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Chronicles of a Job Hunter: Quit Playing Games With My Heart . . .

Job hunting seems almost like dating, but with more on the line. SavvySugar Community member, littlemissjobhunter, was pretty hopeful about her upcoming interview, and if you read on, you'll find out how that went. Remember to catch up with the rest of all her adventures.

Seems like a fitting title as Valentine’s Day has just come and gone. Can job searching really be compared to the beginning stages of courtship? In my opinion, yes, the psychology of the “game” in courtship can very much be analogous to the beginning stages of interviewing and pending job offers.

Two job interviews later my life has remained unchanged. As each job interview is placed upon the table, a new feeling of hope and optimism is renewed. At the same time, subtle feelings of desperation and defeat envelop me as the week goes by without trace of communication from recruiters. Similarly enough, these emotions can be replaced quite easily with affection. Will he call me? Will he respond to my text? The anticipation and waiting period is encompassed by feelings of anxiety and stress.


To hear how a potential employer toyed with my heart, read on.

One particular retailer made me feel just that — stressed. In an attempt to maximize my day at work without sacrificing pay, I still went to work, but left two hours earlier for my interview. I had my suit and pumps neatly tucked away in my tote as I made my way out of the building for a “doctor’s appointment.” One and a half hours later, I came out feeling confident that I made a good impression on the interviewers. The next three days felt like an eternity and the anticipation of good or bad news kept me up at night. Finally, I had been called and told that another candidate wae chosen. However, it was simply because a current employee wanted the job last minute and would be much less work to train her than me. Comforting? Only marginally. I had been informed that a) I would have been the next to be chosen if a current employee was not in the standing and b) that I had been recommended by the hiring managers to interview for a different department. My emotions could best be described as confused. I did not know whether to feel defeated or hopeful.

Girls want what they cannot have. I am no exception. Analogously, this retailer in my mind at least, was playing hard to get and it only made me more determined to obtain it. Oftentimes, I seek challenges. After all, the best things in life do not come easy or free. The idea that a job is so close within reach but yet so far is enough to drive any job seeker crazy. Although being volleyed around departments within one corporation offers hope, it is also extremely nerve wrecking. We shall see what next week holds with Interview # 4 with this retailer. Employers, quit playing games with my heart . . .

Until next time . . . signing off,


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