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Ask Savvy: Should I Thank Companies That Don't Hire Me?

This question comes from poppylover in the Ask Savvy group.

I'm currently looking for a job after taking some time off after having my daughter. It's a scary time to be looking for a job, but I feel fortunate. I've already had three interviews, all of which went well. Unfortunately, all three have passed on me — one via a phone message and the other two via email. I want to reply back to the emails thanking the hiring managers for talking to me and telling them both I'd like to be considered for future positions, but my husband (who worked in HR many years ago) says that looks desperate. What do you think, Savvy? Should I be thanking people who don't hire me, or just let it go?

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SocialistLez SocialistLez 6 years
I've send thank you notes and some companies have called me back simply because I sent a thank you note. =]
komler komler 6 years
Definitely say thank you, it's polite, not desperate.
Sunshine-Makes-Me-Happy Sunshine-Makes-Me-Happy 6 years
I agree, I think it's always better to be remembered regardless in what manner (desperate for example) than not being remembered at all. Besides, its tough in any market right now, desperate is normal and I actually don't think it's desperate at all, it's always nice to be courteous.
LilaD LilaD 6 years
Yes, send the note! It won't seem desperate unless you write something desperate. A simple thank you is all you need.
RosaDilia RosaDilia 6 years
Gratitude is the best attitude and will payoff in the long run.
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 6 years
I also think you should send a thank you. I don't think it's a desperate move at all. As jelibeann states, it shows you're appreciative and that you have a real interest in that company. From personal experience, I once applied for a position that I'll admit I was probably underqualified for. I didn't get the job, but the hiring manager liked the fact that I was a go-getter who was really interested in the company and so she forwarded my resume to her coworker, who ended up hiring me. So I think it always pays to show your gratitude.
michlny michlny 6 years
I got a job that way! They actually did think of me the next time b/c something else came up..... A DEFINITE DO!
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 6 years
I agree. Always thank the hiring manager for their time and consideration. It's not desperate, it's taking the high road.
skigurl skigurl 6 years
Say thank you. Once I got an email saying they chose someone else for a job I really wanted badly, and I was bitter and didn't say thank you, and I regret it all the time.
jelibeann jelibeann 6 years
I'm no expert, but I would definitely thank them again - I was just offered a PT position, after interviewing for a higher-level FT position I wasn't truly qualified for, because I followed up. They replied to my email letting me know they thought I would fit well with the company and were trying to find a way to offer me some hours - hopefully it will eventually turn into FT - but I doubt I'd have anything if I hadn't set myself apart by expressing my appreciation for their time and my honest interest in their company. I also used to work for a university's career center, helping students apply for jobs and working with major company recruiters - one last email to thank them again will show you're not bitter and may get you at the front of the resume pile for their next opening.
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