DigitalChick shared a wedding dilemma in our Ask Savvy group. Since I know she's not the only person who's questioned whether or not attending a destination is worth it, I thought I'd share her question and my answer with all of you.
My friend invited us to her wedding in Vegas in the Summer. My husband said he'd prefer to stay at home with our baby son. It will truly be a hassle to bring the baby to Las Vegas, with the weather and five hour flight one way. We have been to Las Vegas before. So, either I go or none of us will attend her wedding. It will be a small ceremony. I know none of the guests or the groom. This trip will cost $1,000 including the flight, hotel, and a new dress. The 10 hours spent on the plane is no piece of cake as well. Both my and my husband's work is very demanding. I hate to lose several days of spending time with him and my baby. On the other hand, my friend came to my wedding and visited me when my son was born. Of course she lives only an hour from our house. And she invited me to this small ceremony. So what do you say? Should I spend 10 hours on the plane and $1,000 dollars on her wedding? Or send her a big gift and stay at home?
To see what a savvy bride has to say about this, keep reading after the jump.
It sounds to me, DigitalChick, that you have your mind made up! While it was a nice gesture that your friend came to see you and your newborn, I wouldn't look at this as a something for something situation. To take down the cost so you could go, I'd suggest you room with someone else and skip the new dress, but since you don't know anyone else invited, that clearly isn't an option.
If you're going to resent the fact that you spent $1,000 and sat on an airplane for 10 hours when you'd rather be home with your husband and baby, I say, without a second thought, don't go. You and your husband can still show your support from afar by sending the couple a nice, affordable gift. Be sure to tell her over the phone that you won't be able to make it but you wish you could be there and hope she has an amazing day. I'm sure she'll understand given the circumstances — I know I would.
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