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How to Handle Cost of Co-Hosting a Bridal Shower

Ask a Savvy Bride: I Don't Want to Compromise on Her Shower

Wedding stress doesn't only affect the bride and groom as you can see in this special Ask a Savvy Bride question. Check out the answer below and if you have issues of your own, ask for help in the Ask Savvy group. Dear Savvy, I'm hosting a bridal shower with another bridesmaid in honor of our great friend who is getting married this Summer. She threw me a lovely shower when I was engaged and I'm thrilled to be able to do the same for her. The trouble, however, is that my fellow host is incredibly cheap — I don't think she realized how pricey hosting such an event really is. How can we meet both of our needs; I want this to be a special day for our bride-to-be.

Anything but Cheap Callie

To see the savvy bride's advice, read on.

Savvy bride says: Hosting any kind of party can be really expensive, but you can still have a great event, with all the frills, without breaking the bank. The two most expensive things about hosting a shower are the venue and the food and drinks. To take down the cost, have the party at one of your homes or in a friend or relative's backyard. When hosting at a home, you're able to bring in all your food, drink, decorations, and music without any added surcharge, which usually adds up. If that's not an option, you could host a tea or an afternoon cocktail hour with minimal food — the hours between lunch and dinner are sure to be cheaper at most venues. As for decor, take a trip to your local flower mart in lieu of an expensive florist and get creative with DIY favors. Another thing to consider is sending a free, electronic invite instead of a fancy invitation that also requires postage. At the end of the day, you two need to agree on the type of event you want to host. Be sure to discuss what matters most to each of you and realize that if you're not willing to compromise on your vision, you just might have to take on more financial responsibility. No matter how the event turns out, I'm sure your bride to be will feel honored and blessed that you've gone out of your way for her. Good luck! Ask anything budget-, etiquette-, or planning-related — well, almost anything — by posting your questions in the Ask Savvy group, and I'll find the right expert to help you out. If you are planning a wedding, already happily wed, or still looking for Mr. Right, start sharing your big day with our community. Don’t forget to check the wedding content box on your post.

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mPlusStyle mPlusStyle 6 years
Happened to me, I ended up footing most of the bills to have an event with enough food and favors. But since I don't have money bags I didn't give a wedding or shower gift.
EvieJ EvieJ 6 years
The first thing you need to do is sit down and agree on a budget: total budget, food budget, decorations budget, favors budgets, flowers budget - whatever you think you'll spend money on. If there are some things that are really important to you that the other BM doesn't care about, be prepared to either give them up or fork up the cost yourself. Also, could it be you have more to spend than the other BM? You don't say anything about either of your financial situations, but if she's on a shoestring and you're on a, well, whatever the opposite of a shoestring is, you might either have to tone it down to her level or (again) plan to pay more. The one thing I would say that you have to remember is that it's going to be a special day for your bride, whether you spend $50, $500 or $5000.
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