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Dear Sugar
Today I had my mechanic send a driver to come to my work to pick up my vehicle for an oil change to be completed at the dealership. When the driver returned with my vehicle I wrote out a check, said thank you and sent him on his way.

After he left I started thinking that maybe I should have tipped the driver. Dear, what is the right thing to do in this instance and if so, what is an appropriate tip? Generous Gennifer

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Dear Generous Gennifer
Tips are always welcome and appreciated but in this instance not necessary unless he did you a special favor. Look on your bill from your mechanic to see if you were charged a drop off/pick up fee for the oil change.

If you were, then you've actually paid for the service and so
no tipping is needed. If not and they went out of their way above and beyond for you I would drive over after work and give him a portion of what the oil change cost.

If it was $100, give him $20, if it was $50, give him $10. That's super thoughtful of you.

kylake kylake 11 years
I was at a Japanese restaurant in London and there was a sign that said "In keeping with Japanese custom, please do not tip" (It was worded more eloquently than that) My sister-in-law works at a Japanese restaurant in Canada and whenever Japanese people eat there they do not tip. All the Canadians do, though. It's just the Japanese way. My boyfriend is a notorious over-tipper. Plus, he tips EVERYONE. It's gotten out of hand.
yayita yayita 11 years
I think they just just cut out tipping and pay them a fair hourly wage. This is what they do in Spain so no tipping is necessary. They get paid fair wages and are health insured as well. The First time I came here I was about to leave 15% and my Spanish friends stopped me dead in my tracks. No tipping, they actually hate it when tourist come and tip because it's ruinning their system and some waiters are starting to expect it in touristy areas.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 11 years
i tip certain people that do an acceptable to good job. it's not necessary. i will say that when i got a botched mani-pedi a few weeks ago and the guy who did it wanted me to come back the next day to see what he could do to fix it, i did not leave a tip. when i get stellar service at restaurants, i tip 25-50% and i've only had this at the same japanese restaurant. everyone gets the standard other than those who provide unapologetically terrible service.
nomerz nomerz 11 years
I always tip the delivery guy, though probably not as much as I should...
t0xxic t0xxic 11 years
I was in a befundle today. Ok so my Company ordered 20 pizza's from pizza hut but i didnt have the autherization to tip. Are u supposed to tip them?
nomerz nomerz 11 years
I always tip 20% on anything service-oriented (getting my nails or hair done, going out to eat, etc) and the guy eas doing you a service...
Toronado Toronado 11 years
Well, waiters and waitresses don't necessarily go absolutely out of their way but I'd never dream of stiffing them (unless they were complete idiots). I always give my dog's groomer a tip because she does such a good job on him (but she's a good friend of mine, I'd never stiff her either). However, Dear's recommendations for exactly how much to tip are generally accurate. Here in Canada 10-20% of the cost of a service should be tipped. Of course, in Canadian cities Ontario (where I live) & Quebec restaurant owners are actually legally allowed to pay their employees LOWER than minimum wage precisely because of the tips! I don't think that's very far, as there are many people who are idiots and don't tip AT ALL. I think other services should be tipped at the buyer's discretion, though it never hurts to give someone (for providing a service not normally associated with tipping) a small tip as a kind gesture.
Adriana42 Adriana42 11 years
well that should be a no brainer he came to you after all..this comes down to individual character not whether or not someone else thinks you should have or shouldnt have tipped him..
Splenda Splenda 11 years
These are the very reasons why you need to work at upscale establishments. Many hotels, spas, and eateries add the tip automatically FOR such tacky customers.
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 11 years
Some of my friends are servers and they bring home a pretty good amount in tips. It depends on what city you live in though. Most people here tip, but in some places I've been to I've seen people berate a restaurant for having a tip jar. I always tip because if it was me I wouldn't want to be barely getting by and still working.
t0xxic t0xxic 11 years
Cosometologist I can see tipping bc they are doing exactly wat u want and they pay booth fees so there normal pay is declined.
t0xxic t0xxic 11 years
Whats sad FAE is most employers do not make up that difference. When I served in GA I made 2.15 an hr, if it was a slow night I could come home with just 10 bucks.It is ridiculous. If some is getting paid at least real minimum wage in my opinion they do not get tipped.
FaeMuse FaeMuse 11 years
Sorry, Dear, I am going to disagree with you on this one -- both in the amount and the instance of tipping. For the service industry reliant upon gratuities for a decent income, I firmly support tipping your server well but not for a car dealer. Traditionally, tipping has only been expected in industries where a majority of an employee's wages come from tips and their base hourly income (or annual income) is reduced commensurately. From the Fair Labor Standards Act sets minimum wage federally at $5.15 per hour for those over the age of 20. However, if you earn tips, employers are entitled to pay a minimum of $2.13 per hour instead. If your tips plus cash wages do not equal at least $5.15 per hour, your employer must make up the difference. But it's definitely a pittance. Car dealerships don't operate off of this model whereas your friendly waitress down at White Spot all the way up to the polished server at the city's newest five-star Japanese-Thai fusion place have tips calculated into their wages. Gratuities are of course optional, and there are some you may be expected to provide more often than others. Tipping a salon stylist that does a great job with your awesome new do? Probably a good investment. Paying $3 for the kid who delivers your newspaper safe and sound to the rain? A good way to teach financial stewardship and respect. Dropping 10-20% of the payment here, there and everywhere? Not likely, especially if you're on a budget. If you feel you should tip, then valet service typically entails $1-5 depending on the type of car you have. If the service is offered free with the dealership, you are not expected to provide one. Should you be under warranty with your car, then it's definitely not a necessity because that service is rolled in with the rest that you received. Some (better) dealerships may tell you that gratuities are not accepted for small things, while others happily slurp them up. My local dealership went to the point of posting a sign saying: "Customer service doesn't cost extra." There are plenty of sites covering the essentials of tipping and gratuities, though. However, it's my humble opinion that many people have come to expect tips where traditionally they do not receive them. It's become a bit of a conversation piece in the past little while among me and my friends, and in the end, do what you think is best for your conscience and your wallet.
kylake kylake 11 years
I always tip my hairdresser well.
Ms_Magnificent1 Ms_Magnificent1 11 years
The main people you should always tip are waiters/waitresses...cosmetologists...and the people who do your mani or pedicures! In this case tipping is not would be awfully nice of you though.
atoxicsparkle atoxicsparkle 11 years
me too p-a-m! (about 5 years) it is something i think every one should have to do so they know what it's like on the other side, dealing with a-hole and unpleasable customers, but it's something i never want to do again!!
nicachica nicachica 11 years
amen lacoste! i used to be a waitress and i hated it when people tipped poorly even though they were rich and got excellent service (i used to work in a pretty nice restaurant). the only thing i miss about being a waitress is always having a ton of money in my pocket...i was a walking ATM back then. :)
pinkangelmonkey pinkangelmonkey 11 years
haha lacoste are you a server? i was a waitress for 5 1/2 years yuck and i hated it!
lacoste1 lacoste1 11 years
I agree with nicachica...if you're going to tip someone well, tip your restraunt waiter/waitress!! That's how we earn our money! ;)
nicachica nicachica 11 years
i don't know pop, it doesn't seem necessary to give that much. $5 would have been appropriate in this case.
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