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Virginity For Sale

In controversial news, a 22-year-old woman is making headlines everywhere by offering her virginity to the highest bidder in the hopes of earning money for grad school. Commenting on the scandal this is causing, an article in Reuters notes that many who've weighed in on this strange scenario think it's just a desperate attempt at fame, while others consider such an act synonymous with prostitution. The woman offered her own insight:

I don't think auctioning my virginity will solve all my problems but it will create some financial stability. I'm ready for the controversy, I know it will come along. I'm ready to do this . . . We live in a capitalist society. Why shouldn't I be allowed to capitalize on my virginity?

I'll be honest, I find the notion of selling your virginity for anything, including higher education, extremely disconcerting. And while I advocate that women be both proud and in control of their sexuality, this seems like another thing entirely.

Regardless of whether it is or isn't prostitution or a try at fame, it troubles me to think that a woman would consciously put herself in this position. What do you think of this endeavor? Is capitalizing on our virginity akin to using our good looks to get ahead? Are there ways in which you use your sexuality as a tool to get what you need or want?


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JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
She's probably not even a virgin, how would you know? I guess if she can get money for it that is her business. If someone is willing to pay for this then all the more power to her. As long as law enforcement doesn't get involved I don't think it's anyone's place to get involved in this. I personally would not do this and I wonder why you would do this at all but it's not me.
BryPouncy BryPouncy 8 years
It's not a matter of controversy as you guys make it out to be. Virginity is just "Oh look I stretched some skin out whoo now I'm not a virgin anymore" nothing breaks it just stretches. She obviously wanted to op out for an easy way for fast cash so who cares if she does it. The attention she is getting from it will be A) short lived and B)More news to the ugly rich guys who want it. But we can hope she gets some ugly fatty with a small peepee for her attention rendezvous. If it makes you guys feel better.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 8 years
She's such a liar! All schools provide loans. She's just selling her unverifiable virginity for attention. Pretty pathetic.
Pistil Pistil 8 years
Yeah, who wants to sleep with a virgin? First times suck anyway. I know it's not my business, but it's kind of hard not to have an opinion when she's broadcasting her business ventures. I guess I shouldn't feel bitter about it. I mean, we all have a choice, right?
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Yawn. How many people have done this now? Is there anybody left in the World who wants to sleep with a virgin and PAY to do it. I don't like virgins... ;p
martoto martoto 8 years
My only fear is can she handle me??????? oh!!! she got it coming!!!
sourcherry sourcherry 8 years
I actually don't feel the least bit sorry for her. Should I feel sorry for guys who can't afford an education because there isn't much work as male prostitutes? Yeah... This is degrading to women in so many ways...
L0neLyHeArT L0neLyHeArT 8 years
It's her life, and if she needs an education, she can just sell her virginity. But it would be a horrible memory of losing your virginity...
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 8 years
I personally wouldn't do this myself, but it's her body, not mine.
kluster86 kluster86 8 years
I'm sorry but....... i would do the same thing. Higher education is EXPENSIVE and needed to attain a dream job. Mind your busineess ppl.. its her life
happiness80 happiness80 8 years
Remember, it is HER body ... any consequences will impact only her ... no other victim. Is this worse than the millions of "normal", "moral" women out there who make men pay for kids not theirs for 18+ years? I think not.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
as hard as life is...i dont think anyone has an excuse to sell themselves for sex. and i also wonder...isnt this illegal prostitution?
Mykie7 Mykie7 8 years
O M G JUDE! I just read your comment. Sad thing is, you're probably right! LMAO
Mykie7 Mykie7 8 years
CYL, I like it too because people are debating like adults and not calling each other names (You tool!) :ROTFL:
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
If she's an adult and she wants to make a contract with another adult, it's none of my business. I think people have sex for all kinds of bad reasons. At least in her case, it will lead to something positive.
CYL CYL 8 years
I like this debate that is going on...its intresting and healthy to see how different people have different views about whether its her business...or whether its really empowerment...and the price of school. Yay for healthy debates on Dear Sugar!
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
Hahahhaha, ROFL at Jude too! :)
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I agree that this is really no one's business but her's, and whoever bids I guess. Really I don't agree or disagree, I don't really care and I don't think it's a big deal at all. I wouldn't do it, but no one but her should get to decide what to do with her body, and if there are guys out there willing to pay for it, then more power to her as long as everyone involved doesn't get hurt, emotionally or physically. And I agree with people saying that the real problem is the price of school. is so expensive we have people resorting to things like this to get money, something is wrong there.
geebers geebers 8 years
:rotfl: Jude!!
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
Random aside: Every time Tila Tequila is mentioned, another case of crabs is diagnosed.
Mykie7 Mykie7 8 years
I've got to defend this girl, not because I agree with what she's doing, but because I DO agree that it's her business and not mine. 1. Are you all aware that she's doing this because her and her sisters stepfather squandered the money their mother had put away for them for college? 2. Are you aware that she put a clause in the auction that gives her final approval over the guy? This means (And she said this) that it probably won't be the highest bidder. She said she wants to feel SOME sort of attraction and he has to be clean and tested. 3. Are you aware that she has agreed to go through testing to verify her virginity? 4. Are you aware that she herself is undergoing a battery of tests to prove she is free from disease? Now, NONE of this makes a difference to the right/wrong of it. I just think that maybe not everyone has the whole picture. I've been reading about this story since last Wednesday and at first I was disgusted. But then I thought about all of these reality "dating" shows. Most of those shows are doing EXACTLY what she's doing, but not 'honestly' in that they don't come right out and say "Yeah, we're getting these two people together so they can have sex." But in essence that IS exactly what they're doing. Shows like Temptation Island Blind Date Rock of Love Tila Tequila Do I need to go on?
skigurl skigurl 8 years
it's not synonymous with using your looks to get ahead. it's synonymous with being a prostitute or an escort god, she's probably not even good looking, and she's probably not even a virgin. who can prove it? and what kind of guy is going to bid on this too! gross!
Blackwood Blackwood 8 years
it's HER virginity, she should be allowed to do whatever she wants to do with it, whether it's keeping it to herself or losing it to whomever she wants in whichever way she wants to. I personally doubt I'd do this, but you can't blame the girl. It's her choice and she's not really hurting anybody. A lot of people sell themselves or rely on their physical attributes in order to get what they want (a free pass at a club? a free drink? a job? a person they're interested in?)... think models, or waitresses using their charms and flirting to get promoted or get higher tips from the clients. Come on, don't be so uptight and cynical! You know most of us have been guilty of doing this in some way or another, in a higher or lesser degree, let's not fool ourselves. And the saddest thing is, education should be free precisely to prevent things like this from happening.
beautiful-disaster beautiful-disaster 8 years
she isnt there under her real name, so technically no future boyfriend, or employer can find out that she is the one who has done this. but yea.. kinda dumb and a HORRIBLE way to lose your virginity
sugarbritches sugarbritches 8 years
WTF????? She already has a bachelors degree in womens studies. She's trying to further her education by going for her masters degree in - get this - MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPY!!! What a waste of oxygen! I'm officially disgusted!
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