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When It Comes to Dating, Does Profession Matter?

I have a friend who loves kids and teaches first grade. She met this guy at a cafe, and even though she wasn't really attracted to him physically, she went on a date with him anyway as soon as she found out he was a teacher, too. Often dating someone you share passions with (as compared to dating someone because of their cute butt), can make for a more lasting relationship, and in this specific circumstance, it did!

So what about you? Do you date people based on their professions? Are there certain careers that you're attracted to, like artists or doctors? Are there certain professions that you view as red flags? Or does a person's job not really matter to you when it comes to dating?


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Korsgal Korsgal 9 years
As long as he has a job and he's passionate about his career
geekygirl geekygirl 9 years
I'm a teacher and I would never date a teacher. My reasons are based on observations of teacher/teacher couples. > too easy to disagree on how each other handled a particular situation and have a fight that gets out of hand > if one person is lazy/does the minimum they can't understand why the other person puts in extra effort (and vice versa) and gets jealous/insecure > if you work in the same school, you see each other WAY too much and know way too much about each other > and my final generalisation, most of the male teachers i've worked with are idiots (either in all aspects of their lives or just socially). don't flame me on this last one, it's just my observations.
tee0206 tee0206 9 years
No musicians for me. I know that's odd because so many women love them. However, I happen to live in a city FULL of aspiring rock gods, which usually translates to servers/bartenders with occasional music gigs. In this situation, the appeal of the sensitive, guitar playing, song writing, shaggy haired guy is completely lost.
thegiraffe thegiraffe 9 years
girlfriday, I am stunned at how you've put my thoughts into words. The day might just come that you find the guy who reads your mind, has a heart and pushes all your buttons, in short, has the X factor, but who might not match the factual image you conjured up all these years. When that day comes, can you refuse him? Life's too short for that.
alphaxigirl07 alphaxigirl07 9 years
although it does not matter to me (much) what profession someone is in, i would have to say that i tend to go for guys who will not/are not in the same profession as i am. one teacher is enough in a relationship! i would hate having another one and discussing teaching and education all the time. i'd rather just discuss this with my colleuges and leave work at work. i think it is more interesting to hear about a completely different line of work. plus someone from the "outside" can give you good ideas for your profession that you may have not thought of on your own before. the only time i think someone's profession would bother me to the pt of not dating them would be if it was some weird profession, but the typical ones i would not mind at all.
mlen mlen 9 years
now that i am older i feel a job does matter. fresh out of college i had no problems dating the waiter/bartender or construction worker but now i need someone with some ambition. if the construction worker is working on opening his own company, then that would be ok or if the bartender also owned the bar, then ok. but i am edging towards the stage of life where i am going to want a stable family and a good job for both me and my (future) husband is part of that. plus just that ambition in someone to succeed is attractive to me
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
that's a sweet story though =)
UrbanBohemian UrbanBohemian 9 years
Yes...but it doesn't rank higher than character for me.
kaenai kaenai 9 years
I don't want to marry a rodeo clown, if that's what you mean... But as long as the job's hours are compatible with our home life (no extremely long hours, etc.), then I don't see a problem. The UPS guy is kinda cute... :D
sabrinaland sabrinaland 9 years
I am starting to be a little wary of dating musicians. I've dated two and they were both pretty lazy. I'm not saying all musicians are lazy, just the ones that I meet! For some reason I tend to go for men who did not go to college or who dropped out - I seem to be attracted to people who do their own thing and don't follow "the rules." I should probably date an architect or something because I have a master's degree too (whatever), but right now I'm crushing big time on the Purolator courier guy who somes into my office every day because he is just so nice and normal compared to most people I meet during the day! I don't care what someone does for a living, just as long as they are happy and make enough money to support themselves.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 9 years
I agree with other posters in that it's more important to me that my S.O. actually HAS a job... that being said, I do find that I'm more attracted to men with "nerdy" professions (my fiance is a programmer). That's probably because my mind does not work that way (I'm a writer), and also it's a turn on for me when my guy does a bunch of techy stuff. lol!
shanimalcracker shanimalcracker 9 years
I have to admit, I am very picky about profession, as well as education. I just can't see myself being with someone who has an occupation that doesn't require education or a lot of skill. As superficial as it sounds, looking good on paper is important to me although personality is definitely the first thing I look for.
ElizabethRae ElizabethRae 9 years
Everybody is hating on accountants!!! I love my accountant hubby!!!! :love: As far as the question goes, I got married to my college sweetheart, so I didn't date in the working world. Ambition was more important to me than major or projected profession though.
emalove emalove 9 years
They have to have a steady job and some ambition...I like a man with goals and a good work ethic. It doesn't matter too much what the profession is.
LadyAngel89 LadyAngel89 9 years
Profession never really mattered to me, but unemployed means a big deal! And oh, do I love a man in uniform :)
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
As long as he HAS a job...
girlfriday girlfriday 9 years
I have to admit that I've been guilty of being prejudiced about someone's job and education. It was, in the past, hard for me to even think about dating someone who didn't go to college, let alone have a graduate degree, and didn't have a white-collar job. It wasn't about money, not at all, rather I just assumed he couldn't possibly have the same world view as I do. But I have been making an effort over the last few years to be more open minded and less elitist because I think someone can be incredibly intelligent and just not have the degree or mainstream professional job. And plus, I think life's too short to miss out on any chance for real, deep love.
indielove indielove 9 years
I agree with hotstuff but I'd would actually prefer that my future husband make as much, if mot more money than I do. I don't want to have to deal with some power struggle when it comes to finances and also, like Shopaholic Hunny does not pay the bills. Although, money is not that important to me but I'd greatly prefer if we match up with some things that we bring to the table. I do believe that if two people are truly committed to each other, they can accomplish ANYTHING together.
Meike Meike 9 years
I love brilliant programmer/engineering/mathematician nerd minds, most likely because I have one of my own. There are several little sites that blurb about the great characteristics an engineer nerd boyfriend possess. They ring true in my relationship.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
I agree with almost famous! :) He better have at least some type of job with decent pay and having a degree is a BIG plus. Education is important to me. My mom taught me that LOVE does NOT pay the bills. :) haha
LittleLady12 LittleLady12 9 years
Well, I wouldn't say I date someone BASED on their profession. But, I will find myself much more attracted to a guy if I find out he's a writer or an artist or a photographer or something, as opposed to a lawyer or accountant. (Not that being a lawyer or an accountant will turn me off, though! It just won't turn me on. Wink wink.)
jJuliet jJuliet 9 years
I'm a scientist, and I tend to go for the scientist/engineering type who keeps his mind sharp as part of his work. I definitely like the people I date to be as least as smart as I am so we can have intelligent conversations. It's not necessarily "raw intelligence" that I look for, but someone who loves learning and thinking, reads the news, etc.
divinelight divinelight 9 years
Apparently, I didn't even pay attention to my guy until I found out we had the same major. We were around each other quite a bit because of mutual friends, and he tells me I barely spoke or looked at him before he said what is studying. And the second he said it, my eyes lit up and I wouldn't stop talking to him. I barely even remember this.
javsmav javsmav 9 years
I probably wouldn't date a lawyer again. I spend too much time around them (between work & law school friends) so it's nice to come home to someone who doesn't know and really doesn't care what I do at work. I mean interesting and frustrating stories can be shared, but I really don't want to discuss the merits of an argument (or if I do, I always win b/c he doesn't know what he's talking about). Besides, I'm competitive and it's easier to compare success in the same career, which shouldn't matter, but it does.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 9 years
glowingmoon-I totally agree. Accountant usually have very "type A" personalities. My mom dated an accountant for a while, and he was all about making money..that was his main priority, along with that came a certain lack of interest/compassion for other people
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