance friends with wanting to spend time with your guy but sometimes it's just a give and take.
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