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I've Been Duped

I've Been Duped

Dear Sugar
Last year I was living with a really good friend of mine who I was constantly helping out all of the time. She hit a little bit of a rough patch in life and so I helped her out. Fortunately, I was able to get her a job, I was there for her when her father tragically and suddenly passed, I drove her to Planned Parenthood to get an abortion and I supported her during an unhealthy relationship...the list could go on forever.

I soon realized everything I was putting into this relationship was not coming back to me and I had to stop making excuses for her and move out. When I broke the news of my move, she was very upset and made the separation difficult. She agreed to give me cash for the furniture we split together, so I took nothing with me and NEVER saw that money.

The last time I called her asking for the money, she bit my head off and called me cheap. After her nasty comments, I didn't even care about the money, I just wanted out of this friendship. A year went by and she called me out of the blue. We made small talk and she told me she had moved out of our apartment, which meant she got our security deposit, $750 of that being mine.

It was nice to hear my old friend was doing well considering her terrible year but the fact remains that at the end of the day, she's stolen from me. So now what should I do? How can I get my money back? Taken For a Ride Ronda

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Dear Taken For a Ride Ronda
I am sorry you are dealing with such a disrespectful friend; it almost sounds like she is punishing you for leaving her, which is no excuse. I hate to say it, but chances are you are not going to see your money. Your friend is going through a very selfish time in her life right now and can't see how she is hurting you at the same time.

Was your name on the lease? If so, you legally have the right to get back your share of the deposit, but if not, you are left with your roommate's good word. Since your friend reached out to you, she probably misses you. Let her know that you are sorry for her tumultuous year, but you have no intention of rekindling your friendship until she pays up.

You were an amazing friend to this girl and I am sorry you are being hurt like this. You have done the right thing by distancing yourself from her and hopefully after showing her you want no part of her stingy ways, she will reconsider and show you the money. Good luck.

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Brittany14706805 Brittany14706805 10 years
Yea definitly get your money back if you can dont let her just walk all over you. And dont call this person a friend.. what have they done for you. Sounds like to me all theyve done is use you to get what they want. That isnt a friend.
karmapunch karmapunch 10 years
Def. get some legal action in on this. I'm no expert on how to handle that situation, but you deserve every penny back! Find out what you can do ASAP and get your money back!!
gossipqueen gossipqueen 10 years
If you want to go to all the trouble and your name is on the lease papers...go for it...take her to court. I wouldn't bother and I don't agree that she is reaching out to renew the friendship...I had a "friend" like that and whenever she called "out of the blue" I found out it was cold and calculated...once the "friendship" restarts it would be you doing things for her all over again. Some people are just like that! Hopefully she won't take you for a ride a second time.
lolak lolak 10 years
Um yeah. I totally agree with SL, this has court written all over it. Take it as a sign that she called OUT OF THE BLUE and told you that she moved out. unless you are super rich I'm sure you have something you can use those $750 on. Small claims will cost yo about $40 bucks and a couple of hours, so when you go make sure to tell them about the furniture too cause you may just get something for that too. I don't think it's fair that you let her keep all the benefits just because she called you a few names, that was your property too, don't let her walk all over you
SeptemberLights SeptemberLights 10 years
I would take her to small claims court if i were you! you have a right to that money and its amazing that after all youve done she would try and steal from definatley have recourse and i would suggest pursuing it and getting legal on her ungrateful butt!
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