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How to Announce Your Engagement at Work 2008-04-01 07:59:46

Announcing Your Engagement at Work

Your wedding engagement is undoubtedly one of the most meaningful and memorable moments of your life, so it's no surprise that you want to scroll through your address book and call everyone whose number has been saved. In the midst of your dialing marathon pause when you reach a co-worker's name, and exercise care and common sense when it comes to telling them your big news. The extent that you share your personal details with anyone in the office will surely vary depending on the overall tone of your workplace, but there are some general guidelines that should be noted. Find out how to handle announcing your engagement at work when you

  • Work friends: You know who your true work friends are — they're the ones who have met your fiancé and have spent ample time with you outside of a work function. Let them know you're engaged whenever you please! Your work friends will probably be invited to the wedding because your friendship has grown beyond gossiping and venting at the office. If you were to take another job you would miss them and continue to be friends, because you've bonded beyond the work bubble.
  • Work acquaintances: Your acquaintances probably know that you're in a serious relationship, and your friendly encounters may be daily but are limited to short stops at your desk or in the kitchen. Maybe you have their phone number from some random happy hour, but these aren't people you should call with an engagement announcement. All it takes is a simple test to know if a call would be appropriate: What if the roles were reversed? Would you think it was strange that this person was calling to let you know about a big personal event? They'll surely notice your new left-handed jewelry, and if they're not so observant simply let them know you're engaged when they ask what you did last night or over the weekend.
  • Your boss: This completely depends on your relationship with your boss, but I've found that it's best to let them know that you're engaged in person. Some bosses are uninterested in knowing any personal details of their employees' lives and have made this much clear. In this case, I think it's alright for the rumorville to do the work for you. However, if you have a boss who is more engaged in her employees try and get to her before the rumors strike. She'll appreciate that you went out of your way to include her in the news.

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carhornsinapril carhornsinapril 9 years
i worked in a casual, small office when i got engaged (around thanksgiving last year), and i pulled the same trick as moemarsita -- on monday morning, people asked "what did you do this weekend?", and i nonchalantly said "i got engaged..." i was suprised by how ecstatic everyone was. i got lots of hugs, it was very sweet. i can see how it would be a trickier situation in a more professional office, though.
sweetpeabrina sweetpeabrina 9 years
Since I'm at a school, there's a ton of women. There's either a rash of weddings or a rash of babies. Either way, I'm over it. Spending tons of money on "gifts" is getting old.
saranightly saranightly 9 years
I work in a really small office of all people at least 20 years older than me, but we're all really friendly with each other. I would probably bust out the news immediately the next morning and then we'd probably all celebrate together :) And I would probably call my boss because we're close and I've been detailing to her how much I want to get engaged!
Renees3 Renees3 9 years
Oh how I hope I deal with this soon. I'm waiting for my jeweler boyfriend to ask. We've been together 4 years and I've moved to 2 new cites with him so he can go to school (gemology school) and get a job. This ring better be awesome haha But I work from home, so mostly my announcements will be over the phone or e-mail!
fcseamstress fcseamstress 9 years
We have a meeting every Monday morning and we all pass around WIP sheets (work in progress). It's a small office (6 staff, 2 bosses), so I put at the bottom, "He finally asked!" Everyone was so happy for me, not to mention I'm the last one in the office who is unmarried. My bosses had been joking for a while that I needed to hurry up and get it over with. Plus, since the meetings are at 8:30 AM, I didn't have to hold it in all day, not that I could have... ;) However, if I had been working at my old job, I probably would have told about 3 people and let everyone else figure it out.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
haha facebook is a good way to let the world know everything. at my old office, all of us were friends, and were all young, so that's a no brainer. but at my new office, i refuse to even add people to facebook. i would just let them notice my ring probably, and frankly, i doubt they'd even care.
askmetostay askmetostay 9 years
i got engaged a week ago friday, and i think 80% of the office knew by the time i got to work monday morning. it helps working with a lot of young people, who knew as soon as i put it on facebook =)
bellaressa bellaressa 9 years
Great idea, Congrats littlebmac, sashak, and moemarsita !!!!
sparklemeetspop sparklemeetspop 9 years
It was such a shock to me that I didn't have anything prepared. So I didn't really say anything except to my closest coworkers. I just answered the typical Monday how was your weekend question saying, "Oh, I just got engaged. You?" I let the rest of the office figure it out.
sashak sashak 9 years
I haven't told anyone at work yet because I don't have my ring from the jeweler's yet & I don't want to have to explain that a millio times. So I'll tell 'em when it gets here in a few weeks...
missyd missyd 9 years
I was bursting at the seams with excitement and no one at my work seemed to care at all. Mind you, I work with all men. But that bothered me; I wanted someone to be giddy with me :-(
princessjaslew princessjaslew 9 years
i love it when my workmates get engaged! its like a party for the rest of the day.
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
sorry, in *mind*
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
These definately help! I am not engaged, but hoping to be within the next year ;) I will keep these in mine....
littlebmac littlebmac 9 years
These are some great tips, thank you. I just got engaged last week and I have been feeling everything from the shock of the surprise proposal to beyond happy now that the meaning is starting to sink in. I want to shout it out from the roof tops, but I tell the people who I know will be genuinely happy for me, such as my family and a few people I work with. I feel it is best to reserve the special details for my fiancee and myself.
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