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What to Do If Your Boss Calls With a Work Emergency on Your Wedding Day

It's finally the big day and you've had a tight grip on your BlackBerry all morning in case of a wedding emergency. You're about to meet up with your bridal party for brunch so you can give them their gifts, and when your phone rings you expect it to be the florist saying all of your flowers are dead, or your mom asking for a lunch-spot recommendation. As you greet your Maid of Honor with a smile, you tell her you have a call and peek down at who is trying to get your attention on your wedding day. She sees your smile turn into open-mouthed astonishment paired with an appropriate eye-roll because that phone call is from your boss. Your MOH tells you not to even think about picking up the phone but you hesitate. Find out how I would handle this situation when you


Even if you've tied up all of your loose ends before your wedding, emergencies do happen. Instead of ignoring the phone call and having to face your boss when you return from your honeymoon, go ahead and answer the call. You don't want to have the thought of a confrontation lingering while you're on your stress-free vacation with your new husband, and you definitely don't want her to have the impression that you don't respect her enough to answer her calls.

Your boss may simply have a question that she forgot to ask before your vacation time started and didn't want to bother you while you're on your honeymoon. But she may be calling with a legitimate emergency and want you to pop in to the office or handle an issue from home. If it is an issue that requires immediate attention, ask your boss to call one of your co-workers that you know will be able to handle it as well as you would.

As much as you may want to lash out at the audacity of asking you to do work on your wedding day, bite your tongue. Politely tell her you're sorry, but you've planned every minute of your day and won't be able to help her this time. Reassure her when you say that you've planned in advance for every controllable situation and remind her that you've arranged for colleagues to cover your responsibilities. Although you probably ran through the details before you left, let her know again exactly who she should contact in case of specific problems so she's not tempted to dial your number during your honeymoon bliss.

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dpbluiz13 dpbluiz13 9 years
It's sad, but this happened to me. During my rehearsal dinner my boss called to say that our entire office staff had quit that afternoon. He demanded to know if I was going with them. If not, I needed to be in the office on Monday. Not only did he not take no for an answer, but he tried to throw the new office keys into my bouquet as I was walking down the isle the next day. Needless to say, I had to cancel my honeymoon and show up on Monday. I worked 12-15 hour days for months trying to straighten out all the problems the girls had left behind. It eventually led to the end of my marriage. To this day I still regret missing my honeymoon. I would never make that mistake again. On the other hand, it was a definite sign as to how the marriage would go and should never have married him in the first place.
geebers geebers 9 years
No job in the world is so vital they cannot find coverage unless you are the only person in the world who can do it. Even doctors can go on vacations and have on-call covering MDs so in my opinion there is absolutely no reason to be expected to do work on a day you prepared for and gave them advance notice for. I would not answer.
MandeeLei MandeeLei 9 years
Yeah I'm sorry but on that day I didn't have a clue where my cell phone was and let me tell you I did not care! I had so much on my mind and my boss knew that well in advance, and was extremely understanding. I simply could not work in an environment that asked me to make emergencies even on one of the most special days of my life. Family is a number one priority to me.
rosey_y rosey_y 9 years
I'd answer. I'll be getting married out of town so luckily I wouldn't be able to go into the office anyway, but I really, really doubt they'd ask that of me. I'm a corporate accountant so these things do come up, but I'm also not senior enough to be irreplaceable in 99% of conceivable situations. Nothing that can't be resolved with a short phone call anyway, especially if I left everything in order before taking leave. I think it's a bit off to ignore the call. It'd probably just be some small thing - it might take you 30 seconds to resolve, but what if not doing so causes a real hassle to your boss? Yes, it's Your Big Day, but the whole world doesn't stop for it. Answer, even if just to politely explain that you're simply not able to deal with any work problems today.
murdock99tx murdock99tx 9 years
I would probably answer it on my wedding day. But not my wedding _night_. LOL
tulipsaki tulipsaki 9 years
I wouldn't answer. As a lawyer, I know it's likely I'd be called if I worked in a firm (luckily, I don't) because that's what lawyers in firms do to junior attorneys and support staff and then they all laugh about it afterwards. I'd basically let it go to voicemail which ought to have a message saying I'm unavailable because I'm getting married and off to an undisclosed place for the honeymoon. I'd also give names of people to contact while I'm away.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
I wouldn't even think about answering the phone!!!
gigill gigill 9 years
I would be too busy to even ignore the call even, let alone answer it.
freegracefrom freegracefrom 9 years
I'm incredulous that someone would actually demand that of anyone! Unbelievable! Forget being afraid that you'll lose your job... they should be concerned that they just lost YOU as an employee! Unless I happen to be some sort of highly skilled and irreplacable surgeon, I'm not answering my phone on that day.
graylen graylen 9 years
I wish my design firm didn't have graphic design emergencies... we have them all the time! My boss wouldn't call on my wedding day, though.
Mintie Mintie 9 years
I had a boss who would do something like that just because she was a b*tch... I would have told her to EFF off... My current boss wouldn't dream of it. He'd figure it out without me.
phatE phatE 9 years
i would laugh, and then quit.. i am 25 years old. what the hell do i know how to do that my boss doesn't? if i actually answered it, i would also let her know i will be needing a raise since apparently, i am highly skilled, and in high demand.
Meike Meike 9 years
Sorry, I don't care what company you work for or how much money you are making because a boss like that can go screw it. No job is worth that kind of attention on a day as special as a wedding day. A great boss, if they're not already attending your wedding, would not even think to plague a bride or groom with work details. I would hope my supervisor possess some level of competence if I left her all the work and material needed to cover 2 weeks and well-written instructions.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I wouldn't answer the phone under any circumstances.
dkaanoi dkaanoi 9 years
Umm.. HELLO!! We have voicemail for a reason Id let it go to voicemail then listen to it later. Its my WEDDING DAY.. Unless someone has died, or any other life threatening disaster is happening im not returning any work calls!
sparklemeetspop sparklemeetspop 9 years
I honestly don't know if I would answer a work call on my wedding day. I probably would because I'm nice. Like pp, I would hope they could figure out how to get something done.
tiff58 tiff58 9 years
I would answer because I LOVE my boss, but he would never even call me on my wedding day- unless it was to ask directions to the church!
linb linb 9 years
Luckily I don't think this would ever happen to me. I'm a graphic designer. I'm having a hard time imagining a "graphic design emergency".
KathleenxCouture KathleenxCouture 9 years
HAHAHAH If this happened I would probably answer the phone (that is if I actually had time to answer it for someone other than my wedding party of the planners) JUST to say "Go F&^% Yourself" because why and who in the world would someone call on someone elses wedding day knowing FULL well that they are getting married and will not have time for work crap. Yuck, some people are so ignorant.
Renees3 Renees3 9 years
This sort of happened to my mom. She was brand new at the post office and had a HORRIBLE supervisor (she has since been fired). They made my mom come in early and case mail for other carriers because they were going to be short. She was scared she'd be fired if she said no (this lady had basically done that to others before) so she went in a 4am so put up mail. poor momma
verily verily 9 years
That would earn a verbal "F U!" from me as I stared at the caller ID. I would not pick up.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
i wouldn't touch the phone either! i would wait for the voicemail and listen later on ;)
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 9 years
I wouldn't answer the phone. But it wouldn't matter because my boss would never, EVER do this.
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
Oooo bella good point! That would be fun! ;)
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 9 years
if he kept calling i'd answer it and tell him to call someone else or figure it out some way. if he's my boss he should know more about than i do!!
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