Ready to move in with someone? Find out how to take care of your own finances before the big decision from Business Insider.
Couples getting ready to move in together should enjoy the exciting time but also be prepared for the worse.
A recent study by Rent.com of 1,000 renters found that 38 percent of renters had ended a personal relationship with someone they were living with at some point in their lives. And the majority of those — more than 60 percent — continued to live with their significant other for another month or more after breaking up as they worked to split up their stuff and find new places that fit their single budget.
Respondents said that the most difficult part of moving out was splitting up possessions (not finances); and their No. 1 precaution (and lesson learned) is to save more money before moving in with someone else.
To learn more, we reached out to life coach Dr. Michele Callahan, who has been featured on Oprah, Dr. Oz, and other media, and she sent us her most important financial advice for couples who live together:
Add your name to the lease. In the unfortunate event that you break up with your partner and one of you has to move out, the person whose name is on the lease is in the best position to maintain possession of the space. If both names are on the lease, then both people have a more equal opportunity to remain in the apartment and renew the lease.
Create a personal budget. Before you agree to rent a new apartment or pay a mover, stop and create a budget for your new monthly bills that includes rent, utilities, and anything else that you may now be paying for on your own. Don't forget to include your moving expenses, such as moving supplies, security deposit, new furniture, etc.
Purchase items individually. That way, in the unfortunate event of a breakup, the person who paid for the TV or bed is entitled to it, and the person who bought the sofa can take it or swap it with their partner for something else.
Keep good financial records. Keep receipts, bank statements, credit card statements, or a journal of shared expenses and purchases to make it easier to divide things up later.
And if you end the relationship:
Determine who can afford to move. After sharing rent and household expenses, it becomes a challenge for people to save enough money to find an apartment they can afford on their own, in addition to moving expenses and a new security deposit.
Close joint bank accounts. If you and your partner have any joint accounts, then now is the time to fairly divide the balance of those accounts and close them. If you have any automatic payments coming out of the accounts or any direct deposits going into them, then you should cancel all those automated processes before you close the accounts.
Refinance joint debt. If you have any joint credit cards or have been sharing one individual card, then talk with your partner about determining who is responsible for which charges so that you can either pay off the balances or arrange to have your fair share of the outstanding debt transferred to your individual accounts.
Sell the items you can't divide. One of you can agree to buy out the other person's share of the item or make a reasonable exchange of items to balance things out. If you can't come to an agreement, then sell the item and split the proceeds. This may be necessary with a big-ticket item like a car if neither of you can afford the monthly cost on your own.
— Megan Durisin
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