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Sunday Confessional: I Took Revenge

A year ago I started dating a guy I met through a work conference. He was living across the country, but was in the process of transferring to my office for a promotion. We immediately fell for each other and decided to deal with the long distance for a few months before we could be together. During that time we kept things alive by doing a lot of online flirting — he even sent me some naked pictures of himself.

Due to the nature of our company, we decided to keep our relationship quiet even after his move. As it turned out, he was in another online relationship with an ex-girlfriend. I didn't figure this out until nine months later, after we had already discussed moving in together and making our relationship public. Fortunately we didn't, and I promptly dumped him for his betrayal — he didn't even seem to feel bad. I was heartbroken and decided to get back at him.

I created a fake email account, took one of the particularly unflattering nude pictures that he had sent me, and forwarded it to every person I could think of in our industry. When I came into the office the next day, the rumors had already started. Obviously I received a nasty response from my ex, but I just ignored it. In a few days the whole thing drifted away and for a moment, I felt satisfied, but then I found out that his boss had demoted him and was sending him back to his old office. Now that the consequences of my actions are clear, I feel torn. Can I ever be forgiven for this?


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m0st-excellent m0st-excellent 8 years
whatever, this is hilarious. forgive. maybe just don't ever do something like that again.
meeshee meeshee 8 years
horrible. ive had this done to me, and it made my life a living hell. not forgive
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
revenge is sweet. but u took it the wrong way. but yeah, i voted to forgive u. he broke ure heart. and he deserves very bad luck. and thats awesome. lol. but i think u took it a little too far. u shouldve just told his so called gf about her asshole boyfriend. u shoulve shown her the picks and broke his heart. but the job thing is just a little too much
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
I really think that is what he gets for sending naked pictures in the first place. Don't do it, especially if you're a cheating bastard. It might have been a little harsh to send it to his colleagues and not his friends instead but hey he deserves it. How were you to know that it would get him demoted.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 8 years
Forgive. He was a creep, and anyone that sends nude pictures over the internet should know it might be used for blackmail or even humiliation later. He cheated on you, you screwed him over...Just don't be surprised if karma gets you back a thousandfold.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
He deserved his come uppance! Maybe he'll think twice before screwing somebody around in the future. Somebody like that wouldn't of held his job anyway...
smp7328 smp7328 8 years
I say forgive. Rash decisions are made when you are hurting - and when a guy screws you over, you think of all the things you can do to get back at him. I know, I have been there. This particular reaction may have been a little too harsh, in my opinion, but I bet your ex will probably think twice before he pulls any kind of crap like that on another girl. Keep your head up and remember to always think things through before taking any action in tough situations like this!
Mykie7 Mykie7 8 years
LMAO plus, I was makin' a point! LMAO
plus_2_kid plus_2_kid 8 years
mykie7 - what 3rd grade boy was sending you nakkid pics??? heehee
Mykie7 Mykie7 8 years
That's like something I did, IN THE THIRD GRADE. You ought to have been fired too, and shame on you for even wondering if he'll forgive you. That was a horrid thing to do.
ohkate ohkate 8 years
wow that's kind of shallow and slightly pathetic. so he cheated on you ONLINE. big deal. there are never any grounds to forward something as personal as nude pictures to anyone, ESPECIALLY out of spite and malice. that just goes to show your insecurity with yourself.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
I don't think name-calling is appropriate. However, the specific intent of the confessionals is to forgive or not forgive. In other words, someone did something "wrong" and we're supposed to judge if we forgive or not. By nature of how this is set up, several people are going to "not forgive" and explain why this person was wrong. Like I said, calling her names isn't appropriate, but this is very different than someone writing in for advice. Also, this is different than the E. Jean post. E. Jean wasn't criticizing the person for a decision she made. She used her advice column to publically call out and berate a practically illiterate person who wanted advice.
puddlesworth puddlesworth 8 years
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 8 years
"Everyone [complains] that this is supposed to be a positive forum for women to come together for advice. What I see now is a bunch of hypocrites calling this girl names [because of her bad behavior]." This (^) is a loose generalization, but I agree with the spirit of the statement.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
How you behave when people mistreat you an important insight into a person's character. You can say you did x and y because someone "deserved" it, but the reality is that you did something pretty dispicable. At the very least, at least you now know that you totally lack grace.
queenegg queenegg 8 years
I date someone at work and would never think about doing such a thing, no matter what happened. Granted what he did was bad, but it wasn't as bad as your actions.
vmruby vmruby 8 years
Amen Chrstne........I agree.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
I wouldn't do that to my current boyfriend if he cheated on me. I wouldn't do that to anyone. It is selfish and childish to take a personal relationship to a level where you would impact their careers. His career shouldn't be messed with because he made a bad PERSONAL decision.
MollyElizabeth MollyElizabeth 8 years
What did you really think was going to happen when you sent that picture out, that it would just be a rumor and he'd be embarrassed? Come on.
lildorothyparker lildorothyparker 8 years
Many of you need to lighten up. I remember a few weeks ago everyone was up in arms because E. Jean gave some incredibly critical advice - the result of that you ask? Everyone complaining that this is supposed to be a positive forum for women to come together for advice. What I see now is a bunch of hypocrites calling this girl names for doing something (to reiterate what lickety split said) most of us can only fantasize about. Was it ethical? No. At least she had the moxie to do something active in a situation where many women would just forgive the lying cheating jerk. Kudos to her.
Lilie Lilie 8 years
Not forgive. That is so childish and immature. You're a b*tch. I hope you'll enjoy living with it everyday now.
lildorothyparker lildorothyparker 8 years
lickety split, I happen to agree 100% with you.
happiness80 happiness80 8 years
As someone who has had pics (private but non-naked) ones mis-appropriated ... I can only say one thing....You are an incredible b-tch! I really hope karma comes down hard on you. I really really really hope so.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 8 years
Youch. So Immature!!
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