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Their Wedding Registry Is Out of Our Price Range

Ask a Savvy Bride: We Can't Afford to Buy From Their Registry!

We all know that being a guest at a wedding can be expensive, especially when the bride and groom have an expensive registry. If you've had a hard time finding a gift in your price range, weigh in and offer your two cents on Callie's question below. You can also submit your wedding-related finance questions in our Ask Savvy group.

Dear Savvy, My husband and I are attending a friend's wedding this Summer and their registry is chock full of expensive items — things well out of our price range. The groom is a fraternity brother of my husband's and we've only met the bride-to-be a few times so I'm having a hard time justifying spending over $200 for a wedding gift. I know most couples don't like receiving gifts they didn't register for, but can we make an exception this one time?

Not to be Cheap Callie

To see what a savvy bride has to say about this, keep reading after the jump.

Savvy bride says: While one would hope that brides and grooms would register for things people can afford, unfortunately they have free rein when it comes to picking the items they want for their future as husband and wife. With that said, those who don't think about other people's budgets could be doing themselves a huge disservice. I happen to agree that $200 is a lot to spend on a couple you're not that close to, so my advice would be to absolutely purchase something that is not on their registry. So they aren't stuck with something they really don't want, get your gift from a store where they are registered so they can exchange it for something else if they decide to go that route. I'm sure you're not the only guest who feels this way so just do what you can — buying them a gift they aren't registered for is better than not buying them a gift at all!

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Debbie5113 Debbie5113 6 years
I often do give cash, but I think I might feel odd giving cash/gift card to people who didn't register for anything under $200 since my budget is less than that and they apparently feel that's the minimum amount that guests should spend. I'd rather give them something personal and thoughtful that was in my price range and include the gift receipt, so if they hated it, they could always return it. And by the way, I hate that gift registries now have this level of dictatorial control over guests - come on these things were supposed to be a guide for ideas for guests, not be decrees that strike down all creativity and thoughtfulness for any ideas not on the Official Registry. Registries should be suggestions not obligations. And when brides take it too seriously and demand only gifts from the registry, that's serious control-freak bridezilla time.
jesssa jesssa 7 years
There's no problem with giving cash, that's what the card/cashbox is for!
jadenirvana jadenirvana 7 years
A gift card is the way to go! It's not personal because you don't know them that well, so it's perfectly appropriate.
imLissy imLissy 7 years
give them money, it's what they really want anyway
Spectra Spectra 7 years
I never bother with registries for wedding gifts...I always just give cash. It's so much easier.
Liss1 Liss1 7 years
I would get them a giftcard to the store they are registered at. It is just rude on their part not to have items picked out in all price ranges. Not everyone can afford or even want to give a gift that costs $200
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
I would go with a gift card from a store where they're registered. I would much rather get a gift card than something I would later have to deal with returning. And, while I don't like gift cards for birthday gifts or Christmas gifts from close friends and family, I would appreciated gift cards (or cash) as wedding gifts.
GirlOverboard GirlOverboard 7 years
I agree with runningesq - I'm glad to see I'm not the only person that thought it was rude that all of the gifts would run that high, or that they only put a small number of less expensive gifts (which I'm sure were snatched up first off the list!). I mean, when I was at Macy's, the lady in the registry area even printed out a breakdown of the number of items in various price ranges to let us know how we were doing.
Zivanod Zivanod 7 years
Give cash. It's not tacky at all.
Happsmjc Happsmjc 7 years
agree, most of my bride friends want/need cash! if you can't get them something from their registry that is the way to go.
bengalspice bengalspice 7 years
i support giving them cash, or a gift certificate/card to a store they are registered to.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Gift card/ check in an amount you feel comfortable giving. And it's rude for the couple to only register for only very expensive items. They should be items in the under $25 range, under $50 range, etc.
inmybubble inmybubble 7 years
If I were the one getting married I would rather have a gift card/cash as opposed to something I really wasn't interested in in the first place. It's more of a hassle to return things than to just pick out something you want to begin with.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
i was going to say, give them cash in an envelope i know some people would say that's tacky, and maybe it's a regional thing because where i'm from, i'd say 75% of the gifts you'll get will be money, but cash is always useful
le-romantique le-romantique 7 years
I'm going to go with the easy answer of getting them a gift card for their registered store for a 'decent' amount of money, then buying a nice, personal type of gift like a scrap book for them... something nice but not over the top.
GirlOverboard GirlOverboard 7 years
Yes I agree - and it's much more personal and shows some thought was put in it, as opposed to just giving them a gift card... though I wouldn't rule those out, either!
SFCA SFCA 7 years
I totally agree with SavvySugar. What a great idea to buy something from a store where they're registered!
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