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Is It Selfish or Economical to Have Our Wedding on Sunday vs. Saturday?

Ask a Savvy Bride: Is It Selfish to Have Our Wedding on a Sunday?

If you've ever been to a Sunday night wedding, give this bride your two cents because she's torn, and if you have questions of your own that you'd like answered by a Savvy Bride, ask away in the Ask Savvy group!

Dear Savvy,
My fiance and I are planning our wedding on a shoestring budget. He thinks we should have the wedding on a Sunday to save on our dream venue’s Friday and Saturday night price supercharges (it’s a $4,000 difference, if you can believe it!). The problem is, both our families will be coming in from out of town and I worry that we will be saving money but putting a burden on our guests. I suspect many friends will end up coming in to town Friday or Saturday (and will therefore have to get a hotel room for additional days) and then will have to take Monday off of work. Should we save a little longer and spring for the Saturday spot, or do you think guests won’t mind as much as I worry they will?
Looking out Laurie

To see what a savvy bride has to say about this, keep reading after the jump.

Savvy says:

Hmm, this is a tough decision so I understand why you're struggling. One thing to remember about your wedding is that you and your fiance have the final say about everything, especially the date. If you simply can't afford the price tag for your dream venue on the most popular night of the weekend (Saturday), having it there on Sunday is definitely your next best option. If you decide to go that route, yes, the people traveling will have to take that Monday off, but that means they won't necessarily have to take the Friday off beforehand. If your wedding festivities start Saturday night, most people can travel Friday after work or first thing Saturday morning to make it in time. In fact, those travel days might end up being less expensive in the long run.


With that said, if you still don't feel comfortable having a Sunday wedding, pushing it out in order to save more is of course another option. As someone who is having a seven-month engagement, I couldn't fathom waiting any longer (I'm already too excited!) so you're going to have to make that decision on your own.

At the end of the day, the people you invite to your wedding are your closest friends and family members who are thrilled to witness your special day, no matter what day of the week it happens to fall on. Good luck to you and congratulations!

Ask anything budget-, etiquette-, or planning-related — well, almost anything — by posting your questions in the Ask Savvy group, and I'll find the right expert to help you out. If you are planning a wedding, already happily wed, or still looking for Mr. Right, start sharing your big day with our community. Don’t forget to check the wedding content box on your post.

—Additional reporting by Alexis Nordby

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lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
How is it your dream venue if it's over budget and you can't have your wedding the day you want it. You're just as married no matter where you get married or who is there. Pick the day for you. If people can't come, you'll need to understand.
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
I agree with runningesq. I think Sunday isn't a bad idea, I'm considering it myself. It's not rude, selfish, or anything, it's what you can afford.
Liss1 Liss1 7 years
$4000 is a lot to save, i would go for the sunday wedding. Just have it earlier in the day. If you have it friday people would have to take friday off from work, so what's the difference if they have to take monday off? To the comment that the #1 priority should be the guests, i don't understand that. It's her day! Personally i would be sad if someone couldn't make it to my wedding because of the day but ultimately it's about the bride and the groom and if someone can't make it, it's their loss.
flavacrisp flavacrisp 7 years
I don't care how little money someone has, Sunday weddings are the worst! I know it is "your day", but I think the number 1 priority should be your guests. Spend a little less on the dress or something.
sourcherries sourcherries 7 years
It's your prerogative as it is your money. A friend had a wedding Sunday night and while I left at 10p (work!), everyone else partied til past midnight--including her boss!! Also, another friend is having hers on a Thursday to save money. I'm saving up my vacation days. :)
skigurl skigurl 7 years
it all depends on what you want your wedding to be like - i would like my friends and family to relax, let loose, drink, stay out late, and dance all night long! that won't happen on a sunday night unless it's a long weekend, so it's entirely up to what you want. a sunday brunch wedding to me is synonymous with a christening or my grandmother's 90th birthday tea party (that actually happened) and it's very low-key and there's not a lot if any drinking...if that's what you picture, though, then go for it
snarkypants snarkypants 7 years
no, it's your wedding. only selfish people would complain about it. do what you want!
Happsmjc Happsmjc 7 years
People who have their weddings on Fridays cause their guests to take off of work if traveling or leave early if in town, so there is really no difference. It's just on Friday more people will want to stay and enjoy the party. And even Saturday weddings, as others have mentioned, cause work to be missed for rehearsal dinner or travel--so it's not like you are asking that much. I know it's just a different atmosphere for an earlier Sunday wedding, so it depends on what your dream wedding is. Good Luck!
pearsbeary pearsbeary 7 years
i agree w/ runningesq also, i'm a bridesmaid for an out of town sun wedding w/ a rehearsal dinner on thurs (the venue is THAT popular!) but hey! it's her wedding, so i'm supporting her 100%! good luck w/ your wedding plans!
sarahhoerst sarahhoerst 7 years
I'm going to a wedding in a few weeks thats on a sunday afternoon, the ceremony is at 11 and then there is a "tea party" after. My friend was also on a really tight budget. Another good thing about having an afternoon wedding is that you can do everything alittle cheaper. The bar cost won't be as much (not too many people are going to get hammered at 1pm on a sunday) and you can get away with less food. Also because its alittle less formal if people have to leave to catch a plane or get home early they won't feels as bad as say leaving in the middle of a 5 course dinner. My friend sent out of towners a list of restaurants for dinner that night and her parents are having an after-party at their house for those who are still around. I can wait I'm excited for a sunday wedding.
Spectra Spectra 7 years
My cousin had her wedding on a Sunday due to a religious custom. They had the ceremony in the early afternoon and had a late lunch/early dinner reception so people could be home at a decent hour. It worked out really well, actually. I don't think it's a selfish idea at all.
Deidre Deidre 7 years
It is entirely up to you. Just realize that there will be some guests who will decline your invitation if they're unable to get time off from work or travel effectively according to your Sunday plans. Like kaycee15 said, is it more important that you have a certain venue or that more of your invited guests come? You'll have some crowd control on Sunday as a natural result, so your costs will be curbed if you have it then. If you're ok with less friends coming, then go for it. There's no right or wrong answer here -- guests either choose to celebrate with you, or they don't.
kaycee15 kaycee15 7 years
I feel the bride's pain about money. That said, I have been to many Sunday weddings and they are so inconvenient. It is easy to fly into a location on Friday night, and just leave work a couple hours early on Friday afternoon. It is very difficult to take off an entire Monday. It throws off an entire work week. The bride should ask herself this: is she prioritizing a venue over the people in her life?
stellaRuby stellaRuby 7 years
I don't see the big deal. I agree with Runningesq thoughts.
komler komler 7 years
I think I would try for a morning/brunch wedding. By that time, the guests will be partied out when it is actually time to leave for the airport for the out-of-towners, so you wouldn't have the awkwardness of people leaving in the middle of the reception.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
If you have a Saturday wedding, people would likely need to take off work on Friday, right? So if you have a Sunday wedding, people will need to take off Monday --- but can work Friday and travel Saturday. And Sunday =/= weekday. M-F is the work week. Sunday = weekend. I do think that a day reception or an early evening reception (4-9ish) would be nice so people who are local can get home and get ready for the week.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
Oh, and one more side comment, in response to anon #3, having a Sunday wedding (still on a weekday) is not analogous to having a weeknight wedding, which I would find kind of strange.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
I personally would wait and try to save up a little extra cash, particularly if you are going to have a lot of out-of-town guests. However, as Savvy stated, it's ultimately your decision And, unlike anon #3, I don't think it would necessarily be rude or presumptuous to have your wedding on a Sunday. Also, I doubt half of the guests would not come just due to the date if you have your wedding on a Sunday. Some people might groan, but if they are actually close to you, they will still come. Additionally, I'm not sure about anon's ideas of proper etiquette, but I'm guessing the majority of the invited guests will send a gift whether or not they're able to attend. (Which, of course, is a silly reason to invite someone to your wedding and I can tell that you are not really concerned about gifts, but it's just a point I wanted to make.) I actually was going to suggest something similar to what ImLissy did. Maybe you could just have an earlier reception. Or, like supercoolnat suggested, you could have a brunch. Then you could have the wedding on a Sunday and you wouldn't have to worry about people rushing to get back home or taking a day off work. Of course, it changes the whole atmosphere or the reception if you choose to do that, but in the end, it's really up to you.
supercoolnat supercoolnat 7 years
I've been to a Sunday wedding where many people were out of town guests. There was still a decent turnout, and I believe most people just extended their vacation to at least Monday. That said, I know there were people who had to cut out in the middle of the reception and drive straight to the airport. That couldn't have been very fun. One other option to consider for managing your budget is a lunch/brunch wedding. I know for some people it's an absolute no, but it might be worth it for you as a compromise for having it at your ideal venue.
imLissy imLissy 7 years
we had ours on Sunday morning. By 5:00 the reception was over. We left at around 6 and had an after party at our apartment with those that could hang out until around 10. Then we opened gifts :D I had to wake up early, yes, but coudln't sleep at all the night before anyway, I was way too excited, so it worked out well.
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